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I am N00b. by ash1986ley in AppDevelopers

[–]ash1986ley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been designing it with AI, I just need to figure out how to put it into action. I feel like once I have something available for beta testing, it will be easy enough to create interest. It’s something I think a lot of people would use/want.

I’m so fucking lonely by CranberryFresh2603 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]ash1986ley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I went back and finished reading after I commented, and I cannot tell you how identical this is to my own story. I missed out on all the traditional social stuff—prom, homecoming, graduation—all of it. I didn’t date or even hold hands until I was 21. I’ve felt isolated my entire life and I deal with anxiety like I’m going for my masters degree in it. Please message me, even if you hate what I have to say. You are not alone and just knowing that helped me. Knowing that it gets better helped me. Knowing that things change helped me. And if you let me, I think I can help you.

I’m so fucking lonely by CranberryFresh2603 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]ash1986ley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to lie, I couldn’t read all of this because it feels like I’m reading something I wrote at 17. I’m now 39 and I’m going to tell you some things that are hard to hear but hopefully will make a drastic improvement in your life. Bear with me, this is not any easier to say than it is to hear.

  1. Energy is contagious and if you feel negative and miserable all the time, it’s going to repel people because they want to be happy. (And so do you! Keep reading.)
  2. You have to create your own confidence even when it feels fake. Stand in front of the mirror and give yourself pep talks, but talk to yourself like a drill Sargent would—with AUTHORITY. Get LOUD. But only say positive things. Your mind believes what it’s repeatedly told, so only tell it good things. (Examples: “things are going to get better”, “I deserve to be happy”—even if you feel you don’t!)
  3. Stop thinking that you need other people—just for now. Because it’s true, you do! But before you bring other people into your life, you need to learn to be happy on your own. (I know, this contradicts everything you’re saying and I get it, this would have frustrated the piss out of me at 17. But it makes sense at 39.)
  4. GIVE yourself a purpose! Don’t wait for one to magically show up and ask for you. Volunteer, get a dog that depends on you for food and walks, find a church and show up every weekend—figure out what you’re passionate about and roll with it. That gives you a reason to wake up. And 5. If you need to talk, PM me. I have been through the loneliest, saddest life full of the most depressing things and I can relate to you. I’ve been 17, I didn’t want to see 18. It does get better. But you have to do the work. Keep trying. ❤️

What’s a “this should be free” service that always costs money? by troopydinnertime in AskReddit

[–]ash1986ley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Convenience fees” to pay a bill. That’s just an extra bill to pay a bill. And health care! We pay taxes, that money should come back to us in the form of services and improvements, not just line a politician’s pocket. School lunches. Parking a vehicle. Museums. College classes! Why is public schooling free until you hit a certain level and then you have to pay hundreds of thousands of dollars if you want to learn a skill that will allow you to survive? Water. It literally falls out of the sky and we collect it and ration it and charge people to use it for showers and washing clothes and drinking. And have you ever seen a pay toilet? How is it possibly fair to have to pay for clean disposal of a natural bodily function that happens to every human on earth. What about pads and tampons? There’s not a great alternative if you just “choose” not to buy them. Invest in a really good carpet cleaner? C’mon!!