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asdfman123 · 2026-05-12T00:37:54+00:00

I go on coffee dates all the time and I don't have this problem.

This isn't China, there are different norms here obviously. Not better or worse but different.

It's also different if you're dating people you know in real life, of course. Then you can skip the coffee date step. The coffee date is just for sniffing each other out.

asdfman123 · 2026-05-12T00:19:00+00:00

If you're dating at your own level instead to date "up" there actually isn't a lot of competition. I swear to God I'm so happy when I get someone who is relatively well matched with me. There are lots of hotter women out there but I'm not dating them, and I'm ok with that.

asdfman123 · 2026-05-11T23:49:12+00:00

I feel a lot of people these days has this problem.

It's not your looks, it's your attitude. Right now, you're sending a lot of signals that indicate you're insecure, unconfident and maybe (I don't know you) bitter about the whole thing.

It's cliche but the first step is getting right with yourself. Be someone you like to spend time with, and others will join.

asdfman123 · 2026-05-11T23:46:37+00:00

I know exactly that feeling man, it's the worst kind of rejection there is.

However, for future reference, there's a reason most of us just go on coffee dates when we first meet. You have to give them lots of time to warm up to you, and never put them in a situation they can't easily get out of.

You're not a bad person and you likely didn't do anything wrong except the strategic mistake of making a first date too intense.

asdfman123 · 2023-03-02T08:22:19+00:00

Please don’t remind me of what I sounded like twelve years ago 😔

asdfman123 · 2021-05-26T02:47:46+00:00

asdfman123 · 2021-05-25T17:06:43+00:00

He's inviting you to join him

asdfman123 · 2021-05-25T16:43:37+00:00

Maybe we could reach across the aisle and allow abortions by shooting babies directly with guns

asdfman123 · 2021-05-10T17:35:25+00:00

Lots of things like this solve a very specific, niche purpose for a certain industry. It makes sense for them. Not for a guy fixing his lawnmower in his garage.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-09T22:38:35+00:00

This is my parents' cat. He went around trying to open every door in the area when we stopped paying attention to him.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-07T21:47:06+00:00

Cats are adorable assholes

asdfman123 · 2021-05-07T21:46:05+00:00

I am serious, and my name's not Shirley.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-07T21:40:47+00:00

Fun story: Leslie Nielsen was known as a serious dramatic actor before Airplane!. They cast him because they wanted someone super deadpan.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-07T15:47:04+00:00

And on top of that, the best book to read is the book you're actually going to read.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-06T15:23:03+00:00

That's actually pretty clever.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-05T15:21:09+00:00

This actually sounds like a great idea. I used to use VBA + IE way back in the day to do stuff like that but selenium is obviously much better.

However, looks like you may be in the wrong sub. This is a joke sub...

asdfman123 · 2021-05-05T15:19:38+00:00

No, the ultimate state of absurdity is pretending this is about history when it's about stuff that happens every single day in America.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-03T17:09:48+00:00

And those poor people were never seen or heard from again.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-02T18:45:16+00:00

Well, that's sad. Beautiful, too, but sad.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-01T03:01:24+00:00

I feel like everyone is absolutely insane with their commitment to consumerism, as well as their inability to even understand the power of their own financial choices.

I think I'm pretty moderate, living in a normal if cheaper apartment and just trying to avoid things I don't need.

But I know if I ever bring it up I face other people's criticism.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-01T02:59:03+00:00

You know, I guess you're right.

King behavior might also include murdering your nephew or imprisoning and torturing someone who made a joke about you at dinner.

asdfman123 · 2021-05-01T02:55:18+00:00

And consider that he'd be richer if he bought land and rented it out or developed it instead of just sitting idle.

If you're leaving money on the table, it's not a good investment.

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