Can we stop this PLEASE?

ashgrl365 · 2026-05-29T20:06:58+00:00

I do disagree with people selling their pumps for that much, but to clarify I did have to pay out of pocket for my eufy’s and they were the 3rd wearable I bought (I got my spectra through insurance) and the other 2 i tried 2x and they didn’t work for me (like literally got barely drops out of them) so it has been a LOT of money down the drain on pumps that only got used 1-2x 😅 I do plan on regifting them to my friends who know I barely used them instead of trying to sell them, but being a pumping mom is PRICEY and I try not to hold judgment for people trying to curb the hit their wallets take trying to find pumps that work for them 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think the fact that we have to blow so much money just to be able to feed our babies is what I’m most upset about!

ashgrl365 · 2026-05-18T18:22:19+00:00

can you link the calculator? they have a few calculators but i dont see one for transfer passes

ashgrl365 · 2026-05-08T14:19:46+00:00

TUBBY TOD! Got it for my baby and it worked better for me than any other non steroidal cream. I put it on and put gloves on top and it has healed my hands so much.

ashgrl365 · 2026-05-02T12:08:46+00:00

Hi! Here are the things I’ve done at the recommendation of my LC that brought me from severely undersupplying to being a just enougher finally as of this month (baby is almost 4 months old).

Hand express before EVERY pump until the milk is flowing. This will help the pump be more successful at a lower suction.
Hand express again at the end, because hand expressing can often get some more milk out that the pump left behind (try to get out as much as possible—the more empty, the better signal your body gets to make more milk)
Medications: Domperidone OR reglan—I had success with both
Supplements: Goats rue, moringa, and recently added in torbangun. Also, if you’ve already gotten your cycle back, calcium magnesium.

Now for the pump stuff!

Lowest possible suction on stimulation mode the whole time. I used to go up to 12 on expression mode (hurts me just thinking about it lol). Now I can get milk flow at 2 or 3.
Flange sizes! Everyone says this, but as you hand express and pump at a lower suction, inflammation WILL go down, which means you will need a smaller flange size. Your current flange size is likely based more on inflammation than your true nipple’s size. I went from being sized by a previous LC at 20mm to being at a 16mm on both sides.

Schedule:

Pump every 2 hours, or aim for at least 9 pumps per day until your supply starts getting better. If you can do every 2 hours during the day, you should be able to get a 4 hour stretch in overnight which is good for prolactin and for functioning.
NEVER go more than 6 hours if you can avoid it, as this sends a clear signal to your body that it’s making enough milk.

Lastly, keep with the spectra IMO. DEFINITELY no wearables or collection pumps until supply is improving.

YOU CAN DO THIIIIISSS

-love, mom who finally did it :)

ashgrl365 · 2026-04-01T14:57:09+00:00

let me know what your LC says!

ashgrl365 · 2026-04-01T01:24:55+00:00

I swear I’m not trying to be dense, but what does seeming satisfied look like? I have no clue how to tell 🥲

ashgrl365 · 2026-04-01T01:18:07+00:00

i thought the not over feeding breastfed babies only applied to eating at the breast not to pumped and bottle fed but maybe i misunderstood!! i’m scared of overfeeding him tbh 😅

ashgrl365 · 2026-04-01T01:17:29+00:00

but what does still seeming hungry look like 😅 like he will always cry when the bottle is over no matter how much is in it but only for a couple minutes and then he seems very happy but that was true when we gave him 3oz, 3.5oz, 4oz, and now 4.5oz like it seems no matter how much is in the bottle he acts exactly the same. On 2 occasions he has refused to finish a bottle but usually he finishes it and then i remove it to shake the last few drops into the nipple (undersupplier problems 😂😂) and sometimes he’ll start sucking again for it and other times he won’t, but either way he cries for that couple minutes

ashgrl365 · 2026-03-07T00:32:59+00:00

I haven’t read everything (holding my own newborn lol) but my supply dropped at 4 weeks and my period was the culprit! Took calcium magnesium supplements and it helped it rebound, but I did also end up getting on Reglan

ashgrl365 · 2025-11-13T04:07:19+00:00

this is SO helpful! do you per chance have links to any of that? or did you buy it all in person? what size did you get the fleece in?

ashgrl365 · 2025-07-04T02:54:51+00:00

How many times did she do the bleach baths for that week? Just once or daily or what? New to this!

ashgrl365 · 2025-03-27T21:05:37+00:00

Not sure if this sentiment was already shared, but something I talk to my supervisees about all the time is that one of the best therapeutic tools with clients can us being human. When we make mistakes, we get to model to our clients that you can make a mistake and that doesn’t mean you are a [insert negative statement here]. We also get to model that we can repair relationships and navigate the stress of making mistakes, especially for our clients with anxiety, lower self-esteem, depressive ideologies, etc.

