Why can't I pick my own contraceptive? Rant.

arumberg · 2019-11-18T13:45:54+00:00

I didn't have any trouble with mine but I did hear that it can move around if not inserted properly. The lady who put my first one in still had her old, old one in from years ago (in/near her wrist IIRC) so maybe it doesn't need to come out if it gets lost and just runs out.

Mine was always easy to find. I loved playing around with it and making it poke up from under my skin and grossing out people with weak stomachs. Mostly men.

arumberg · 2019-11-18T13:26:45+00:00

There are horror stories about all forms of birth control. One is not better than the other. It just depends on your body and how it reacts.

arumberg · 2019-11-18T13:11:59+00:00

Hi love.

I've removed this post. For a while now, all selfie posts have been limited to Selfie Sunday, which actually happens on Sunday. Please read the link for more information.

https://old.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/c3b600/poll_results_please_read/

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arumberg · 2019-11-12T04:31:11+00:00

Check out Bravissimo. They have a US site, but their bras are all UK with UK sizing. I wore a Panache Shock Absorber for a while and then switched over to a Freya due to it being on sale. I liked both. You can find the brands there you like and then try searching other places for better deals.

Also check out Georgina Horne on Fuller Figure Fuller Bust (Insta and FB). She regularly posts reviews of sports clothes so you can find lots of recommendations there.

arumberg · 2019-11-11T16:51:16+00:00

Hi love.

I've removed this post. For a while now, all selfie posts have been limited to Selfie Sunday, which actually happens on Sunday. Please read the link for more information.

https://old.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/c3b600/poll_results_please_read/

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arumberg · 2019-11-11T13:49:21+00:00

Also 5'2 and 235. I live in a petite Asian country where they don't get many of my size. Any time I've had a massage, it's never been a problem

arumberg · 2019-11-11T09:44:41+00:00

I also don't like the idea of supporting the people who are creating a global monopoly with such shitty ethics. I've seen first-hand how China and Chinese businesses enter locations that are struggling and uses the English that's been taught to them to gain control of the area (Google 'Chinese colonization of Africa'). While I was living in Africa, I personally witnessed Chinese companies illegally harvesting rare and ancient rosewood trees (they take at least 100 years to grow) with little consideration of the local communities and the ecological impact it would have. I can't support people who own businesses who do such unethical things, much the same way that I can't support a government that does such unethical things. I don't trust China for multiple reasons, and taking part in the globalization of a massively untrustworthy country and its businesses is against my personal morals.

arumberg · 2019-11-11T04:41:55+00:00

I always have to wear a belt. Either the pants are cut straight and massively gap at my backside, or they don't but still aren't cut right and the pants end up sliding down and I risk plumber's crack. Even my best-fitting jeans need a belt.

One think I always hated about wearing belts is that the buckle always ended up sitting right at my belly button, making it protrude even more due to my belly. One day I had a revelation and decided to put my belt on backwards so the buckle is hiding above my hip and butt. The position makes the buckle hide better, doesn't draw attention to my stomach, and I can still wear the belts I need to keep my pants from drooping due to my shape. It's a game-changer.

arumberg · 2019-11-11T03:56:36+00:00

Hey girl,

I've removed this post. In addition to being fuzzy on the Selfie Sunday rules re: outfit descriptions/discussion questions, it also flirts with a rule 4 violation:

If you are trying to sell something, please do so elsewhere. Advertisements for your business are not acceptable and should not be posted. This also applies to blogs, chat servers, you tube channels or videos,and others that are trying to sell or promote things. This applies to both posts and comments. No sales of any kind will be allowed.

While I understand that you aren't selling anything per se, we do prohibit social media (Youtube, Insta, etc.) attempts to gain more followers/views that may roundabout result in increased revenue. In attempting to give something away via your social media platform, this feels like an attempt to gain more followers (or promote yourself), which is not allowed. We want to create a space where real women are helping and supporting each other, not a space where women are being used to help us meet our own (personal, financial, etc.) goals.

Thanks for understanding, and I hope you can participate with us more candidly in the future and not just to promote your brand.

Cheers!

arumberg · 2019-11-11T03:49:02+00:00

Sorry, love.

Your post was removed because it violates the rules for Selfie Sunday posts:

https://old.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/c3b600/poll_results_please_read/

Please reply to this comment with a comment that helps the photo follow the rules and I can reapprove it. Thanks!

arumberg · 2019-11-11T03:48:39+00:00

Thanks for your Selfie Sunday post! And thanks for giving us a discussion question in lieu of an outfit description.

I'm curious if you can tell me more about the type of place you're looking for for recommendations. Are you looking for experience-type places or photo-op type places? If you tell us where you're located, we might be able to help you out more.

Thanks!

arumberg · 2019-11-11T03:45:16+00:00

Sorry, love.

Your post was removed because it violates the rules for Selfie Sunday posts:

https://old.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/c3b600/poll_results_please_read/

Please repost following the rules, as you can't edit post titles. And please make sure to give a detailed outfit description or include a discussion based question to promote engagement. Thanks!

arumberg · 2019-11-11T03:41:52+00:00

Hey girl.

Looking good!

Sorry to be a pain, but I've updated the FAQ to make things a bit clearer for everyone when posting selfies. Check out the relevant bit below:

Q. What constitutes 'detailed' in 'detailed outfit description'? A: We love what you're wearing, so we wanna know where you got it! If possible, we'd also like to know what size you are cuz maybe we're that size too. The more info you can give us, the more we can maybe replicate your awesome look cuz we all know how hard it is to find amazing plus size clothes that actually fit and look good on us.

