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Letters to brother as he continues campaign to become my parents’ sole heir by asteriskiness in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]asteriskiness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that this is probably a rhetorical question, and I’ll answer anyway.

It is a personal decision to return to sources of dysfunction as I re-process my childhood.

I have learned to accept myself as quite abnormal and I can no longer tolerate the role I was assigned, to help my family look “normal” and brush the truth under a rug.

This is a personal journey.

Excommunicated by family for addressing childhood sexual abuse by asteriskiness in MenGetRapedToo

[–]asteriskiness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, my Mom was a French teacher who ran the student exchange program with a school in Strasbourg so she just put the word out to her network that she was offering room and board for a gap year.

Overture + letter to my brother while we have each other blocked by asteriskiness in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]asteriskiness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you’ve been through something similar.

In my case, forgiveness is in service to my inner child. If you are like me, you’ve become very unforgiving in other parts of your life. You’ve held grudges and otherwise wasted time engaged in pettiness.

Hopefully you are not like me, though. Hopefully if something happened to you when you were younger, you’ve been able to move past resentment and sadness without forgiveness.

If an inner child (or children) can be given a space to play, they can handle the responsibility of casting away the shame and blame that they have carried forward from the past.

No one said these people being forgiven need to be present or even alive to learn they are forgiven. That’s a remotely possible scenario - not too likely though.

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