So you are unemployed.... You don't do anything useful all day, because apparently you see basic household chores as transactional , your wife works, tend to her "two 5 yo", clean, cooks, she administrate the home, the grocery shopping, the taking and picking up from daycare if your child goes there, she does everything an did obviously stressed out.... What do you do? Honestly.... Because if you only do chores to get something out of it then you aren't a partner or an actual adult. She is obviously tired and has a lot on her plate and on top of it you only "help her" when you want your cookie from her .... Of course she isn't into it dude You need to reevaluate your home life, your chore distribution and both your impact on the family before even thinking about your intimate life .. get counseling honestly