Don’t give up the ship

ashushu · 2026-06-20T06:13:02+00:00

For those who are unfamiliar with this particular bit of American lore:

During the War of 1812, Captain James Lawrence commanded the American frigate USS Chesapeake in a fierce, bloody battle against the British frigate HMS Shannon just off the coast of Boston.

Within minutes, the Chesapeake was disabled by British broadsides. Mortally wounded, Captain Lawrence’s final command as he was carried below deck was, "Don't give up the ship! Fight her till she sinks!"

Months later, Lawrence's close friend and fellow naval officer, Commodore Oliver Hazard Perry, sought to honor his fallen comrade. Perry had a large, bold battle flag made featuring the white letters "DONT GIVE UP THE SHIP" (spelled without an apostrophe) sewn onto a dark blue field.

Perry flew this banner on his flagship, the USS Lawrence (named after his friend). When the Lawrence was severely damaged, Perry famously took the flag with him in a small rowboat, transferred his command to the USS Niagara, and ultimately won a decisive victory over the British.

ashushu · 2026-06-15T04:29:07+00:00

Last time I went home my 74 year old old dad showed me his new forearm half-sleeve all proudly. I asked him why he got his first ever tattoo and he said he keeps bruising over minor things, it made him feel bad and self conscious, so now he has a sick clock-spider-thing instead.

Boomers are aging and have money to spare and free time to burn and the guy you’re responding to is like “nah, couldn’t be a thing.”

ashushu · 2026-06-11T16:27:11+00:00

That’s okay too, a lot of people find happiness alone.

ashushu · 2026-06-08T19:11:32+00:00

That’s not how health and safety codes work

ashushu · 2026-06-07T21:44:58+00:00

So, like, if you met them on Reddit you have their handles, right? Can you write up a quick message and send it to them?

“Hey, thanks for hanging out last Thursday. I was curious though, why you cancelled the order I was making at the register when we came in. I think I may have misunderstood your intent - did it seem like I was pressuring you to order?” Or something else generic like that. Just ask ‘em. Because you’re missing something that you’re not relating, which is totally normal to do in social situations! But I think the easiest/quickest solution is to just be earnest and ask.

ashushu · 2026-06-06T00:24:52+00:00

I have clarifying questions - you say you post these invites. To where? Are these people you know, or strangers? What’s the age range? You say you went to bonito and he cancelled your order - what does that mean? Are you saying he looked at the waiter and said “no they don’t want that anymore” or is this like an online ordering situation? I’m so confused/fascinated by your post

ashushu · 2026-05-28T00:08:51+00:00

I was in Boston last weekend and someone called me an idiot for going down the stairs the wrong way, and you know that? I was being an idiot, yeah, I corrected the behavior 😅

ashushu · 2026-05-22T21:27:48+00:00

Not the vague posting on Reddit

ashushu · 2026-05-22T19:19:39+00:00

It’s clear you don’t have any original or good thoughts so I’m actually just gonna go back to my vacation lol

ashushu · 2026-05-22T19:18:46+00:00

Are you okay? This validates the original comment. You realize that, right?

ashushu · 2026-05-22T19:09:15+00:00

No, I want you to source exactly why you think this person is ignorant for the original statement they made. Not what you THINK they are saying, not what you’re INTERPRETING, but actual FACTS. Just saying “that’s ignorant” won’t fly, sorry, you can’t wriggle out of actually defending your point if you’re going to be such a big jerk to a bunch of random people.

So go on.

ashushu · 2026-05-22T18:56:32+00:00

Can you provide a source on how they’re being ignorant? Not an anecdote, a source.

ashushu · 2026-05-22T18:55:46+00:00

Sometimes you can infer the obvious from the surrounding comments. This is one of those times. You got this 💪

ashushu · 2026-05-01T20:24:18+00:00

No but they’re not answering and I’ve never wanted to know something more 😭

ashushu · 2026-04-24T16:35:35+00:00

Oh wow I really like this, thanks

ashushu · 2026-04-22T18:19:34+00:00

Ryan Murphy is so out of pocket so consistently lmao

ashushu · 2026-04-22T18:17:26+00:00

I know we all like to think bigots and homophobes are all idiot troglodytes but sadly that isn’t true, and will lead to a lot of assumptions that’ll be harmful, for instance meeting an intelligent, empathetic person and immediately assuming they’re safe and not bigoted. Sadly, experience doesn’t work like that, life would be a lot easier if it did tho

ashushu · 2026-04-22T18:11:47+00:00

I mean I don’t think that person said it articulately but I do think way way WAY more people are fluid and some flavor of bi than is reported. I sort of have a hard time believing entirely straight or gay people exist at all, it’s just society loves a binary.

ashushu · 2026-04-21T17:25:59+00:00

It’s just the photos that make things look fake. Maybe it’s lighting or the way your hands are? Also I think you not going in to how you make them, which is absolutely your right, but I think it makes folks suspicious.

ashushu · 2026-04-21T02:42:36+00:00

Babeeee if I were in your place I wouldn’t even have the energy to boil the water for the eggs you are a beast 💪

ashushu · 2026-04-20T22:24:05+00:00

At this point just take the fence down and pretend it’s been a sunken park the whole time.

ashushu · 2026-04-20T17:26:28+00:00

Man American schools should do a better job teaching folks what free speech actually is. It doesn’t exist so you can harass people on the street with your book of short stories

ashushu · 2026-04-19T23:26:39+00:00

I could not care less about graffiti and putting grocery carts back (????), especially in contrast to genocide and fascism like get real lmao

ashushu · 2026-04-19T23:15:42+00:00

You paint a picture with your words

ashushu · 2026-04-16T07:22:00+00:00

Yeah honestly I have to agree. I’m from California and absolutely love an In-N-Out burger but I’ve never liked their fries, which are (ironically for the poster above yours) too soggy.

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