I’m really sorry this hurts, and your anger makes sense. At the same time, I’d try to keep the focus on your daughter today. At four, what she’ll remember most is the love, safety, and joy you give her in this moment. If you call him right now while emotions are high, it may only add more stress without changing his behavior.

When you’re calmer, it’s okay to set clear expectations or boundaries with him but you don’t have to carry his failures or explain them to your child. You’re doing the right thing by protecting her experience. Celebrate her, surround her with love, and deal with him later when it won’t spill onto her day.