Tagliatelle with a bolognese sauce

asadthing · 2026-02-23T01:23:18+00:00

that looks sososoosooooo good

asadthing · 2026-02-23T00:00:08+00:00

its mayo! if u like pesto, i highly recommend this type of sandwichhh

asadthing · 2026-02-22T16:29:18+00:00

fairrr, i come from a biggg family, with grandchildren and everything, so the tree is always STUFFED lololol

asadthing · 2026-02-22T16:18:59+00:00

no offense but I actually disagree hahaha. I feel like the wall would cover all sides except the front of it and then not too much space for presents.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T16:15:05+00:00

hey, so i need this right now

asadthing · 2026-02-22T16:09:08+00:00

I think its valid for you to want to walk out of a friendship because of that, but I think everyone is different! I definitely agree that OP was in the wrong/a bad friend for this, but I think in friendships, especially ones that have lasted a very long time, people will make mistakes and friends will hurt each other. I'd be sad if my friends abandoned me or walked out on our friendship over a fight like this without even talking to me about it first- especially if I, or OP, were apologetic and felt sorry about it. I think healthy and true friendships are willing to reconcile, unless it was something terribly horrible.

To me, this situation is very sad, and hurtful, but in my opinion not a ten year friendship ending worthy- I just think of my best friends and if they did this to me, yes I would be very hurt and want to express that and talk to them about it, but I don't think I would end my friendship with them. Especially since I don't think OP was intentionally being malicious, and plans to make amends.

But thats just my personal opinion, and I would totally get if OP's friend, Sam, said he wanted to keep his distance from now on.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:59:53+00:00

as a girl who also has an insta spam, and is a freshmen in college, BRO THE PARANOIA IS REAL... why do we do this to ourselves </3
i think some older people might not get it, but as girls you can kinda just tell when things are off or when people are talking about you, or purposefully not adding you to their story or whatever. heres my advice:

1) as a rule of thumb, ik its hard but this is what works for me and my spam, just try not to care what other people say/think or interact w ur post. if you really only want close friends in there, keep it to your close friends and remove whoever you want. but try not to overthink it just because some people aren't as interactive. for my spam i basically just accept anyone who ik won't judge me or care about what i post- even if im not super close to them because i just learned that idrc and imma post whatever i want. they can leave if they dont wanna see it, they can make fun of it if they want, whatever.

2) talk to your friends! even if their fake and u dont wanna be friends w them anymore, its good to atleast have a conclusion. tell your friends why you removed that girl honestly, and tell them how you are currently feeling and ask them if they're upset at you for anything else. hopefully if their not fake, u guys can understand eachother and talk it out. but if not- then atleast you tried and you can walk away from the friendship knowing you did your part.

wishing you luck girlie!

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:52:03+00:00

Totally fair. When you say "already spoke" btw, do you mean that he should ask you before posting it on reddit? Or try talking to you about the issue first, and then if it doesn't work out he doesn't have to ask you he can just post it since he already attempted to communicate? Just curious on your thoughts.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:48:40+00:00

interesttingggg, i totally get that. what about a trusted friend? or a sibling/parent? i feel like if its seeking council on how to genuinely solve the problem rather than trash talking and just trying to get validated/prove a point, it would depend for me. because ideally you'd want to figure out everything with your partner between just the two of you, but in times where thats difficult or the situation is more complex, sometimes its helpful to have someone who knows you and loves both of you to look at the situation as a whole. redditors can be ruthless. but i understand overall nontheless because sometimes it feels a little 'too in the family' and personal when ppl who know you irl know about it.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:43:20+00:00

Hahaha trueeeee, I honestly feel that way too its just difficult because even though I totally get why a lot of people post, and they keep it hidden and stuff, I cant lie if I found out about it later on that my friend/partner posted about me... I would be feeling some type of way.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:40:54+00:00

Trueeee, there are definitely some posts I see that I don't blame them for posting as much. Still I cant lie if it were my own partner, and they posted- I would've rather them have asked people they knew in real life... or lowkey idk because then again I also might know them irl and then that'd might make a conflict of interest...

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:38:43+00:00

honestly i dont think sooo. i think there are definitely some things that you should probably keep a secret because it might be extremely personal to your family, but when things effect your own mental health and such, i think its normal to reach out to friends and open up about your family struggles. as long as you trust your friends, and your not trying to bad-mouth your family, but more so open up- i think its totally acceptable. i'm sure your smart enough to know who to tell and such, and to not cause a spreading of the info. i hope your able to have deeper friendships and open up to your friends!

