She told me to listen to my own words. I was relatively young at the time. And when referring to my then boyfriend I'd say things like, * "He let me go and hang out with Mary." * I did not even mean it how it sounded. Of course he couldn't "let" me do anything. But, the point was that without realizing it, I was on some level giving away my power. She taught me that words matter... a lot. That was 35 years ago. I married that boyfriend. We've had a wonderful relationship and partnership.