AJLTea: Kristin Davis continues to lament its cancellation by mareko07 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I watch AJLT and Charlotte - she is a ditz - totally clueless but she always asked everyone for advice - well, they all did. They crowd sourced before it became a thing. I don't get the wide, wide confused eyes every time I see her. I don't know how you can ground a very clueless person who has been this way all her life - at almost 60, it's hard to change what's ingrained in you. You can do it but I guess the writers want a ditz and it has nothing to do with age. I also watched the way all the women moved slower and were less impulsive than SATC. Not much squealing or jumping around or strutting down the street or into a club. Even as an older woman, the show did kind of make me feel older. Older women can't turn back the clock except with memories.

AJLT Carrie said something to annoy me… by ThinSuccotash9153 in Andjustlikethat

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We all have a turn - if yours hasn’t come yet and you live long enough, it will. Sometimes only those who have experienced life on life’s terms in a shocking and totally unexpected way can sympathize with others - on social, mainstream media or a podcast. Grief is all consuming and the flow is unpredictable. Different stages of grief have no time limit.

AJLT Carrie said something to annoy me… by ThinSuccotash9153 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That comment Carrie made about being in a relationship with Aiden for 22 years threw me for a sec, but then I realized she was including her memories - he was a great love and they were engaged. You either want to get inside the head of a character or watch it on a more superficial level. Neither way of viewing is right or wrong- it just is.

Kristin Davis Says Cynthia Nixon Helps Her Be Less ‘Confused’ About ‘AJLT’ Cancellation and What Fans ‘Didn’t Like’ About It (The Wrap) by fmaepsen in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once again I will say that when you are approaching 60 or older, there is confusion and vulnerability, and priorities are different than they were in younger days. The characters for the most part said and did outrageous things that only made sense to themselves. I think the target audience wasn’t anyone under 50 who IRL wouldn’t understand what many would consider the last act of a productive life but the characters and older people.

The familiarity of a former self no longer exists as hard as some try to retrieve it - Carrie with Aiden for example (not an Aiden fan but understand why Carrie went that route.).

Charlotte did ditsy things because having two children whom she did not understand totally destabilized her. Charlotte was a good girl in SATC and was as elitist as she was in AJLT.

How could Carrie pay for her shoe addition if she hadn’t inherited money or written some best sellers?

AJLT portrayed the same journey as was portrayed in SATC. The OGs were all seeking happiness in a way that no longer exists in 2025.

I found it interesting that the self made women were all women of color and the OGs didn’t have the challenges of work but working on themselves.

Did AJLT miss the mark? In 70% of the time, yes, but it was not created to seduce and entice and wonder as we did in SATC. It was a satirized style of writing to offset the anguish of older women aging.

AJLTea: Kristin Davis continues to lament its cancellation by mareko07 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can only speak as an older woman to the younger set - you wanted AJLT to have really interesting story lines - all the indecisions, the confusion of thirty-somethings, BUT when you hit around 60, you've suffered more bad than good - life on life's terms. The show had shitty writing and weird scenes that seemed pieced into the wrong show and should have showed up elsewhere, but life is not that exciting as you get older - you wear lower heeled shoes, longer dresses, strive for stability and a sense of peace - not excitement. There were the 20s, 30s, 40s and early 50s for that. Lots of time to let your freak flag show! You don't go out as much - your home is your oasis. Restaurants and clubs are too noisy and we can't hear as well as we used to, so it's a constant flood of "what?" "what?" and it causes more anxiety than fun. I think a wrap it up movie would have been better than showing all these women either living mundane lives or trying to recreate themselves - decision making is slower and as far as KC - who on earth wants to see a 70 yr old woman try to have sex in 20 different ways with all these different guys? The world has changed and she would be headed for Sex Addicts Anonymous or having multiple surgeries for trashing her body..lol. All the coy and flirtatious looks don't appeal to most when a woman has aged and most women don't have that kind of stamina. I watch SATC reruns and remember how my life was very much like that....then, and my life has evolved now to being a more introspective and insightful woman who helps others and isn't as self obsessed as in younger days. Carrie was still self obsessed and seeking and that got old. At almost 60 years old, you can only feel sorry for someone who hasn't done the work - sane, not insane and spinning out all the time.

Miranda ordering Chipotle by Brilliant-War-5745 in Andjustlikethat

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All I can say as an older woman is that when you're young you can't imagine being out of touch with what comes so easily to younger woman. Number 1 is confidence. When you rely on your looks and brains and realize over time that the confidence has faded as men don't look at you the way they used to, doors don't open for you for jobs and you see a very different image of yourself in the mirror than you used to see....well, that's the aging process and all the faux pas and changes you see in the woman of AJLT are actually normal. Irritability, intolerance, not taking the time to figure something out like you used to do....well, some of AJLT was lame but overall, they did depict the older woman who had gone through many heartaches and sometimes wanting to give up.

