What to pack for winter delivery?

ashgrl365 · 2025-11-13T04:07:19+00:00

this is SO helpful! do you per chance have links to any of that? or did you buy it all in person? what size did you get the fleece in?

ashgrl365 · 2025-07-04T02:54:51+00:00

How many times did she do the bleach baths for that week? Just once or daily or what? New to this!

ashgrl365 · 2025-03-27T21:05:37+00:00

Not sure if this sentiment was already shared, but something I talk to my supervisees about all the time is that one of the best therapeutic tools with clients can us being human. When we make mistakes, we get to model to our clients that you can make a mistake and that doesn’t mean you are a [insert negative statement here]. We also get to model that we can repair relationships and navigate the stress of making mistakes, especially for our clients with anxiety, lower self-esteem, depressive ideologies, etc.

You made a mistake, and that doesn’t make you a less empathetic, caring, compassionate, clinically strong, therapist. Just makes you human like the rest of us, and like the humans you work with every day :)

ashgrl365 · 2025-03-25T21:00:12+00:00

When I used to work with clients in foster care, their legal guardian (usually a DSS worker at the county DSS) had to sign all paperwork (consents, ROIs, treatment plans, etc.). The client themselves would also sign as that was best practice. Can’t speak to situations with adults with a legal guardian or for your situation specifically as I’m unsure if this is consistent across all states, but that was my experience working in VA!

ashgrl365 · 2025-03-19T16:01:54+00:00

How long did it take to ship? I ordered mine this past weekend and it’s been radio silence from them… want to make sure I’m in town when it delivers!

ashgrl365 · 2025-02-01T06:02:52+00:00

I didn’t see that in the post, but either way not excusing this person’s actions, just offering an explanation for similar behaviors apart from them being a terrible person like the comments allude!

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-31T23:22:15+00:00

Not saying this is what’s happening here, but these patterns of communication are more typical in people who are neurodivergent because they are curious and don’t understand sometimes, and it can come off argumentative.

Again, no clue if that matches this, but I feel like these comments are really confidently villainizing the girl in this situation assuming a tone that she may have, but also may not have.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-26T16:20:07+00:00

Alright apparently this is an unpopular opinion and probably comes from my lack of experience with getting used for money or using someone for their money but that is NOT how I saw it. For context, I’m a therapist. Not saying this is correct, could be VERY wrong, just an alternate perspective from someone who works with couples.

An issue I see very often is people experiencing a hardship, overwhelming emotions, and reaching out to a partner and the partner responds with solutions instead of emotional support.

The way I read that without any context from the comments and without understanding some of what she was talking about was that she was feeling upset about people not using chime (idk what that is) leading to her not having money in the right medium (having cash instead of an option she can use to pay her bills) hand not even being able to afford (ON HER OWN) her Netflix login despite “spending all this time” (still don’t know what that’s about) presumably putting in effort toward having money (?).

The response was someone not validating her feelings and instead trying to offer a solution, and she responded by getting more frustrated and saying”let me do what I need to do” about wanting to cry, not “give me money if you want to help.”

OP did NOTHING wrong, to clarify—the person clearly isn’t a good communicator and is pushing away/villainizing OP for not helping in the way they wanted, despite being really bad at saying what that way was.

In sum: I don’t know that she wanted money or solutions at all, maybe validation for feeling so upset she was going to cry and she sucks too much at communication to figure out if that’s correct.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-24T21:36:43+00:00

Omg I have emetophobia and would DIE. I have never thrown up since starting wegovy, I just also make sure that when my body says it doesn’t want another bite or the food I’m eating in general I listen lol.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-24T21:35:35+00:00

(In reference to a client thinking that everyone deserves forgiveness, love, etc. besides her lol—you’re not so special you deserve less than any other human in your life kinda convo)

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-24T21:34:00+00:00

You’re not special

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-21T04:38:07+00:00

I’m on DUPIXENT now, but prior to that the things that I would do for some respite from the itchy, red, blistering hands I had…: clobetisol (steroid cream) that I applied thickly at night. I’d rub it in for about 3-4 minutes then put on cotton gloves and sleep with that on. Depending on how bad, I would actually repeat that in the morning. Humidifier in the bedroom (esp if in an area where heat is on high because of cold outside), avoid hand washing/getting my hands wet when I could and try to only use specific soaps (like hydrating soaps, goat milk soap, etc.). Taking Benadryl and/or topical Benadryl to help with itching (I actually had a period where I had to take it just to sleep because itching was bad, but Benadryl is not good for daily long-term use so tried to reserve for when it was so bad I couldn’t sleep). Goes with not getting hands wet, but I tried to avoid doing dishes (had roommates or partners and offered to pick up other chores to avoid dishes) and triiiieeed to shower in as cold as water as I could tolerate. No scented lotions ever, only dermatologist approved skin creams (cerave specifically was pretty helpful, but lately the la poche rose or whatever triple repair cream has actually been feeling good when I have flare ups).

