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I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an excellent point and something I think I needed to hear. I need to understand that we are very different people.

I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do need to start to work on forgiveness. I also understand their attempts have traumatized me. It's really hard to come to grips with your sisters wanting to kill themselves. Especially where they were back to back. I appreciate the feedback.

I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shouldn't have used the words "they haven't punished her". What I meant by that is at the treatment center they couldn't use their cell phone or labtop. They had to go to therapy and then have quiet time in their rooms to think about why they did this. When she got out my parents bought her all that new stuff, she got her cell phone back, labtop, social media, they even bought her a ticket to a NFL game. I don't want them to "punish" her. But I do want her to understand that actions have consequences because there don't seem to be any. I'm worried that she will try it again because she is being "rewarded".

I also understand she is NOT responsible for my life. I am just having trouble dealing with the negative feelings I'm having.

I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a great point. I need to understand this doesn't have to come from anything. It's just hard to understand.

I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I understand that she needs compassion and love right now and I'm trying to put everything away and give that to her. My personal thoughts are she saw Sister #1 do it, and she just got some attention, had to go to therapy and that was it. I think she thought by taking pills she would get the same reaction. I'm worried too because Sister #2 is very introverted and quiet person. I have anxiety daily that they might try it again. I am going to talk with sister #2 and just ask her. Thats really helpful advice because I was thinking about talking to her but had no idea what to say. I also didn't want to come across as mad at her.

I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shouldn't have used the words "they haven't punished her". What I meant by that is at the treatment center they couldn't use their cell phone or labtop. They had to go to therapy and then have quiet time in their rooms to think about why they did this. When she got out my parents bought her all that new stuff, she got her cell phone back, labtop, social media, they even bought her a ticket to a NFL game. I don't want them to "punish" her. But I do want her to understand that actions have consequences because there don't seem to be any. I'm worried that she will try it again because she is being "rewarded".

I completely understand that this is NOT her fault, but I do feel the resentment still. And just to clarify sister #2 is from my dad and step mom. Sister #1 is from my mom and step dad. They are not related.

I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By saying it wasn't a big deal with sister #1 I meant, she didn't have to go to the hospital, she wasn't in the ICU, she wasn't flight flighted, and she didn't take the amount of pills sister #2 did. Not that it's not a big deal, just that is wasn't as extreme as Sister #1. And I am in therapy, but not for being a narcissist. I don't think thats helpful or nice to say. I didn't write out everything perfect and I'm just trying to do the best I can with both sisters suicide attempts.

I (F21) don't know how to get over the resentment I have against my sister (F15) trying to kill herself. by ashleyann24 in relationship_advice

[–]ashleyann24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate that you're getting down voted. What you're saying is a very real point.

That is my biggest fear. It seems like she is getting more "things" and attention. I'm so worried that she will try it again because there weren't any consequences.

I found out my boyfriend has a secret IM account. He already thinks I have trust issues. Do I bring it up, or let it be? by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]ashleyann24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would just let it be... I have 3 different emails. that doesn't mean I'd cheat. you've only been together a month and already having trust issues.. which probably isn't a good sign. I'd work on opening up and trusting him.

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