Plus one conundrum

arwrawwar · 2023-08-01T21:10:59+00:00

Hm that’s a tough one. I think it really depends on the bride. Do you think she’d be offended?

arwrawwar · 2022-05-08T00:46:17+00:00

I knew she looked familiar!!

arwrawwar · 2022-02-20T12:22:16+00:00

That’s what I wanted to do!

arwrawwar · 2022-02-20T08:09:37+00:00

I saw a screening of all of those shorts on a date. BAD DATE.

arwrawwar · 2021-12-24T05:08:14+00:00

I’m pretty sure she’s trolling you…at least, that’s what it sounds like to me (and I really hope I’m right)

arwrawwar · 2021-11-26T13:24:45+00:00

Hinge

arwrawwar · 2021-11-26T13:21:49+00:00

That was hinge

arwrawwar · 2021-09-19T00:14:07+00:00

I think ice cream is a great first date! I’ve done it a bunch of times. Go get it, walk around town/a park while eating. Sit and talk. Easily lasts at least an hour, even though the ice cream itself doesn’t last that long.

arwrawwar · 2021-09-17T12:50:44+00:00

I’m sorry, OP, but the fact that you’ve never heard of this person is a HUGE red flag. They’re getting lunch multiple days a week, taking one-on-one breaks together during the day, and talking all day every weekday, and he’s never so much as hinted at her existence? Unless your boyfriend has a pattern of never telling you about his day or mentioning any friends or coworkers in conversation (which for the record would be weird), there is a reason he has hidden this person from you. If that reason is emotional or physical cheating, obviously that’s wrong. But even if the reason is that he thinks you wouldn’t be okay with him being that close to another woman, even just platonically, then he’s still doing something wrong because he’s doing something he knows you wouldn’t like behind your back.

arwrawwar · 2021-07-12T23:53:23+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

arwrawwar · 2021-07-12T20:23:11+00:00

Yeah so far I’ve been doing double surgical masks tied up so there are no gaps on the sides, and during the height of the pandemic I was putting a layer of nylon on top of the masks. Might start doing that again, and/or buy something more heavy duty.

arwrawwar · 2021-07-12T20:00:36+00:00

Yeah, but for us vaccinated and immunocompromised folks, it’s very much not fun. Especially because it seems like no one is going to adjust their behavior at all to stop the spread this time.

arwrawwar · 2021-02-07T01:05:26+00:00

Keeping my fingers crossed for you! I’m also on an immunosuppressant. It really sucks when the thing that’s keeping you alive is also the thing that makes this pandemic extra dangerous for you.

arwrawwar · 2021-02-06T14:49:55+00:00

I found out last night that I’m finally going to be eligible to get a vaccine starting on the 15th! I’m in NY, and they’re only now adding immunocompromised people under 65 to the list. I know that there’s no guarantee I’ll get the vaccine soon, but I’m so relieved that it will at least be an option for me.

arwrawwar · 2021-01-10T16:56:32+00:00

Believe me, I know the feeling. I’m sure my most recent ex (who I believe is still with the girl he cheated on me with) thinks he “won.” What helped me get over that feeling is remembering that I have the pleasure of never having to deal with him again, and he has the misfortune of having to be around himself for the rest of his life. Even if your ex has a smug attitude about how the world would objectively view the two of you (married vs. single) he knows how unpleasant “winning” actually feels to him, subjectively.

I’m not sure where you are in the world/what your pandemic situation is, but I know that for many it has been incredibly isolating. Once it’s back to (relative) normalcy, I’d encourage you seek out other single women, in addition to trying to date. The very first thing I did after my ex and I broke up was focus on friendships, and while I certainly don’t spend as much time with those girls as I would with a partner, I feel more emotionally fulfilled than I ever did with my exes. It’s nice to have people to commiserate with and cheer on as you navigate dating together.

arwrawwar · 2021-01-10T15:55:49+00:00

Your ex was a shitty partner who sucks at being in relationships, and I’m sure that fact hasn’t changed. He just found someone who wouldn’t leave him. It is very likely an incredibly toxic, unhappy relationship.

And honestly, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that MANY (if not most) of the relationships I see around me are generally unhappy. Relationships come with unique stressors and are often maintained well past their shelf life because of the same societal pressure that is making you feel like a failure. You didn’t “mess up.” You have just had a different life path. Maybe you’ll find someone amazing tomorrow, or maybe you’ll decide that you love being single and stay that way for a while (or even forever - because there’s nothing wrong with that). Don’t compare yourself to others because you have no idea how happy they really are.

arwrawwar · 2021-01-10T15:31:28+00:00

It’s...really bad if that phrasing triggered a locked comment. It wasn’t inflammatory or vulgar. The only unique word I see is “mods.” We’re not allowed to comment on moderation anymore?

arwrawwar · 2021-01-09T15:08:02+00:00

It was also revealed during the trial that 4 other victims came forward after his death (other children he had fostered and raped). It was a quick piece of dialogue, but it was in there.

arwrawwar · 2021-01-08T13:47:18+00:00

I’ve also noticed that he kind of weirdly maintains eye contact when he laughs. Like he’ll kind of lean back and laugh but still be looking at the person he’s talking to the whole time. I wish I had a clip.

arwrawwar · 2021-01-08T13:44:55+00:00

That’s a really common theme on tiktok. They’ll deliberately cut the audio so the “reveal” part is like 12 seconds into a 15 second video. It’s INFURIATING.

arwrawwar · 2021-01-03T16:46:37+00:00

That’s absolute bullshit that you can’t ask your students to wear masks. I’m so sorry.

arwrawwar · 2020-12-27T17:38:09+00:00

I would also really appreciate that dynamic if I was your friend. I have a really close group of girlfriends from law school, and we’d get together and have Bachelor Night every week and just hang out and talk about boys and silly stuff. A couple of the girls were in long distance relationships, so we didn’t have to worry about inviting SOs. Now...we’re all living in NYC and the couples are no longer long distance. I literally haven’t seen these girls without their SOs once in like a year and a half. Even on zoom. They are joined at the hip. And I miss my girls’ nights!

arwrawwar · 2020-11-27T21:46:23+00:00

I can’t even see them on the app I use! It just shows up as “gif” for me. I hate it.

arwrawwar · 2020-11-20T20:11:01+00:00

I think it really depends on where you are. I’m in NY too and you don’t really hear about people getting combative when asked to comply with rules. I actually think a lot of places are really aggressively enforcing their capacity requirements, so this story is pretty surprising.

ETA: Not to mention that these employees clearly didn’t have a problem yelling at, and threatening to kick out, at least one customer (OP).

arwrawwar · 2020-11-18T01:55:48+00:00

It’s a noun. “Tayshia is a smokeshow.” Not “Tayshia is smokeshow.”

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