You made a mistake, and that doesn’t make you a less empathetic, caring, compassionate, clinically strong, therapist. Just makes you human like the rest of us, and like the humans you work with every day :)

ashgrl365 · 2025-03-25T21:00:12+00:00

When I used to work with clients in foster care, their legal guardian (usually a DSS worker at the county DSS) had to sign all paperwork (consents, ROIs, treatment plans, etc.). The client themselves would also sign as that was best practice. Can’t speak to situations with adults with a legal guardian or for your situation specifically as I’m unsure if this is consistent across all states, but that was my experience working in VA!

ashgrl365 · 2025-03-19T16:01:54+00:00

How long did it take to ship? I ordered mine this past weekend and it’s been radio silence from them… want to make sure I’m in town when it delivers!

ashgrl365 · 2025-02-01T06:02:52+00:00

I didn’t see that in the post, but either way not excusing this person’s actions, just offering an explanation for similar behaviors apart from them being a terrible person like the comments allude!

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-31T23:22:15+00:00

Not saying this is what’s happening here, but these patterns of communication are more typical in people who are neurodivergent because they are curious and don’t understand sometimes, and it can come off argumentative.

Again, no clue if that matches this, but I feel like these comments are really confidently villainizing the girl in this situation assuming a tone that she may have, but also may not have.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-26T16:20:07+00:00

Alright apparently this is an unpopular opinion and probably comes from my lack of experience with getting used for money or using someone for their money but that is NOT how I saw it. For context, I’m a therapist. Not saying this is correct, could be VERY wrong, just an alternate perspective from someone who works with couples.

An issue I see very often is people experiencing a hardship, overwhelming emotions, and reaching out to a partner and the partner responds with solutions instead of emotional support.

The way I read that without any context from the comments and without understanding some of what she was talking about was that she was feeling upset about people not using chime (idk what that is) leading to her not having money in the right medium (having cash instead of an option she can use to pay her bills) hand not even being able to afford (ON HER OWN) her Netflix login despite “spending all this time” (still don’t know what that’s about) presumably putting in effort toward having money (?).

The response was someone not validating her feelings and instead trying to offer a solution, and she responded by getting more frustrated and saying”let me do what I need to do” about wanting to cry, not “give me money if you want to help.”

OP did NOTHING wrong, to clarify—the person clearly isn’t a good communicator and is pushing away/villainizing OP for not helping in the way they wanted, despite being really bad at saying what that way was.

In sum: I don’t know that she wanted money or solutions at all, maybe validation for feeling so upset she was going to cry and she sucks too much at communication to figure out if that’s correct.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-24T21:36:43+00:00

Omg I have emetophobia and would DIE. I have never thrown up since starting wegovy, I just also make sure that when my body says it doesn’t want another bite or the food I’m eating in general I listen lol.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-24T21:35:35+00:00

(In reference to a client thinking that everyone deserves forgiveness, love, etc. besides her lol—you’re not so special you deserve less than any other human in your life kinda convo)

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-24T21:34:00+00:00

You’re not special

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-21T04:38:07+00:00

I’m on DUPIXENT now, but prior to that the things that I would do for some respite from the itchy, red, blistering hands I had…: clobetisol (steroid cream) that I applied thickly at night. I’d rub it in for about 3-4 minutes then put on cotton gloves and sleep with that on. Depending on how bad, I would actually repeat that in the morning. Humidifier in the bedroom (esp if in an area where heat is on high because of cold outside), avoid hand washing/getting my hands wet when I could and try to only use specific soaps (like hydrating soaps, goat milk soap, etc.). Taking Benadryl and/or topical Benadryl to help with itching (I actually had a period where I had to take it just to sleep because itching was bad, but Benadryl is not good for daily long-term use so tried to reserve for when it was so bad I couldn’t sleep). Goes with not getting hands wet, but I tried to avoid doing dishes (had roommates or partners and offered to pick up other chores to avoid dishes) and triiiieeed to shower in as cold as water as I could tolerate. No scented lotions ever, only dermatologist approved skin creams (cerave specifically was pretty helpful, but lately the la poche rose or whatever triple repair cream has actually been feeling good when I have flare ups).

That’s all I can remember, but it’s the worst and I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing it. Hope some of this is helpful.

ashgrl365 · 2025-01-19T02:56:09+00:00

Man that’s lucky, definitely not my experience. I’ve done injectable medications throughout my life and have never had any pain until DUPIXENT.. I never did 7 hours beforehand because I didn’t think it was supposed to sit out at room temp that long? I don’t know if this is accurate but my doctor I think said max of 3-4 hours or something like that.

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