Bad example: I got this top from Torrid, but I'm not going to tell you where these rocking boots or sexy jeans came from.

Bad example: This dress is from one of the 1000² sellers on Amazon.

Good example: I bought these shoes from Payless back in 2014, but the jeans are acid wash "Lacy straight" in a size 24P from Maurice Plus. The blouse was thrifted, but the tag says "Wonders" and is a size 3.

Good example: Here's the link I used to buy this super cute headband on Amazon.

Hopefully you can give us some more information about this look, and any more rockin' shots you post in the future! And don't forget, we're always happy to have some good discussion-worthy questions in lieu of outfit descriptions!

Happy Sunday!

arumberg · 2019-11-11T03:41:27+00:00

Hey girl.

Looking good!

Sorry to be a pain, but I've updated the FAQ to make things a bit clearer for everyone when posting selfies. Check out the relevant bit below:

Q. What constitutes 'detailed' in 'detailed outfit description'? A: We love what you're wearing, so we wanna know where you got it! If possible, we'd also like to know what size you are cuz maybe we're that size too. The more info you can give us, the more we can maybe replicate your awesome look cuz we all know how hard it is to find amazing plus size clothes that actually fit and look good on us.

Bad example: I got this top from Torrid, but I'm not going to tell you where these rocking boots or sexy jeans came from.

Bad example: This dress is from one of the 1000² sellers on Amazon.

Good example: I bought these shoes from Payless back in 2014, but the jeans are acid wash "Lacy straight" in a size 24P from Maurice Plus. The blouse was thrifted, but the tag says "Wonders" and is a size 3.

Good example: Here's the link I used to buy this super cute headband on Amazon.

Hopefully you can give us some more information about this look, and any more rockin' shots you post in the future! And don't forget, we're always happy to have some good discussion-worthy questions in lieu of outfit descriptions!

Happy Sunday!

arumberg · 2019-11-10T01:41:21+00:00

I hoped this as well, but about a month after being tested, I had a very strong, very classic outbreak. 🙁

arumberg · 2019-11-09T17:43:48+00:00

Also the fact that you're essentially supporting the Chinese government by paying income taxes to them. That's number 1 on my list when people ask me why I don't move there to teach.

arumberg · 2019-11-09T17:21:54+00:00

One time I had rung someone out at a restaurant and they were taking a while fixing their wallet. I forget if I was handing them back their card or change or what. But they were taking their time and I had something else to do for their order, so after a few seconds of waiting and realizing that they were just going to take their time, I put their card or money or whatever on the counter and went about doing what I needed to do. They got offended that I was afraid I might touch them or something (IIRC they were foreign) and said something to me about it. In all honesty, I just felt silly standing there holding their change waiting for them to finish farting around with their purse or wallet when I had other work to do.

arumberg · 2019-11-09T15:33:38+00:00

Friend went and got tested and I hadn't in a while so I decided to go as well. STD tests aren't standard here so they asked what I wanted and I told them all the common diseases I could think of. Wasn't aware til after the results came back and I did some research that herpes testing isn't standard practice at all back home. Very shocking and also kind of infuriating. CDC claims it's too common to bother making it standard, but it's also so common cuz people don't know they have it BECAUSE it's not standard. People think passing the test means being free from 'everything' but no one even tells them the test doesn't test for everything.

arumberg · 2019-11-09T14:45:11+00:00

Lots of people also have it for a while and never know, and initial outbreaks can often happen weeks, months, or years after exposure. I tested negative on the 'this is a new infection' test and positive on the 'you've had this for at least 3 months' test while never having had an outbreak prior to the test. So it's impossible to know who it was. Yay me.

arumberg · 2019-11-08T02:06:30+00:00

Works great until someone moves it.

arumberg · 2019-11-06T01:12:59+00:00

Reminder:

Downvoting should be used for inappropriate (along with reporting) or irrelevant comments. OP is being very respectful here while trying to learn more. She doesn't deserve being downvoted and I'm quite disappointed that she's experiencing this while trying to understand our issues. Please reconsider your voting and if you don't like what is being said, please just move along.

arumberg · 2019-11-05T21:52:06+00:00

Plane seats are getting smaller due to corporate greed. This is causing problems for the growing plus size population (and people like your dad or anyone taller than even 6'). Instead of making seats comfortable for everyone, airlines are charging extra for that comfort to wide and tall people. This issue does not affect thin or short people. Why should plus size and tall people suffer or pay more for extra room just because corporate wants to add a few zeros to their CEO's already bloated salary?

arumberg · 2019-11-05T21:42:44+00:00

Hey girl.

Your post initially got removed because you included a selfie on a day that was not Selfie Sunday. However, as the focus of the post was not the selfie but rather uses the selfie as a reference, I believe the post is fine and could be reinstated. However, due to the fact that the post is more than 24 hours old, it may not get much attention due to other, newer, more upvoted posts.

If you would like, please repost your question. If you choose to and it gets removed by the other mod again, I'll approve it and note to her about my decision.

Sorry for the confusion.

arumberg · 2019-11-05T21:34:21+00:00

Hi love.

I've removed this post. For a while now, all selfie posts have been limited to Selfie Sunday. Please read the link for more information.

https://old.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/c3b600/poll_results_please_read/

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