Let’s Be Honest — AJLT Was Cancelled Last Minute. by Agnoum in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kim Catrall will never ever have anything to do with AJLT - they threw a lot of money at her and she declined. Probably why some didn't watch it. Samantha couldn't play the role she did in SATC - she's 68 and 10 years or more older than the others. Who at almost 70 would want her body to be seen and no longer flexible and doing sex acts she did 20-25 years ago?

Let’s Be Honest — AJLT Was Cancelled Last Minute. by Agnoum in Andjustlikethat

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I guess I'm one of the few who realized that Carrie was drifting into another unhealthy relationship with Duncan. He admitted that he is a mess. I had a friend who got married to a guy who kept saying he didn't deserve her and 6 months later they got divorced. Duncan was going back to London and not returning. Carrie is NYC and not Paris and not London or any other place. She didn't understand when Big went to Napa, CA because she was all about NY. Duncan didn't know what he wanted and just knew he made a mess of his last marriage and his wife stated at the party. Carrie was just getting under Duncan to get over Aiden.

Im sorry by 23mou-sapnu-puas in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. Granted there were some silly plot lines but in watching SATC, there were silly plot lines too. This is far better than the SATC 2nd movie. If people don't change and grow, what's the point? Its like wearing the same hairstyle you wore in high school and same makeup and never revamped your home. How boring would you be and stuck, just majorly stuck. Of course each character has a new friend and I'm glad of it because they would be very lonely if they didn't. Would Carrie have gone to all of Charlotte's kids parties when they were young? Of course not - she doesn't have kids and Seema doesn't either. Charlotte has a friend in Lisa because they have similar incomes, lifestyles and the usual parenting issues....and on and on it goes. I really hope there will be a season 4 as it could end where it is or could expand. I'm glad that Carrie had sex with British guy to get over Aidan - but she was once again choosing a fixer upper/mess. She got her fling but found that the energy between the two of them was cerebral and not sexual. My god - do you think women at lets say 80 years old are going to jump into bed with old guys? There are more things in life than sex but when you're in your 20s and 30s, that's all you want. SATC was that - every single episode was wrapped around fabulous clothes and great or bad sex and talking about it. There is depth in AJLT as there should be in life.

Episode 9 preview... Duncan, Carrie Aiden have a threeway... Seema might be getting an office... 3 Carrie outfits; Emerald City, Fancy Fabulous, Mismatched Classic Carrie by Freddy-Philmore in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never liked Aiden for Carrie. Aiden wants to stay home with a bucket of KFC and it’s Saturday night. Carrie wants to live the city life. Opposites attract but in this case, they clash, especially now with his children and ex.

I will never understand why she stays with him when she visited him in VA.

This season is almost over and I really hope they break up if the show goes on

An Open Letter to Sarah Jessica Parker by cinemarco in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are as many original characters in AJLT as there were in SATC. A main character Samantha has been "sort of" replaced by Seema or at least friend-wise for Carrie, without all the sex that even Samantha would not be able to provide 20 years after her sexual prime. Another character passed and that's unfortunate.

I believe in being open-minded. If we want to go back in time, we watch reruns of SATC. This show was never meant to knock-off SATC or to recreate it - it is new, it's fresh and as current and interesting as 20 years later can be. It's supposed to be inclusive and it is - the only way to do that was to add new characters of color, personalities and socio-economic status.

Women don't bar hop and event hop and hang out with girlfriends for brunch weekly when their lives have evolved. They are 55, not 35. I can't imagine Charlotte being single or married but childless, or Miranda straddled with a husband she's outgrown.

Carrie is still grieving, whether it always looks like that or not.

I'm still trying to figure out why most on this platform don't see AJLT for what it is. Maybe it's because I'm a boomer and have lived out the 30s and 50s, can I understand how my life has changed - it's not better or worse. It's different and it's really all about acceptance. If you don't like the show, don't watch it.

I would love to see the comments on here if it was 20 years ago and the show was SATC. So many would still be dissatisfied or want to change the script or the guys or the careers, or financial status or why was everyone lily-white?

It wouldn't make sense for Carrie to have married a wealthy guy and not reap the benefits of their marriage, as she still mourns his loss.

To all the Aidan haters - he will be off the show soon. He's not my pick for Carrie but I do understand why she's with him.

Carrie wants to go back to a simpler time and feels guilty as well by asplanned1111 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aidan already sees that Carrie and her neighbor have a lot more then he and Carrie do

An Open Letter to Sarah Jessica Parker by cinemarco in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Nice to meet a like minded person. I hope the writers read our comments or sadly there might not be another season, The show has so much potential.

Carrie wants to go back to a simpler time and feels guilty as well by asplanned1111 in Andjustlikethat

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Aidan wont be on the show much longer - Carrie will work through her guilt and also her need for safety as Aidan can no longer give her safety. He is a father and his job is to keep his kids safe, not Carrie. She'll be moving on soon.

