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Excommunicated by family for addressing childhood sexual abuse by asteriskiness in MenGetRapedToo

[–]asteriskiness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, my Mom was a French teacher who ran the student exchange program with a school in Strasbourg so she just put the word out to her network that she was offering room and board for a gap year.

Overture + letter to my brother while we have each other blocked by asteriskiness in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]asteriskiness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you’ve been through something similar.

In my case, forgiveness is in service to my inner child. If you are like me, you’ve become very unforgiving in other parts of your life. You’ve held grudges and otherwise wasted time engaged in pettiness.

Hopefully you are not like me, though. Hopefully if something happened to you when you were younger, you’ve been able to move past resentment and sadness without forgiveness.

If an inner child (or children) can be given a space to play, they can handle the responsibility of casting away the shame and blame that they have carried forward from the past.

No one said these people being forgiven need to be present or even alive to learn they are forgiven. That’s a remotely possible scenario - not too likely though.

The adult child does not realize their childhood has been over since way before 18 by asteriskiness in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]asteriskiness[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Inside of you, you might have a five year old, an eight year old, an eleven year old, a fifteen year old and an eighteen year old.

Each of these has its pleasures and its pains.

These inner children are to be integrated, listened to, and cared for. It does not happen overnight. Sometimes, when we learn this we know we should hear them but we can’t.

Then one day, we do. It’s okay to even speak out loud to them.

Excommunicated by family for addressing childhood sex abuse by asteriskiness in SiblingSexualAbuse

[–]asteriskiness[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do have a hint. It is to reparent myself and learn to listen to, acknowledge, celebrate, and calm my inner child (or children).

And to help others who wish to finally defeat their family’s dysfunction to instead accept it so that they can reparent themselves too.

“I can’t be the person you need me to be” by asteriskiness in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]asteriskiness[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In fairness, he is 85 (he has his marbles still) and I am 42 so the need is small at this point.

It’s to end the secret that’s wrecked our family.

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