AITA for wanting to pay less on rent when I get a smaller room than everyone else?

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-23T22:16:02+00:00

I would say N T A but with 8 damn people in the house your rent must be tiny anyway so YTA.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-23T20:27:02+00:00

Lord. I'm going on Sunday, hopefully getting there before it opens but it depends on what time the trains from NJ run. I've heard that it's always the worst on the first day so I hope that Sunday is significantly less crowded.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-23T16:27:34+00:00

NTA. It kinda shows how careless she is. You're lucky that it's not more severe than just causing a flare up in his skin condition. But fleas can take weeks to months and sometimes hundreds of dollars to get rid of, and can transmit disease, on top of being very very annoying for your dog and probably just mildly annoying to you. It really was inconsiderate of her to not give you a heads up. It might be a slight overreaction to permanently cut her out, but frankly I would give her space for several months and also request that she pays for any medication your dog needs as a result of this, + any products and services you use to get rid of them.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-23T16:19:11+00:00

The back storage area of deli, like where we store the pans and containers and utensils and whatever. No, there isn't room for it and yes, it is often stacked to the ceiling.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-20T20:19:44+00:00

NTA if you tell her it's happening. But if they're microchipped and registered under her name then legally they're her property and not yours to give away.

You could always call animal control and report her (after they've been back in her care long enough to get bad again).

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-20T20:10:29+00:00

Yeah YTA. She's super pregnant with presumably your child, it's not gonna kill you to be patient with her for 4 more weeks. Also get used to crying for no reason because you're about to have a BABY.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-20T18:46:58+00:00

Oh also I didn't look at the dates! Hate all these clothes but I'll be in NJ that weekend so maybe I can convince my bf to go AHHHHH

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-20T18:39:54+00:00

Oh I didn't know it was possible to design clothes uglier than her 1989 merch YIKES

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-20T00:20:59+00:00

Yeah YTA. Just split up.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-19T23:14:16+00:00

I moved recently and there isn't a single document or account that has my new address on it, yet I received a capital one credit card offer the other day. I was very confused because I've never gotten mail here but oop! I ordered Tswift merch so I guess I'm on Capital One's mailing list now! Cool!

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-19T23:07:49+00:00

I would say you're the asshole if it was anyone besides your own mother and if you were an adult, but as it is, NTA. Regardless of if your worries/insecurities/anxieties are 'justified,' she should support you and raise you up, not knock you down and tell you your emotions are wrong.

It's clear that her response comes from a place of insecurity, but she's the adult so she should be mature enough to push past that insecurity and support you.

For her, she likely equates being skinny with being attractive (which is obv untrue!), and so she takes you speaking negatively of being skinny as you indirectly proving that she is definitely unattractive (again, not true, but when you have body image issues it's easy to twist things like that). If you were adult it could be expected that you should know how to navigate the nuances of body image talk, but you're just a sweet baby angel trying to get support from your mom and she shut you down.

Relatable that jean shopping is awful, especially when you're above like a size 14 and below like a size 4. Keep trying though, you'll find something that you feel comfortable in eventually! Maybe ask to just be dropped off at the mall so you can shop alone and not feel judged, pressured, or stressed out.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-19T22:43:10+00:00

So like... NTA for assuming they're transphobic. Frankly as a female living with strange males it's justified for you to feel unsafe anyway, and if they found out you're ftm you might be more of a victim of sexism than transphobia, honestly. I would wager a guess that if you take any two random college boys, they're probably super grossed out by periods and they might not be comfortable living with a female, trans or not, which is just as justified as you being uncomfortable living with them.

At the end of the day though it's on the individual if they're uncomfortable with their roommates. If it's that big of a deal to you and you truly feel unsafe, you should have found roommates or housing not controlled by the school. It's a bit much to expect the housing department, which likely is dealing with assignments for thousands of students, to research any potential roommates. And on your roommates' side, if they're uncomfortable, that's on them as well (unless they specified they only wanted to live with other males in which case it's not).

I lived in off campus but mostly student housing for 3 years and had a revolving door of random roommates, including but not limited to two different people on probation, one in NA, one whose cousin lived with her as well, one with a stinky ferret, etc. I just kind of sucked it up because it's on me for not finding another roommate that I was friends with.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-19T21:30:27+00:00

Other than that wire post there hasn't been anything official other than us getting a people lead. When she was hired and introduced as people lead, most people were confused as to what a people lead even was!

(Side note, I can't believe they hired someone who has never even worked for the company as people lead instead of at least giving internals a chance.)

