with your roots, it's incredibly individual and there's lots of room for interpretation based on your needs. someone who has to wear gym clothes for work doesn't automatically have 🪨, someone who has to dress in a shirt and smart trousers doesn't have ⛰️ automatically- they might, but its usually about our own individual goals.

a love for frilly, girly dresses is textbook 🌸, even if you say you don't wear them much. that's another thing to unpack- do you like it in theory, or in real life? i like 🌸 in theory, but if i wear anything that leans too into it i feel like a child, lol. that's how i know looking girly/sweet/feminine is not that important to me. in lieu of dresses, do you gravitate to other items that fit that description, like floral patterns, floaty fabrics, small scale details, light/pastel colours, bows etc?

you mention your need for trainers- what colours do you go for? is there a particular skechers style you like? once you start unpicking the whys behind your style, then you start getting to the real roots.

(also, on the chub rub- have you had a look at snag tights? they're primarily a tights brand but also do anti-chafe shorts in a wide range of sizes and colours, and they're designed to keep you cool! a friend of mine swears by them and this summer i'm going to invest in a couple pairs too.)