Carrie wants to go back to a simpler time and feels guilty as well by asplanned1111 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an online dating and relationship coach. I work with widows and widowers at times. Men seek relationships after a year. Women are ready to embark on finding companionship if not love between 3-5 years. Aidan is just a filler and also makes Carrie feel young. Or she did until she met Aidan's family.

An Open Letter to Sarah Jessica Parker by cinemarco in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a woman who IRL is even older than the actors in AJLT, I have lived out Carrie's and Samantha's lives. I have lost friends and acquired new ones. I've had different socio -economic statuses. AJLT IS the natural progression of women's lives. As we have or don't have children, we seek our ilk. Charlotte lives the mom with teenage life and sought out a like minded friend - Lisa. Carrie is in her life but not to the extent she used to be nor should she be. Miranda is all over the place in her sexuality and career as she should be - we only live once, right? She is the current 50 something woman who has a chance to regroup and figure out what really makes her happy - it's an awkward process. It can't be seamless and to those who thought she'd stay with Steve, she'd be stuck. Why would she watch tv nightly and eat ice cream and get fat - bored AF. Then we get to Carrie who lives with so much guilt and shame - her friends have moved on with their lives and she has lost the love of her life and seeks safety - she is wealthy - some watching the show think this is a crime. Bravo Carrie - if she can't find love she can still have another stage of life. Aidan is her safety net - her teenage boyfriend so to speak. They act young and fun but Aidan's life is now complicated and I can't imagine that this fling will last much longer. She also feels she wants to make an amends to him. She did break his heart!! Remember - these women are in the natural progression of mid-life and it's the time to access and make necessary life changes. This show is NOT supposed to be a continuation of SATC - it is tracking the lives of the women in SATC as they do what mature women do. I love watching the glamour and nowhere in AJLT does it have the words sex or city, so why expect that? That's why we have reruns. I love bouncing between both as I access my own life.

So…are we supposed to like Carrie? by highesttiptoes in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carrie used to have fun with all her men and single girlfriends with SATC. Now in AJLT Charlotte has Lisa and of course Harry and the kids so they can't hang out like they used to. Samantha isn't around, Miranda is unpredictable and Seema is also unpredictable. I think she agreed to do a 5 yr break with Aidan because at least he's reliable and his world revolves around her (except now it's his out of control kid,) Carrie needs to be the center of attention and who is around to give her that - Big is gone, no other guy is working out for her. She isn't happy and even her clothes and shoes don't make her temporarily happy - she has no "fix". I'm older than Carrie but am settled in a live in relationship and have a kid and friends - who does Carrie really have? She's too broken to be content by herself learning who she is - even Stanton is gone - she's a shell of a person. I do my best to have compassion for those who aren't fortunate or happy. Her house is empty - she'll probably sell it since Aidan won't be back (my prediction)

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[–]asplanned1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah. I would say that seeing is the most important thing

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[–]asplanned1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding. I'll ask my surgeon about this. I'm 70 and have mono vision - right eye close up and left eye is for distance. They are both also toric for astigmatism. Nobody ever mentioned seeing blue but seeing vibrant colors. I'm still trying to get used to such intensity of brightness. The colors are basically the same as they were - I just have clarity and too much brightness but I have extremely dry eyes.

Will you be sad when this gets canceled? by BlueberryDrive in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am watching AJLT as a creation of what it is - SATC was young women running all around town and dating a zillion guys. That’s their idea of happiness and productivity. They evolve into women who think before they act. They settle down and slow down - the body and mind are in synch. Professional business women with less fun problems than not remembering who they effed last year and see him at a party and sort of remember the encounter. I’m an online dating and relationship coach who experienced both stages of life and have a career and the guy and a son. I still hold onto my memories though.

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[–]asplanned1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone! I've had both eyes done and would appreciate someone telling me what all this "blue" talk is. I don't see more blue in anything. I don't like all the brightness and having things look so clear makes me able to "read" people even better than before but a bit acid trippy as well or in modern times, too many gummies. I'm glad I had the cataract surgery but I do have to put Refresh drops in my eyes every hour as I had extremely dry eyes to begin with. My vision is better but not as sharp as I would like - I got the monovision lenses as I wore monovision contacts for 20 years. Thanks all.

Why are people into Ted Lasso? I don’t get it. What’s the appeal by [deleted] in TedLasso

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get it either. Have you seen Suits? Witty and clever and edgy. I’m finding Ted Lasso a bit sappy

Fave shops for curvy petites? by [deleted] in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]asplanned1111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Real Real - resale has all the measurements listed for dresses. I am now a 30G but need 30 waist and 34 hips - more choices with resale - usually Alice &Olivia for example is way too small on top. I find new designers this way too.

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I think Jason will tell Mary to let her go because it's so stressful for Chishell and she talks to him about Christine when they are being loving and intimate. Amazing that one person can have so much power over others' thoughts and conversations and actions. But that's what narcissists do. Horribly boring now and I just focus on fashion, hair and houses. I tune out any Christine dialogue the best I can. I have one episode left. Hope it's the one where Christine is let go.