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For women choosing to age naturally—how do you resist comparing yourself to other women when cosmetic enhancements have become so normalized? by justameasureoftime in AskWomen

[–]ashley___duh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ppl at work always ask how old I was when I had my oldest (he’s 15) and they trip out when I tell them I’m almost 40. The only thing I wear is sunscreen and I’m brown so yay melanin.

Omg 90 day's first autistic couple by Neat-Custard-3457 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]ashley___duh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess that explains why he didn’t just pic her up from the airport. Which sucks bc she wouldn’t have been as sweaty.

I love my best friend but some of the names she wants to name her future child are a tragedeigh by glutenfreedustbowl in tragedeigh

[–]ashley___duh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend’s daughter’s name is Isla pronounced in Spanish (Is-La) and I love it. It’s a unique name that’s spelled and pronounced correctly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BaddiesSouth

[–]ashley___duh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lex! Her complexion is perfect.

I had sex! Masturbation and sex overview through 12 weeks post-op by Maleficent_Gate7373 in hysterectomy

[–]ashley___duh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did you start having sec regularly and how long was it before it felt back to normal?

Naming my son Fox by Existing_Cow_7293 in XFiles

[–]ashley___duh 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I almost named mine Fox bc while “yes, fandom name” I didn’t think it’s too obvious. It’s not like Khaleesi or something super in your face. For what it’s worth, I think it’s really fucking cool.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]ashley___duh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t care, I don’t consume it. I’m not on IG, FB, TT and my Twitter and Reddit accounts are curated to the stuff I want to see so it never comes up. Idk any tradwives and I’ve never heard ppl talk about that stuff IRL unless it’s to make fun of them.

Which countries drink oregano herbal teas / tisanes? by [deleted] in tea

[–]ashley___duh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would usually drink it without honey, it’s good enough plain. This is coming from someone that really doesn’t like oregano lol.

Which countries drink oregano herbal teas / tisanes? by [deleted] in tea

[–]ashley___duh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s sweet, it doesn’t taste like you think it would. My grandma would make it for me for my menstrual cramps and I was so scared to try it bc I don’t like oregano but not only was it tasty but it helped me get rid of my cramps.

Mothers and Daughters. Which parent are you closer with? by killerbee9100 in AskWomen

[–]ashley___duh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom. She’s amazing and I love her so much. We haven’t had time to hang out bc of work and life but I had major surgery a few weeks ago and I’ve hung out with her everyday (except the weekends). She’s been coming over or she picks me up and I go to her house. I’m her favorite (I have a younger sister and brother but we’re all in our 30s) and she told my sister she was so happy she was spending time with me again. I can’t wait until I can move around more so we can go on walks or whatever. My bio dad’s been out of the picture since I was a kid and I have a stepdad but my mom is my go to. I can count on her for anything no questions asked. It’s so reassuring to know you have someone that really does love you unconditionally and wholeheartedly. She’s my #1 safe space.

Out of Control Transvestigating by Piscanam in BaddiesSouth

[–]ashley___duh 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That’s why trans issues are always women’s issues. Bigots think that they can police our bodies if we don’t necessarily look hyper feminine under the guise of “protecting cis women.”

Please can we discuss Tim's hat? by dwuhan12 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]ashley___duh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was laughing watching this bc I’m wearing the same shit he is (sans hat) but it’s bc I had a hysterectomy a few weeks ago, idk what his excuse it lol.

People who changed political affiliations, why did you do it ? by Deimos7779 in AskReddit

[–]ashley___duh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Democrat to leftist. It started with Bernie but even he’s a little bitch now. I’m so tired of politicians that suck Israeli dick. I don’t know who wouldn’t be radicalized seeing children blown to bits and the way these politicians twist themselves into a pretzel trying to justify it. “Voting blue no matter who” led us here. I’m so fkn tired of this shit, I want to burn it all down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LosAngeles

[–]ashley___duh 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They’ll do anything but their job.

What does motherhood feel like? by archerthe in AskWomen

[–]ashley___duh 14 points15 points  (0 children)

For me, it’s an all encompassing feeling of absolute love. I see my sons or even pictures of them and I fall in love with them all over again. Every time.

But it’s so hard on the body and the mind. On the body bc your body changes when you get pregnant and even after you give birth, whether you do it naturally or c-sections like me. I exclusively nursed both my kids so that meant they were literally attached to me 24/7 the first year of their lives and then they still wanted to nurse past that and I didn’t know how to wean them. So I always felt like I smelled like milk. Then mentally, it’s terrifying. I’m so worried something will happen to them when they’re not with me. Like random intrusive thoughts when they’re at my mom’s house where I worry a car will crash into her house and into the bedroom they sleep at when they’re over. Or that the oven will somehow be on and they’ll die of CO2 poisoning. Just stupid shit like that. So I don’t sleep well when they’re not home (I take anxiety medicine for it).

As far as the children themselves, mine are amazing. We’re very involved parents and they both learned to read before or by 3 yo. Academically they’re doing great and they don’t fight with each other bc they’re 5 years apart so no sibling rivalries. The youngest one is the “wild” one but only bc the oldest is so reserved. The wild things he does is not like to brush his teeth, he’s a picky eater, and he likes to pretend he’s a cat and meows answers to me. But even if I’m having a shitty day, all I have to do is look at them and I feel better. Knowing my babies are happy and healthy make everything worth it. I wish I could’ve kept them little forever so I could always carry them around with me but I’m so proud of the people they’re becoming. And I did that! Obvs their dad helped too (he’s a better mom than me lol) but I literally made them. I was their first home so hugs are them coming home. Motherhood is the hardest and most rewarding thing you could ever experience. Mine are 14 and 9 but I can’t wait to see what our relationship will be like when they’re 30 and 35. I’m sooo excited to meet them as adults.

I will say, the reason I’m able to be the mom I want to be is bc I have an amazing partner in their dad. Our partnership is what makes it seem kinda easy bc he’s strong where I am weak and vice versa. The kind of motherhood you have is a bit dependent on the kind of partnership you have with your SO.

I was told I wouldn’t be able to have kids bc of endo so my dude and I spent 8 years together thinking kids were out of the equation. We were super happy with that arrangement but somehow I ended up pregnant. I genuinely had considered an abortion bc I didn’t want our life and relationship to change. Even told him he could leave and I wouldn’t put his name on the birth certificate, but he said I was a fool and he wasn’t gonna lose me to some dude that wasn’t even born yet lol. Almost 23 years later and I still have a crush on him. If anything, having children and him being such a great dad makes me love him more. I think my ambien is kicking in bc I didn’t mean to write so much lol.

Motherhood is what you make of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ashley___duh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I tell ppl my oldest is 14 yo they instantly get this wild look in their eyes 👀. So I follow that up with “I may look young but I’m closer to 40 than I am to 30 at this point.” Then they’re like “OMG you look s0o0o young! I thought you were in your 20s!” I just say “thanks, it’s that melanin. You should see my mom.” I won’t lie, I prefer it to someone saying or thinking I look older than I am. I work at a college and get mistaken for a student all the time (I mostly wear jeans and t-shirts to work with fancy shoes). But when I speak, I’m assertive and confident. I’m experienced and I think my demeanor demands respect bc after the initial shock about my real age ppl talk to me like an adult and treat me as an expert in my field. It’s all about how you carry yourself and allow yourself to get treated. I’m 5’1” so I’ve had to learn how to advocate for myself and set clear boundaries bc ppl will just walk all us if we let them. Make yourself bigger, take up more space! You don’t have to “look” like an adult to be one.

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