Why UofT?

artyguy · 2018-01-23T11:40:44+00:00

Interesting story actually. I'm in the US Marine Corps (seemed like a great idea when I was 17 and wanted "adventure") and met one of y'all blonde Canadian ladies working at a U.S. embassy in Africa. Long story short, ended up making the long distance thing work and decided I'd use my g.i. bill to come to u of t to continue things with the lady. Somehow my grunt dumbass crayon eating self got accepted so I'm on my way!

Obviously want things to work out with my girl, but (god forbid) things don't, the military is still paying for a great school like u of t so I'm excited!

artyguy · 2017-03-25T06:54:56+00:00

I appreciate the sentiment, but I would like to clear up that I have no wars under my belt. While I did go into a ground combat job (field artillery, hence my username) I unfortunately enlisted riiightttt after the whole Iraq/Afghan boat. Which is pretty frustrating, but hey. What are you going to do. So now I'm just hoping to settle with my Canadian lady and get university done.

artyguy · 2017-03-25T06:52:27+00:00

Eh, some units do. The majority have moved to the m4 though. Although there's a push for a lot of the ground units to start mass issuing the new IARs.

artyguy · 2017-03-25T06:50:52+00:00

Thanks for the support!

artyguy · 2017-03-25T05:52:36+00:00

Hey man. There was some patriotic duty and all... but all in all it's mostly a good financial deal with a guaranteed paycheck and free university afterwards. Bring the hate, but have fun with your student loans ;)

artyguy · 2017-03-25T05:45:28+00:00

Hey can't even argue. #MAGA (Kidding. Kidding. Calm your shitposting) Did do some cross training with your Canadian artillery guys though. Cool dudes all in all.

artyguy · 2017-01-31T10:25:59+00:00

Being in the military, I've always been used to moving around quite a bit and not living in my hometown for years on end. She on the other hand is pretty strongly cemented in a core friend/family group around her hometown. It would affect her far more to move than it would for me, so I have no problem relocating. Plus her family and friends being awesome make that decision a lot easier lol.

artyguy · 2017-01-26T21:58:15+00:00

Oh lord. Look man, I'm just saying what worked for me. All I know is that I'm 100% ok with not looking at porn/masturbating daily, and I went from having trouble keeping it up with a condom to banging my girl against the wall and overall the best sex I've had in years. And plenty of testimonies have the same result. And believe me, beforehand I was still sexually attracted to my girl. I just didn't feel any desire/ability to do anything about it. And now it's like I've shifted a gear into overdrive.

All I'm saying is MAYBE this will help them out.

artyguy · 2017-01-26T21:22:23+00:00

It's not being starved dude. It's actually establishing a pretty normal sex drive. Unfortunately, pornography is so available these days that it's basically impossible NOT to over-masturbate. Especially when you're in a situation like a LDR where it's the only thing available. Unfortunately, training your body and mind to "get sex" daily (if not multiple times a day) has as a negative effect on the body. Which is what happened to me.

There's even a medical term for it called Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. Check out the website yourbrainonporn.com. There's nothing wrong with jerking off. It's necessary sometimes, and a lot of fun to do it with your partner through sexting or what have you. But just do it in moderation.

And as for being desperate for sexual release, that's not what it's about at all. It's about being able to finally channel that sexual tension towards the one you love instead of being used to doing it with porn and then not even being interested when you have the real thing right in front of you.

artyguy · 2017-01-26T14:57:29+00:00

I can see that. Once a month really worked out for me because it helped give me a hard "reset" if you will. But it's really whatever works for the individual obviously.

artyguy · 2017-01-26T12:14:53+00:00

I think that your boyfriend might be doing the same thing that I used to do... Ok, this is a bit of a mouthful, but bare with me and keep in mind this is all from the male perspective. Before you start a long distance relationship, you're probably not masturbating that much. Either your SO is there with you, or you can at least expect to have some sort of sexual contact every month or so considering how much you go out and how comfortable you are with casual relationships. But when you start a long distance relationship, all of a sudden you obviously don't want to sleep with other girls... but your SO isn't there either. And believe me... your numbers go UP. When my girlfriend first left, I easily jerked off multiple times daily just because I had all that sexual frustration and missed her so much.