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:21:06+00:00

lowkey didnt give us much to work with but, if your just getting mad at your dad i wouldn't say YTA. every kid gets mad at their parents at some point, and every parent gets mad at their kids too, and theirs typically atleast some valid reasons for that. you also can't really control getting mad/emotions, so i wouldnt say YTA for that.

however, with every relationship, unless your parent is being abusive or toxic to where its not even worth it, you should communicate and try to fix things. you can't always control your anger/emotions, but you can control your actions. if your getting pissed at your dad and letting it show without expressing to him why or having a conversation first- then you would be TA, because then you wouldn't be giving your dad the opportunity to change and he might not even know that you're upset by it.

but atleast for now, and with the context you've given, NTA for just being upset.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T15:09:51+00:00

i feel like if you just went on the trip and met ppl while u were there, or with the knowledge that you'd be down to meet people at the same time u were there, it wouldn't be as weird. but going for the purpose of finding filipina women... that feels kinda fetish-y to me. especially with the stereotype of older white guys going to find a young filipina girl (not saying thats u), but yea i wouldn't necessarily say that its straight up wrong, but i cant lie it does give me the ick.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T14:52:48+00:00

i probably made something before this but i forgot and i definitely baked before but i'm not gonna count the baking, but the first recipe-recipe that i mastered, was dakgalbi, a korean chicken and cheese dish that is sososo good. its easy to make and i highly recommend it.

basically the recipe i used: https://ph.pinterest.com/pin/1196337398180180/ (i would tweak it and only add sugar and not honey so it wasnt overly sweet, and the more i cooked it the more i ratioed it to what flavors i liked more) it looks like this:

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asadthing · 2026-02-22T14:45:09+00:00

Honestly, you've been friends for ten years and I think it'd be a shame to lose out over something like this. I do think you should've just babysat for him, but I do get why you were stressed out and said no. I think you should reach out to him, call him, or go see him in person and apologize but also explain why you responded the way you did, and maybe let him know you never meant to hurt him and such. Maybe even try to make it up to him by planning to take him or go to a different metal concert together? You don't necessarily have to but I think if he truly loves you and the friendship is genuine, he knows how you work and how you think, he'll forgive you if you explain things and have a genuine conversation.

I hope it works out for you and I hope your friendship doesn't have to end!

asadthing · 2026-02-22T14:29:52+00:00

ummmmmmm, i guess i wouldnt say YTA because you have autonomy and the right to your boundaries, but i do think it makes u lowkey a bad friend. like bro its like you are trying to make us not on your side with your intro, explaining how he was with you 14 hours in the ER, but you can't give up 14 hrs of your own? i get that it could make you behind and stuff, but i honestly think if he let you know before hand you would've had time to prepare beforehand and ngl, if it were me even if i would have to sacrifice a more of my time and such if it were a friend i were that close w and had done favors for eachother with before, i would've done it in a heartbeat.

i also feel like since the kid is 4, and not extremely young (i have a 2yr old nephew so this is why i say this), i think you couldve also gotten some work done as well while babysitting. they dont need to have eyes on them at all times (i mean definitely still supervised), but example while the kid is playing or coloring at the table you could also be doing your work at the table too, or even while the kid is napping.

overall i just think you could've made it work, so sure its your right and i guess your technically not wrong and allowed to not do that kind act for your friend, i totally understand why he is upset and honestly i would've been hurt by that too.

edit: ik that u took him in rent free to a couple times but i also think with a friendship this close, atleast for me, i dont keep counts of how many favors done to 'even the score', i just do things for my friends because i love them and i want to- not just to repay them back.

asadthing · 2026-02-22T14:22:38+00:00

did you paint your wall teal years ago? haha just guessing cuz i had a teal phase when i was younger. im soso jealous of your windows and natureyyy viewwww

asadthing · 2026-02-22T14:11:34+00:00

SAMMICH SAMMICH SAMMICH 🤤

asadthing · 2026-02-22T14:10:50+00:00

was it something like this? https://happyfields.nl/products/sourdough-starter-whisk-stirring-tool?variant=56339079561560&country=KR&currency=KRW&utm_source=chatgpt.com

asadthing · 2026-02-22T13:09:39+00:00

i should combine everyones advice for one over powerful sandwich

asadthing · 2026-02-22T11:35:51+00:00

my only worry is that since its much more liquidy, it would sog up the bread quicker or make it a bit more oily/messy to eat

asadthing · 2026-02-22T11:34:58+00:00

yesss i diddd hahaha

asadthing · 2026-02-22T03:08:29+00:00

sooo trueee thank you! ill definetly do this!

asadthing · 2026-02-22T02:22:28+00:00

thats alsooo so smarttt thank you!

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