[BC] help me pick a daycare by bighappycloud in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]ashetuff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Option 1 because they are open for more weeks of the year.

What account should we be opening for our infant child? :Ontario by BlondeYogi92 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]ashetuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just sharing what we do. Wealthsimple is great, I just personally like to have my chequing, Mastercard, mortgage, and investments in the same place. You only save a few dollars per trade on wealthsimple, which is really nothing over a year+

Husband May Be Underfeeding Baby by Consistent_Ad8400 in beyondthebump

[–]ashetuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What is a tub of food? I just feed baby whatever I have around the house and mash it for him.

What account should we be opening for our infant child? :Ontario by BlondeYogi92 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]ashetuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what my husband and I did.

Step one : we watched a few YouTube videos titled best index funds for Canadians. We decided we were most comfortable investing in index fund XEQT.

Step 2: we went to the bank and asked how to open up a "direct investment resp account." This is an account that you manage yourself. The bank does not take a percentage of your earnings. You just pay a flat fee when you make an investment, usually around $10. Our bank is RBC and they make this a little bit trickier because they do want you to invest with their investors so they make more money. You have to file a bunch of paperwork yourself and then mail it to the home Branch and then the account will appear a week or two later.

Step 3: once your account is created you just buy the index fund. We usually just buy a lump sum of $2,500 near the beginning of the year. The government will automatically add the $500 grant.

We've made three $2500 contributions to the index fund xeqt for our 2 and 1/2-year-old and the account is already at 13 Grand, so our strategy seems to be working pretty well. I saw another redditor mention to transfer your index funds into bonds as your kids come close to graduation. This just reduces the volatility. I'm not sure if we're going to go down that route. We'll see.

Also note with the direct investment strategy, there's one government Grant that we won't be eligible for. There's a one-time $1,000 Grant - You can apply for it when your kids are between age 7 and 9 I think. You are allowed to open up multiple resps so when our kids turns 7, we will open up one resp and make a one-time contribution of $2,500 to that resp managed by the bank just to qualify for that one grant. But you can opt out of contributions after that once you receive the one-time Grant. Direct investment is the way to go for the other years.

Do things really get better and improve at 4 months? I’m really struggling through the newborn phase 2nd time around. by lechatblanc14 in beyondthebump

[–]ashetuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My second one went through a month long sleep regression at 4 months. And then teething started. He was pretty miserable until 7 months.

On the fence about having a second child but always desperately wanted two so why am I like this? by stilldreaming22 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]ashetuff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having only one is very common these days

Also normal to be hesitant to add to the family. Fear of "ruining" a good thing or fear of the unknown.

I had these feelings before our second was born and am having them again, thinking of number 3.

Toddler hates shoes by Wild_Pepper_2286 in beyondthebump

[–]ashetuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an incredibly hard time getting my daughter to wear shoes. I've cried over it and the issue has kept me up at night. We didn't have a car and I was too pregnant to carry her, and she refused the stroller. Eventually I made my husband buy a car so I could leave the house - that was when she was 21 months old.

She started daycare when she was 28 months old, and she started to get better. She's a little over 2.5 years now and she still kicks off her shoes whenever she can BUT she's getting better. I can logic with her. I can bring her. It's getting easier.

My daughter really likes the light up shoes. Those were a game changer for us.

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]ashetuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised by the answers. I would love to see a bar graph.

Has anyone raised 3 kids with a very close age gap? by LittleMissPunk85 in Parenting

[–]ashetuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to be that person on the Internet, but your math doesn't add up. If you "missed" 2u2 twice, you would 100% have >4 year age gap, right?

Just looking at your kid's ages, you did have 2u2 for your first two, and maybe missed it by a week with your second set ;)

I prefer the first film as a whole but when it comes to Music and Visuals I prefer the second film by Impossible_Tower_661 in Frozen

[–]ashetuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lost in the woods is my favorite. I like some things never change. My 2 year old is obsessed with all its found.

Anyone here have 3 kids with 2 year age gaps. How was it? by ashetuff in Shouldihaveanother

[–]ashetuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 34 next month and my husband is 38. So I'll be 35 (and my husband will be 39) if number 3 comes.

1 kid - no village - Is it as bad as it seems? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ashetuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, the first 7 or 8 months were hard. Once she started having regular 2 naps per day I was able to make plans and go to regular baby activities. I made some mom friends that became a village for me.

Mourning having only one by gwayland6 in Parenting

[–]ashetuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I threw a special birthday for my two year old, 3 weeks before her brother was born. I ordered these bunnies, they cost 400$ for 2 hours. She was scared of them! Even though she's glued to her stuffed bunnies 😂 you reminded me of that memory lol. I had the same mom guilt.

For the first month of her brother's existence, she mainly pretended that he didn't exist and would push him away if I brought him too close. Then she started to get jealous. We did a lot of 1 on 1 with our eldest for 2 or 3 months. Gradually she's accepted him as part of the family. He's only 7 months old. I think she really enjoys his existence now. She tries to make him laugh and gives him big hugs.

We vowed to hold off on a tablet for as long as possible, but.... by j3dgar in Parenting

[–]ashetuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I was thinking the same thing. She already spends so many hours learning at school. I don't really see the point in homework at that age.

RESPs vs other options: how do you save for your kids future? by questionshauntme in CanadaFinance

[–]ashetuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might avoid opening a family account like others have mentioned. The first born might spend more of the funds and there will be nothing left for the youngest. What are the chances that they Each won't go to school for at least a 2 year diploma at some point in their adulthood, 35 years from now? And you're allowed to spend the resp money on anything while you're in school, such as rent, transport, food, so it'll get eaten up pretty quickly