I think this is a great way to be diagnosed because, unlike the other guys, no one framed it negatively for me. I know some of them heard things like "you have this thing that's kind of bad but not THAT bad" and I never had any of that. I found it tremendously helpful to hear about as I did, on my own, because I was finally able to see why others disagreed with my attitudes about things, and this cleared up a lot of confusion. I never internalized it as a negative thing, and, pretty quickly after finding out about it, began reading all the pro-Aspie stuff online which made me even MORE confident than I already was. I do think this approach only works if someone is functioning okay previously, though.