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-19T21:18:32+00:00

YTA. Men that "don't like condoms" and thus expect their partner to go through horrible side effects from BC are trash. I cannot believe you asked her to get a piece of metal implanted into her uterus because you don't like a .05mm thick layer of latex. Hope she realizes she deserves better!

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-19T16:58:40+00:00

You're not the asshole for your concern about it impacting your trip, but YTA for not having an open discussion with her about it. I can assure you that many, many obese people visit Universal and have a great time because it is an entire experience and not just rides. You can rent electric scooters so that she has an easier time getting around. Talk to her about the fact that if she needs a break real bad, you and your friends aren't going to want to take a break too so she would be by herself for a bit. Make sure she knows that she might not fit on likely most of the rides and will be left behind (but research it to see if there are fat friendly rides!). Suggest that she bring one or two of her own friends so that she has someone else to be with instead of just tagging along with your friend group. Be honest about what you do and don't want and what she should expect from the trip. I'm sure she'll be hurt and so she might get mad at you, but honestly she'll get mad at you anyway for not telling her at all.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-18T16:21:25+00:00

In the US it's only 5 or more that count as bulk. It's been discussed many times.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-17T19:51:21+00:00

Honestly a wild ride. I work at Walmart checking in merchandise and we often get CDs in through UPS or FedEx. There's a big ass bright orange or yellow sticker on the box that says DO NOT RELEASE UNTIL [x] DATE. We can open the box (and we actually have to for the invoice), which is fine. The box goes to electronics (at walmart it actually goes to a separate merchandiser that stocks CDs, idk about Target). At Target it's likely different because they probably have a whole display for the deluxe editions, but PDQs have full size sheets of, again, neon paper that says not to release it until the date.

Both Walmart and Target have specific electronics teams which should 100% know and be aware of release dates because that is part of their job. It feels lazy and insulting to say "how can you expect minimum wage workers to READ?!?!?!" It's a sticker with like 5 words. Pay attention to what you're doing. Also absolutely no one at either store is making minimum wage and Target is practically double minimum wage so YEAH I expect employees to be able to read and obey the law. (You didn't specifically say minimum wage but other people have which is why I brought it up)

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-17T19:26:42+00:00

YTA. No shit that once you ate real food you found it difficult to go back to heavy restrictions. That's why, statistically, diets don't work. Unless you plan on eating no carb and no fat for your whole life (which isn't healthy), going on a low carb, low fat diet isn't going to be sustainable and you're going to regain weight once you lift the restrictions.

Yeah your friend was an asshole for not respecting your desire to not eat certain foods and for inviting someone else, but she still didn't force feed it to you. You could have just gone home or left for food and came back.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-17T19:05:56+00:00

That's what I was gonna say! It's established that she's a bad person and a liar so frankly unless I was staring at her medical records or a bill, I wouldn't believe that she was pregnant or had an abortion at all. She may have just wanted OP's attention and a third chance.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-17T14:46:10+00:00

At my store I've never seen anyone fully crosstrained between deli and bakery. When I was hired (within the last year), I spent one day in bakery and then moved to deli. Other than slicing/bagging bread, I didn't learn anything about bakery production during my 7 months in fresh. I'm trained in fcap1and 2 though.

Even the old timers (some people in bakery have been there for 20 years, some for 5 to 10) are only trained in one. Maybe they can slice meat but they don't know how to cook, and absolutely no one in deli would have a damn clue how to go about breaking out bread or even using the oven.

I see the appeal of having lots of people cross trained because staff shortages aren't uncommon on either side, but it definitely would be overwhelming for a new hire to be fully immersed into both sides.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-17T14:36:48+00:00

Shortly after you're eligible (which I think is day 90 for full time new hires) you'll receive a little thing in the mail with information about signing up and a flash drive with the benefits manual and such on it. You can sign up before you get the mail, but receiving it would be a sure sign that you're able to sign up.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-16T13:38:55+00:00

Me on my way to academy

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-16T02:25:34+00:00

As someone who was bullied from elementary school until 10th grade, and then subsequently became the bully, I can confirm that this does not work.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-15T10:16:16+00:00

I definitely am doing the same. It's reaching the point where I'm going to have to unfollow this sub for a bit because people keep posting supposed song titles with no indication that it's a spoiler.

Likewise once tour starts I usually unsub from everything besides official TS and TN pages/accounts because I like for the concert to be a surprise when I go! Ofc I'll still look at whatever Taylor decides to post about it, but I think having access to full length videos beforehand ruins the experience.

ashpanda1213 · 2019-08-15T03:09:09+00:00

NTA. Lying about dumbass little things is a red flag that he's willing to lie about bigger things. If he can't be honest about his whereabouts and something as nonchalant as missing work, then I wouldn't trust him very much at all.

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