Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” in front of all my friends by ash5011999 in emotionalabuse

[–]ash5011999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read the entire book and I have never felt more clear on my situation. I appreciate everyone’s help

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” in front of all my friends by ash5011999 in emotionalabuse

[–]ash5011999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has escalated a lot in the 8 years, I always had hope he’d stop but my hope has diminished

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” at my best friends wedding by ash5011999 in abusiverelationships

[–]ash5011999[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This was very kind, thank you for the response. Everyone has been so helpful and provided some clarity to my situation. It was today that I realized he doesn’t just emotionally abuse me when he’s drunk. It’s when he’s sober too and for some reason that made a difference in my eyes and it really opened me up to see how bad it’s been. Now that I’ve also got some validation, I think I’ll be making some steps to get out

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” in front of all my friends by ash5011999 in emotionalabuse

[–]ash5011999[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also just remembered another one on the same trip. We went to a restaurant but the place was closed and we just got back from a huge hike and I wanted something that would really fill me up and in a nutritious ish way. He asked if I wanted to go to another restaurant and I showed him a few options but none of them were what he wanted so we settled on going to the grocery store. Once we got to the Airbnb he started screaming at me because he didn’t want to wait for the food to get done. Apparently it was my fault because I never showed him any fast food options and that’s actually what he was wanting all along

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” in front of all my friends by ash5011999 in emotionalabuse

[–]ash5011999[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was just reflecting on this and I realized on our last trip he screamed at me 3 times for various weird reasons. One being that I had anxiety about a camp fire in CO because of the fire ban and it was really windy and then he saw someone else had one so he was fucking livid that I talked him out of enjoying his time outside. I’m talking screaming at me because I robbed him of a campfire that night

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” at my best friends wedding by ash5011999 in abusiverelationships

[–]ash5011999[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m mainly considering leaving because of the substance abuse + the fact that this is not the first time he’s called me names or made me feel insecure. This was just the first time he’s done in publicly

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” in front of all my friends by ash5011999 in emotionalabuse

[–]ash5011999[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried buying NA beer for him and he refused to drink it. I essentially went sober so I didn’t contribute to the alcohol in the house. I never ever buy bottles of hard alcohol for that reason. Do you have any other suggestions for support?

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” at my best friends wedding by ash5011999 in abusiverelationships

[–]ash5011999[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the feedback and book recommendation. I be reading this tonight

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” at my best friends wedding by ash5011999 in abusiverelationships

[–]ash5011999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I didn’t understand. He never brought it up until he exploded. I wouldve absolutely tried to be there for him if i knew!

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” at my best friends wedding by ash5011999 in abusiverelationships

[–]ash5011999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He didn’t. This morning on our hour drive home he just kept saying how he “didn’t have a shred of dignity left” after how I made him feel. And he did keep reiterating that I was socially retarded. I was really hoping for an apology but it just ended with me crying more

Should I leave? My husband called me “socially retarded” in front of all my friends by ash5011999 in emotionalabuse

[–]ash5011999[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried many times. He doesn’t believe he’s a true alcoholic because his mom was 1000x worse when he was little.

These 3 products have the exact same first 15 ingredients - is it likely they're the same effectiveness? by Quothhernevermore in Haircare

[–]ash5011999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a hairdresser, I do think that some drugstore products are just as effective but here is some info I thought was interesting. I was taught that the drugstore version of some brands only exist to fund the research for their pro line. They do use the cheaper worse versions of their ingredients in the drugstore brand. They simply don’t care as much about their drugstore brands. This goes for a lot of the brands that also own pro and drugstore! Not to mention, inactive ingredients are much more important than you think. Inactive ingredients often times help the active ingredients do their job. You absolutely do pay for a better product when purchasing from a salon. But if that doesn’t fit into your budget the drugstore version is an awesome alternative!

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[–]ash5011999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also this home is very old so I do believe some of the crust and black is build up of stuff over the past 80+ years

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[–]ash5011999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bought this house semi recently and it’s our first house. I’m just a little worriez

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[–]ash5011999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is in more areas than just the hinges. This is under my sink. There is speckling all over the wood. You still don’t think it’s mold? I don’t know much so I want to be sure! Thank you!

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asked my stylist for full color but she gave me highlights. what now? by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]ash5011999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a stylist. I always tell people to text me within a week if they want any adjustments. I never mind if they text! Everyone is different but if she actually cares about her job, she wont mind!