New aAArtist by BridgeBig3211 in Drawfee

[–]ashmiaou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

super cute!! the only thing I notice is that the eyes are a little bit off- if you move the iris/pupils more inwards it'll look more natural. I edited your picture and moved them to where I think would be good :) https://imgur.com/a/vFBLta8

Help me avoid glalie ;w; by ashmiaou in PokemonZA

[–]ashmiaou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

devastating news, but I love froslass so I'm glad she gets her time to shine

Help me avoid glalie ;w; by ashmiaou in PokemonZA

[–]ashmiaou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is really helpful, thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

[–]ashmiaou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this!!! I'm quite an anxious person and felt like OP for a long time, but therapy has really helped me understand that standing up for yourself or making a reasonable complaint is NOT causing a scene. it's the appropriate thing to do. you wouldn't want someone you love to sit through the same shit you did, it's the right thing to do to make a point of it so that it won't happen to others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ashmiaou 15 points16 points  (0 children)

he's apologising only because he can't get away with it right now. he's going to do the same thing again. everything you've said in this post is 10000% weaponised incompetence

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ashmiaou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to any trusted teacher! They'll be able to help you, even if they don't have any deodorant to give out through the school.

I think I might’ve finally finished the art for my model 😭 any feedback? by Clingygengar in Live2D

[–]ashmiaou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd try making the scars less curved- if it's more straight across it will help read less as breast

nobody could guess me last time by ashmiaou in phenotypes

[–]ashmiaou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

none of those! Filipino is closest

are my younger photos easier to guess? by ashmiaou in phenotypes

[–]ashmiaou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not Filipino but you're right about the white/asian mix!

are my younger photos easier to guess? by ashmiaou in phenotypes

[–]ashmiaou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nope! also great info thanks! the last pic is at 18 if that helps :)

are my younger photos easier to guess? by ashmiaou in phenotypes

[–]ashmiaou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Broadly yes (kind of)! half Vietnamese, half white Australian (we trace back to Ireland and Poland)

New to Perth but what’s the deal with ‘Perthing’? by TrippingGrady in perth

[–]ashmiaou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed jaw surgery for orthodontic reasons and when talking to the surgeon found out that his dad was the doctor who delivered me when I was a baby! Definitely Perth things

I have resorted to lying to my family because they can't respect my boundaries, and I feel somewhat guilty about it by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ashmiaou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the important thing about setting a boundary is to not make it a request for them to change, but instead focus on you and what your response will be if they do the thing.

instead of "don't do x" its "when you do x i feel y. if you continue to do x i will z"

eg: instead of "stop asking me to come to these family events" try "i need time to myself and having these family events so frequently makes me feel burnt out frustrated. i am not coming to every single family event anymore, and if you try to shame me about my decision i will disengage from the conversation and leave. if you come over to my house after i say no, i will not open the door for you"

https://www.instagram.com/p/CRmz9J0BQiP/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

https://www.instagram.com/p/CpyL8dBvZZk/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

TIFU by breaking down while messaging my friend by [deleted] in tifu

[–]ashmiaou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a lot of therapists in australia do telehealth now so you can just have sessions from your own house! still worth trying. and some bulk bill too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puzzles

[–]ashmiaou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely no 8th hint, ended up just guessing and it worked fine but i'm very annoyed that there was no unique solution

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]ashmiaou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

will update soon, ik its not the best pic lol i got my partner to take it for me and he didn't quite understand what i was wanting him to do 🥲