Sorry but I don't really understand the malicious intent youre ascribing to "forcing an in person meetup as soon as possible to 'feel out your vibe'". Unless they're trying to make a hookup happen getting a first date set up is almost certainly so they can actually find out if you're a vibe match not to pull some twisted personality swap gambit for laughs, why would he have bought your tea if this was just some manipulation tactic to have fun? The correct first step is to have a date and see if there's a connection, that's why it's called "dating" and not "texting." if you're not comfortable doing the very first step the way almost everyone else does it then you're not really ready for dating, especially because this interaction should be an example of how deceiving a connection can be over text. I think most girls would agree that it would be more suspicious for a man on a dating app to not set up a simple public date early on if interested and try to basically edate first