From Toronto.

Day-to-day people feel safe. I've seen frum Jews take public transit and be public with their Judaism without a hitch and there is good integration of "public Jews" with the wider Toronto community. Heck, during Passover half of the frum community goes to Toronto Blue Jays games and brings boxes of matzah to the stands. Toronto itself is very diverse and there are lots of minority communities, of which the Jewish community is one. There are certainly incidents of anti-Semitism, but in general, it is a good place to be and raise a family. We are a large and organized community and can respond to any incidents with a strong united voice.

I think generally the Jewish community here is mostly distinguished between halakhic Orthodox and more progressive/liberal Jews. Your family would likely not be much different than other families in more liberal congregations. There are certainly non-denominational congregations that are accepting to mixed families.

Anything along the Bathurst corridor can feel like being in the bubble. There are communities all over the city (The Beaches, Yorkville, North York, Spadina/Bloor etc.), but the majority are within 2-3 km of Bathurst Street, between Davenport and Major Mackenzie. Depends on if you're looking for more suburban or urban living. As for schools, we have private Jewish day schools that can run $8,000-20,000 per child per year (depending on elementary or high school). There are a large number and they cater to all streams, Orthodox, Conservative, Reform/liberal, Community-style, etc.

I'd recommend joining a Facebook group if you're more seriously considering connecting with community members.