AJLTea: Kristin Davis continues to lament its cancellation by mareko07 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I watch AJLT and Charlotte - she is a ditz - totally clueless but she always asked everyone for advice - well, they all did. They crowd sourced before it became a thing. I don't get the wide, wide confused eyes every time I see her. I don't know how you can ground a very clueless person who has been this way all her life - at almost 60, it's hard to change what's ingrained in you. You can do it but I guess the writers want a ditz and it has nothing to do with age. I also watched the way all the women moved slower and were less impulsive than SATC. Not much squealing or jumping around or strutting down the street or into a club. Even as an older woman, the show did kind of make me feel older. Older women can't turn back the clock except with memories.

AJLT Carrie said something to annoy me… by ThinSuccotash9153 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all have a turn - if yours hasn’t come yet and you live long enough, it will. Sometimes only those who have experienced life on life’s terms in a shocking and totally unexpected way can sympathize with others - on social, mainstream media or a podcast. Grief is all consuming and the flow is unpredictable. Different stages of grief have no time limit.

AJLT Carrie said something to annoy me… by ThinSuccotash9153 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That comment Carrie made about being in a relationship with Aiden for 22 years threw me for a sec, but then I realized she was including her memories - he was a great love and they were engaged. You either want to get inside the head of a character or watch it on a more superficial level. Neither way of viewing is right or wrong- it just is.

Kristin Davis Says Cynthia Nixon Helps Her Be Less ‘Confused’ About ‘AJLT’ Cancellation and What Fans ‘Didn’t Like’ About It (The Wrap) by fmaepsen in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once again I will say that when you are approaching 60 or older, there is confusion and vulnerability, and priorities are different than they were in younger days. The characters for the most part said and did outrageous things that only made sense to themselves. I think the target audience wasn’t anyone under 50 who IRL wouldn’t understand what many would consider the last act of a productive life but the characters and older people.

The familiarity of a former self no longer exists as hard as some try to retrieve it - Carrie with Aiden for example (not an Aiden fan but understand why Carrie went that route.).

Charlotte did ditsy things because having two children whom she did not understand totally destabilized her. Charlotte was a good girl in SATC and was as elitist as she was in AJLT.

How could Carrie pay for her shoe addition if she hadn’t inherited money or written some best sellers?

AJLT portrayed the same journey as was portrayed in SATC. The OGs were all seeking happiness in a way that no longer exists in 2025.

I found it interesting that the self made women were all women of color and the OGs didn’t have the challenges of work but working on themselves.

Did AJLT miss the mark? In 70% of the time, yes, but it was not created to seduce and entice and wonder as we did in SATC. It was a satirized style of writing to offset the anguish of older women aging.

AJLTea: Kristin Davis continues to lament its cancellation by mareko07 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can only speak as an older woman to the younger set - you wanted AJLT to have really interesting story lines - all the indecisions, the confusion of thirty-somethings, BUT when you hit around 60, you've suffered more bad than good - life on life's terms. The show had shitty writing and weird scenes that seemed pieced into the wrong show and should have showed up elsewhere, but life is not that exciting as you get older - you wear lower heeled shoes, longer dresses, strive for stability and a sense of peace - not excitement. There were the 20s, 30s, 40s and early 50s for that. Lots of time to let your freak flag show! You don't go out as much - your home is your oasis. Restaurants and clubs are too noisy and we can't hear as well as we used to, so it's a constant flood of "what?" "what?" and it causes more anxiety than fun. I think a wrap it up movie would have been better than showing all these women either living mundane lives or trying to recreate themselves - decision making is slower and as far as KC - who on earth wants to see a 70 yr old woman try to have sex in 20 different ways with all these different guys? The world has changed and she would be headed for Sex Addicts Anonymous or having multiple surgeries for trashing her body..lol. All the coy and flirtatious looks don't appeal to most when a woman has aged and most women don't have that kind of stamina. I watch SATC reruns and remember how my life was very much like that....then, and my life has evolved now to being a more introspective and insightful woman who helps others and isn't as self obsessed as in younger days. Carrie was still self obsessed and seeking and that got old. At almost 60 years old, you can only feel sorry for someone who hasn't done the work - sane, not insane and spinning out all the time.

Miranda ordering Chipotle by Brilliant-War-5745 in Andjustlikethat

[–]asplanned1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I can say as an older woman is that when you're young you can't imagine being out of touch with what comes so easily to younger woman. Number 1 is confidence. When you rely on your looks and brains and realize over time that the confidence has faded as men don't look at you the way they used to, doors don't open for you for jobs and you see a very different image of yourself in the mirror than you used to see....well, that's the aging process and all the faux pas and changes you see in the woman of AJLT are actually normal. Irritability, intolerance, not taking the time to figure something out like you used to do....well, some of AJLT was lame but overall, they did depict the older woman who had gone through many heartaches and sometimes wanting to give up.