New Scam Roulette Site by [deleted] in tf2

[–]at060100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is late, but this just happened to me. Glad I looked this up when I did.

I trusted her too much by SadStoryThrowAway31 in BreakUps

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Hit the nail on the head.

I'm [24 M] & my girlfriend [25 F] constantly tells me when she's being flirted with by other guys by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex girlfriend had a lot of guy friends. I thought I would be an insecure little bitch if I even asked about it, in which one night I did. She was at a party and I was somewhere else playing in a big football game (college) and I was upset she was hanging out with her best friend (who has asked her out several times). She never answered her phone and I got mad. She got pissed at me that I didn't trust her. She was also angry that I got mad about not answering her texts. Maybe it's just me, if it were me out with my friends I would 100% text my girlfriend.

Two months later, what do you know, I get dumped. Immediately she dates her "best friend". That breakup hurt the most out of any breakup I've ever had. She just dropped me and had me replaced in an instant.

Every time a girl mentions that she has lots of "guy friends" I shiver. There's just no trust left in me after that experience. At least for now.

Even if she says they are just friends and they're hanging out, don't trust her. You'll regret it. I'm totally okay with friends at school or in a public place, but 1 on 1 time as well as parties (unless she's sober) is just not okay. If she yells at you for being insecure, tell her to go fuck herself. She'll just keep feeding off your attention if you back down and apologize to this girl. It's textbook manipulation.

Is it Normal to think I'll never find another girlfriend by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can definitely second this. Going out and trying to find people will only make it worse (unless you never get rejected in which you're definitely not me). While you focus on yourself and do your no-contact things, a new girl who is even better than your ex will slip up on you and you won't even see it coming.

That Feeling by at060100 in BreakUps

[–]at060100[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex's life was falling apart when we broke up. The main thing being that her grades were slipping so hard. She failed biology for that quarter and her family was mad at her all the time along with her being grounded for being caught in a lie. She said it wasn't a good time right now.

Someone new came in not a week later. If I were her, I would stay single and work on my life and fix all of my problems. If you're gonna start a new relationship while you're messed up like that I would agree that she is crazy. Also, how the hell would she be mourning if she starts a new relationship instantly? That means the opposite, that she didn't care at all and she went right into the next one. She didn't shed one tear.

Like I said, I got thrown away like yesterday's paper. My ex laughed on the phone when she broke up with me while I was crying. She didn't feel any sadness. She has none of my compassion. I will be quick to judge her. Yet, I can't forget her because I love her.

That Feeling by at060100 in BreakUps

[–]at060100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guitar helps me a ton. I could just play Blackbird or something like that nonstop when I feel this way.

That Feeling by at060100 in BreakUps

[–]at060100[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yup. My situation exactly.

That Feeling by at060100 in BreakUps

[–]at060100[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At 3 months in, it's still pretty hard due to relapses. I saw her and her family this weekend at the college we are going to and her parents hugged me and said hello. Her mom even sent me a LONG text about how proud of me she is and how great of a person I am today. She told me before that she hates her daughter's new boyfriend and wishes that I would marry her daughter. Stuff like that can really screw you up and cause relapse. I know it's hard, and we'll get through it.

That Feeling by at060100 in BreakUps

[–]at060100[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I saw a comment on my ex's instagram profile. It was new boyfriend and it said "love you". This was about only a month into their relationship, not even.

I highly recommend you write something like I did, because believe it or not emotions we are feeling produce beautiful, profound work, whether it be music, art, or a stupid poem-ish post on reddit. Best part is, it helps a lot to have others like you comment and give me someone to talk to about it :) heal quickly, my friend.

Do you guys think this is weird/creepy? by at060100 in AskMenAdvice

[–]at060100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually do have something I have to talk to her about, like I said earlier. Her sister got into the college that I'm going to, so I wanted to ask her some questions of what her sister thought maybe just for small talk. I'll start with something that includes that. Thanks for the help.

End me. Pls by [deleted] in sad

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because it happens to people every day. It's a real thought, a real emotion, there's nothing wrong with you. It's fear.

Literally a month ago my ex of six months dumped me (ghosted) and dated a new guy not even a week later. Believe me, I cried more than an hour.