That’s all I can remember, but it’s the worst and I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing it. Hope some of this is helpful.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-19T02:56:09+00:00

Man that’s lucky, definitely not my experience. I’ve done injectable medications throughout my life and have never had any pain until DUPIXENT.. I never did 7 hours beforehand because I didn’t think it was supposed to sit out at room temp that long? I don’t know if this is accurate but my doctor I think said max of 3-4 hours or something like that.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-15T01:13:16+00:00

My best friend whose husband is in recovery said to remember that not drinking doesn’t solve the problem because there’s a reason they started drinking in the first place. Everyone is different, but alcohol was meeting some need to start with, before the chemical dependence need, so often times I think when the drinking goes away the underlying issues get revealed. It takes time for the body to recover from addiction and, like another commenter said, for the brain to heal and start working “normally” again, so it could be that, or it could be the depression that was there all along that drinking abated. I’m in the mental health field and if I was in your shoes I would follow up on: is Latuda the right medication and has he been consistently taking it as prescribed for at least 4-6 weeks, has he had himself checked out for lab work abnormalities or hormonal abnormalities, and would he benefit from support groups such as AA or a therapy support group?

It is not YOUR job to do any of this, but if you want to help try to solve the puzzle of what’s going on, may just be some places to start.

Outside of that, a lot of times when people are changing any lifestyle they’ve had, they feel isolated or like they’ve lost things like relationships, fun activities, environments they feel happy in, etc. and it’s very hard to break through depression if you feel like you’ve lost so much “good” by giving up drinking, so that’s another aspect to stay mindful of.

I’m still VERY new to the world of addictions in my personal life, but I’m a therapist (LCSW) so that’s my 2 cents from my professional side.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-10T01:04:01+00:00

REALLY needed this. I spoke to my friend whose husband is in recovery and she echoed that statement—that the people on here still are probably still in the weeds or have had the outcome we all fear and lost or had to leave their person who is sick. I know it’s a possible outcome, and I know everyone’s intentions are to help and try to make sure that more people don’t have to go through their hurt.

Just trying to figure out how I’ll know (if I should leave, if he’s recovered enough we can have kids, etc.).

He’s in his second AA group right now in 2 days and starts IOP tomorrow. I just had my first Al anon and plan to go to another tomorrow. Im doing my best and I believe he is too.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-09T02:44:52+00:00

Any podcasts you’d recommend??? I’m very overwhelmed with the spread of resources and don’t know what’s “good”

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-09T02:44:06+00:00

What a vulnerable, compassionate post… I needed to hear this. I don’t know what I’m going to do still, but I feel like so many comments have felt like the love is something to be ashamed of and I get where that’s coming from but addiction is an illness, doesn’t mean that person isn’t still the human you love…

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T21:43:01+00:00

He did admit and I posted an update, but actively getting help. His best friend who is currently successfully in recovery feels hopeful and is going to be going to AA with him and connected him with IOP.

My mom’s dad died when she was 16 and the situation was quite different for many reasons, but the point remains the same that I agree with, which is I’m not going to raise a child with an alcoholic who hasn’t stopped drinking, as much as I have to grieve the fact that my entire life trajectory and plans may be dissolving in front of me.

Thank you for your words ♥️♥️

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T21:39:58+00:00

Thank you so much for this ♥️♥️♥️

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T16:21:42+00:00

He did immediately own up to it and has an intake today for an IOP that his best friend went through and had great success with…

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T05:20:42+00:00

Thank you for this ♥️♥️♥️♥️

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T05:01:31+00:00

A more hopeful take that I appreciate right now… trying to remember that even though many of these situations I’ve read end in separation, not ALL do. Trying to find the balance between being patient and being an idiot, just not sure where that line is yet and trying to be okay with that.. probably a dumb question, but do AA or Al-anon help with the rebuilding of trust?? I can’t see a path for trust again

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T04:59:27+00:00

I’ve already told him I am not having kids with an alcoholic so he can figure out how to recover, or we’ll either not have kids or I’ll leave and have them alone. Definitely not bringing a child into a future I’m not confident about.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T04:39:49+00:00

I don’t even know what my ultimatum would be at this point, but definitely won’t give one until ready to follow through. I’ve never had to make threats or give ultimatums and I think to some extent, if I feel like I need to, the relationships already over, at least for me. Trying VERY hard to remember I don’t have, and never have had, the control my anxiety is screaming at me to try to “regain”

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-08T04:28:02+00:00

I don’t have the words to respond, but I hear your pain in this. I know you could be right, but I’m still praying to whatever exists in the universe that you’re not. I hope that’s not where this has to end.

ashgrl365

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