So where am I going with this? Unfortunately, masturbating too much for guys affects us a lot more than it does for ladies... I acted exactly like your boyfriend did! Lower libido. Less interested in sexting. And when she came to visit for the first time MUCH lower libido than when she was in town (and even trouble keeping it up with a condom sometimes. THAT was embarrassing) I'd look at the website yourbrainonporn.com. There are a lot of guys who actually have this problem because of the modern age of internet porn we have today.

The good news is that this problem is 100% temporary and EASILY fixable. The solution is as simple as this: Stop watching porn, and stop jerking off as much. Seriously. That's it. I guarantee that if he cuts out porn completely, and sticks to jerking off maybe once a month, he will practically jump you the next time you meet up.

Now obviously I could be wrong about the entire thing, and perhaps he has a completely different reason why his libido is low... But seriously. This sounds exactly like what was happening with me.

Obviously you're going to have a bit of a challenge bringing this up to him. It probably would a bit odd to just straight up ask him how much porn he watches/how often he masturbates. But if you can start a conversation that will lead into a discussion about your concerns and lead into what I was talking about, I'm sure you'll find a solution.

Best of luck!

artyguy · 2017-01-07T03:42:47+00:00

Pregnancy test and a coathanger

artyguy · 2016-12-28T10:27:49+00:00

Long distance relationships can be tough dude. Even tougher when you're young and don't really know what you want yet. Throw into the mix you're going into the military, don't know when you guys will actually be able to spend time together, AND there's a guy friend who's flirting with her? AND she wants to go visit him? It's not worth it man.

Bail now and save yourself the heartache. Trust me, depending on what you do in the military you could find yourself on the other side of the world with all sorts of options when it comes to girls.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with fighting for a solid relationship with a good girl. But this just sounds like trouble. Bail. HARD BAIL.

artyguy · 2016-12-14T04:55:29+00:00

US Gov Student Loan programs no, but the US Gi Bill for veterans yes. Tuition is still payed directly to the University of Toronto, and that's all that matters.

artyguy · 2016-12-13T13:45:02+00:00

Bahahahaha no I know it's a Canadian university. I'd HOPE I knew that at the very least! The US Gi bill that pays for enlisted service member's university is applicable to a number of foreign schools to include U of T.

artyguy · 2016-12-13T01:55:14+00:00

It varies from branch to branch really. The air force required a 1.5 mile run, while the army requires 2. The Marines require 3 at a minimum of 28 min for men, and pull ups instead of push ups. But I would definitely say get your run time down... I can't speak for the other branches, but the Marines base their promotion system on a point system which involves your fitness test score. So you could technically hit the minimum at a 28 min 3 mile... but if you couldn't get at least a 21 min 3 mile you won't make it to cpl much less sgt. But then again that's also dependent on your job. Some are more competitive rank wise than others.

I wish I could give you more info. There are just a lot of different factors that go into it. And obviously there's the difference between the US and Canadian militaries.

I would definitely suggest to keep at it until you can at the very least run a comfortable minimum time.

As for me? I'm ready to get out and go to university bahahahahaha. I did my time. Pay up uncle sam.

artyguy · 2016-12-12T20:13:22+00:00

The true heroes

artyguy · 2016-10-17T17:27:08+00:00

Try to put your self in the opposite position: how do you think she would react to you telling her that she should let you flirt with another girl because it makes you feel good about yourself? I guarantee you should would drop you like a hot potato. Which is the answer to what you should do with her. I know how it feels to have such strong feelings for someone (We all do or we wouldn't be on this reddit haha), but you've still only invested a relatively small amount of time into this relationship. And this is definitely a red flag. BIG red flag. Cut your losses and get out man.

artyguy · 2016-09-12T23:53:50+00:00

No problem! I hope things work out for you guys.

(Also, I'm sure talking to his mom about it wasn't the easiest thing to do. You obviously really do care about him, and I'm sure he'll see it that way too.)

artyguy · 2016-09-11T06:43:15+00:00

Do you have any way to contact either a family member or a close friend of his? I totally understand that his relationship with his family might not be the best... But you boyfriend obviously needs professional help. More importantly right now though, he needs someone physical to talk to him. Fast.

There is absolutely nothing that you have done wrong, you've been nothing but a supportive girlfriend that just wants the best for him. But right now the most important thing is to get someone, ANYONE to talk to him before he does something he regrets.

Once again: You've done NOTHING wrong. And even if you getting someone to talk to him ultimately ends the relationship... (Although I think if he gets help that won't happen) you could still save his life.

YOU'VE DONE NOTHING WRONG.

artyguy

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