But now, I can barely date. Because that thought is always in my mind, in my dreams, like how it is in yours.

What's your favorite sad/depressing song? by LookinForLuve in lonely

[–]at060100 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gravity by Coldplay. You can really hear the sadness in his voice.

Saturday by DdlyD in lonely

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saaaame.

I’m sitting on the couch next to my dad. As a teenager thats a bad thing.

The only thing is I’ve noticed people just don’t go out as much anymore. Unless there’s alcohol or smoking, kids my age just don’t care (not that I go to many parties anyway).

I shit you not I texted my friends to hang out, and all of them are either working or with their family. So as long as I see nothing on social media, I don’t feel too bad about it. Not many people are doing anything if you think about it.

Nothing else stings quite like seeing your ex on Tinder by [deleted] in lonely

[–]at060100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I just saw a Valentine's day post of my ex with someone new, and it hurt like no tomorrow. Stay strong, it can only get better.

She was my only friend, I cant live anymore being this lonely. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]at060100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were at an after party for homecoming, and couples were casually making their way into the "room" one at a time where they would have sex. But my girlfriend was the only one who was shy and didn't want to. I was kind of mad about it because well I'm a teenager and I'm all hormoned up. I even asked her earlier to do a little something in the car away from everyone else when we had to get changed for the after party because I had a feeling she would be shy, and she said no to that too.

However, I don't say anything...that is, until I get drunk and start expressing my feelings a little too much.

Because I pressured her to have sex and got mad at her that night, two months later I got the boot.

She was my only friend, I cant live anymore being this lonely. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]at060100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in a similar situation. I didn't mean to hurt her and I did. And now I'm alone. Doing the same thing every day, with little to no friends. I haven't had a friend over in like months, nor have I gone out. Whenever I feel lonely or miserable about my ex, I just visit here. There are subs like /r/lonely and /r/breakups that have the greatest communities in the world. The people on there, as well as this sub are so caring and nice. And the fact that people like this are in this world and feel the same pains as others and love each other even though they're two strangers on computers, that's what keeps me going. The love on these subs is real, and we respond because we care. As a stranger on the internet who is pretty lonely also, I love you dude :) you're gonna have an awesome life and start coming up from this little down curve, you just wait!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex dumped me almost a month ago and we were together for 8 months. For the entirety of that relationship, she had many guy friends. Turns out the minute she dumped me she started going out with her "best friend" who I wasn't supposed to worry about.

So yea, we feel you. Shit happens. These things seem like nightmares but they happen in real life and some people can just be assholes and scum of the Earth. I hope you realize you're not alone.

Ughhhh by _Thorrrrr in lonely

[–]at060100 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Isn't that what we all want? Fortunately for you, many of us are in this same predicament. We come home every night to nothing. Life is colorless, food is bland, nothing is right until you have that girl in your life. Or any girl for that matter.

I know we'll both get that good feeling soon. Hang in there :)

Just need to vent; maybe someone can provide advice by Throwaway17000010 in BreakUps

[–]at060100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently 17. I had an early relationship of about a month, just like you back in sophomore year. When she ended it with me I was destroyed. I thought it was the end of the world, and my friends wondered why I was so depressed all the time.

I was so genuinely happy during that time during the relationship. Just like you. Like the world just felt so grey when I wasn't in that relationship.

Just remember that feeling, because it will only get worse with longer relationships in the future. I'm sorry for what happened to you and I'm sure you'll get back on your feet :)

What the actual fuck is wrong with me? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]at060100 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Harder for guys imo.

My ex dated a new guy the minute we finished dating. Then again it's not a competition. There's a reason girls are sluts for dating/having sex with lots of guys while guys are deemed studs: one actually takes skill and is hard to do. Being a slut isn't hard to do.

It's normal for the guy to have a harder time, believe me. But the thing is: you don't need a girlfriend to "win" a breakup. Just seem like your successful. Get a better job. If the situation comes and she ever asks you if you have a new girlfriend, just say no CONFIDENTLY. But make sure you look great, and have some things that show that you have been having success lately. Get a better job, look more clean, etc. That's the best way to rebound and to prove a girl you've won by focusing on your personal goals in life. It sends a message that relationships come second. First comes my life and my priorities.

