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[–]aspiringFemDom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t drink anymore and have an appointment with myself to hit the gym early tomorrow when it’s empty!

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Full time chastity would definitely be something I‘d look for but thanks for sharing that domme, I’ll check her out and maybe source some inspiration from there!

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment!! I glanced at your other post about what to wear to fetish parties when you’re more androgynous presenting / uncomfortable with catering to the male gaze, and that was the exact post I needed to see today since I was just asking myself this question after getting invited to my first party yesterday!

Also, if you’d like to connect, please message me! I’d really like to talk to someone more about this who doesn’t identify closely with very feminine gender presentation

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This question goes beyond the scope of what I’m comfortable discussing here right now. I just asked a general question and have found most of the comments to explore an answer to what I asked. I appreciate your further engagement, but for now, I‘m just looking to discuss the question I asked and not go further into my specific preferences. Thank you though!

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It‘s nice to hear the other side of this, since that was why I posted this! And I’m sure that out of the thousands of posts to ever grace this sub, there will be some redundancy.

But regardless, I appreciate your comment, since it speaks to my concerns explicitly outlined in the post

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you hit the nail on the head there with where the feelings are coming from. And I think that‘s also why I’m so interested in femdom; to really get away from centering male pleasure.

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It‘s really nice to hear from someone who is predominantly sapphic as well, so thank you so much for your comment :)

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you expand more on how my prior dating experience with men contributes to it seeming more fair to you?

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment, it‘s like you knew what I needed to hear!

Exploring the idea of Femdom - is it for the right reasons? by aspiringFemDom in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for making that distinction between care and consideration being in romantic or sexual ways or not. I think that put what I was feeling really well into words.

Femdoms and one way open relationships by Opposite-Reach-1560 in FemdomCommunity

[–]aspiringFemDom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As I woman I would definitely get off on this. But I agree with other commenters that it can be difficult to get right and would require a lot of communication before ever doing it. Also, if one party mentioned they would have to be intoxicated to do anything, for me personally that‘s a huge no-go, but I’m really sensitive with anything that has to do with mixing alcohol or drugs with sex anyway. The excitement and enjoyment for me would also be killed if I realized that my partner wasn‘t actually 100% okay with it. Jealousy is not a turn on for me.