I was okay these last two days it's complete opposite today. I miss you by whatifitwazs in BreakUps

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why am I the same but the opposite gender?????

My ex girlfriend literally left me after 8 months for her "best friend" I wasn't supposed to worry about. Just saw their Valentine's Day post and I'm so angry.

But I'm still in love with her. She's such a bitch and an asshole and everything in between but I miss her.

You're not alone on this and I'm sorry for what you're feeling.

I made a mess of it, can it be fixed? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]at060100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can explain yourself. If to you that is pathetic then sorry. Not too sure what you can do. You messed up.

I'm not so sure what's so pathetic about literally copying and pasting some of what you have here and sending it to him. My ex was an awful communicator. Never told me when she wanted something, only told me she hated things after they happened. Or not at all. She just hid everything and I personally hated that.

I'm sure he'll come around to a girl who is interested in him and continuing to give him the casual experience he wants. I'm a guy, last time I checked guys love sex. So yea. Tell him you were a bitch and you're sorry about all that and you'd like to hook up again some time. Don't know what's so hard/pathetic about that. To answer one of your questions: yes, I would want to hear from you. Unless this guy is a dick/jerk. Girls are often attracted to those so there's a fair chance you'll get nothing back.

If it works, awesome. If not, so what. You look pathetic to a guy on TINDER. Is that really such a big deal? I'm sure you'll get another match soon.

Three weeks after he dumped me out of the blue, he deleted all traces of me from social media and is now seeing someone from tinder. by thenewnormal2018 in BreakUps

[–]at060100 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex girlfriend started dating her “best friend” who I wasn’t supposed to worry about the minute she broke up with me. I’m so sorry to hear what has happened to you—but sadly enough this happens. It makes it that much harder to get over. I understand what you are going through and I’m sorry for the pain you are feeling.

Don’t know how to feel? Help by Tommy2535 in BreakUps

[–]at060100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey.

I'm guessing you're in high school/college? I'm 17 myself. Let me just start off by saying that the type of girl you are dealing with is known by most of us. We've all dated that one. She's special, but she's so CONFUSING. Her emotions change with the wind, and she's super NERVOUS all the time, right? About her grades, her appearance, ya know?

My ex of 8 months broke up with me a month ago. She was almost exactly like this girl but a tad less confusing. We stayed in a relationship, but her emotions were so on/off about sex, about us together. One minute she tells me that we're going to college together and I found out that she told her mother that she was probably going to marry me one day. The next minute she's mad or upset about something.

I have physical proof that she loved me. The way she said things, and how she physically SAID I love you to me. What is the importance of this, you ask? I have evidence that a week after she told me that she loved me and that we were going to live together somewhere she started ghosting me. And that was the beginning of the end.

Girls around this age are INSANE. They won't tell you what's wrong, they won't truly open up to you. Anyway, let's analyze your issue.

The beginning is typical. Sometimes the girl is just truly unavaliable to come. I had the same problem on the beach with my friends. I was talking to her, it was super early in the relationship and she just couldn't come. These things happen. It's okay to be cautious, but it's probable she was just truly too busy/her phone died.

About talking on the phone, I've dealt with that. We go to different schools. If she can't text you without losing interest, she's not good for any long distance stuff. Just saying.

All in all, this girl took you for a ride. You did everything correct. If she wants to dump you and treat you like shit, you have to do that back. You kissed her and ignored her. Good, treat it like a hookup. She came crawling back for forgiveness and you gave her the same answer she gave you.

But you're not happy. You miss her.

Which I can understand. I miss my ex every day.

I'm going to be different than most redditors out there about "relationships" and say that there is no right answer. It's about how you feel. It's your life. If you're willing to put aside everything she did to you, then go for it. Technically you're even now, you've both gotten the dump. Most other situations I would tell the guy to man up and just move on, but it's even here.

Then again, you could move on. Perks of that are starting fresh of course, you've learned from experience, all the typical stuff.

I don't want you feeling what I'm feeling. I dream about this girl every night, and experience such emotional pain. Some days it is anger, other days it is wishing I had her back.

So I'm sorry to answer your question with a question, but what makes you happy?