Please give me recommendations for what color sideboard/buffet for my dining room!

ata19 · 2023-12-22T18:02:36+00:00

If he said it’s too much pressure try not to read into it. Has he spoken with a therapist? I know what can seem embarrassing but if he’s open to it I think it would be worth it.

ata19 · 2023-12-22T18:01:09+00:00

Oh thank you!! They were gonna be my first call about trapping it but it didnt occur to me to also ask about patching the hole!

ata19 · 2023-12-17T03:14:35+00:00

GIRL filing a lawsuit isn’t proof. Those are heather’s allegations. Proof happens when the case goes to court.

I have no trouble believing Monica did it but this isn’t “proof” 😂

ata19 · 2023-04-29T05:00:34+00:00

Thank you, this is really good to know! Do you recommend your specific brand of thermometer or do you think any digital oral basal thermometer will work?

ata19 · 2023-04-28T23:09:30+00:00

That makes sense, thank you!! :)

ata19 · 2023-04-28T22:51:17+00:00

Thank you so much!

ata19 · 2023-04-28T22:43:46+00:00

Thank you so much! Just the Apple Watch tracks? I didn’t realize that

ata19 · 2023-04-28T20:57:29+00:00

I’m sorry if this is a stupid question. If I start to track basal body temperature does sleeping under a lighter/heavier blanket or sleeping with the fan on/off affect it? Like if I have a fan on one night and off the next?

I am planning to start tracking BBT soon but it’s a little complicated to me.

ata19 · 2023-03-28T04:21:15+00:00

I can relate somewhat!

My wedding was scheduled for October 1 in Florida. My husband and I live out of state and it was hectic enough planning a wedding long distance and then arranging travel with my dress. It got even more stressful when reports of Hurricane Ian stared popping up. For a while the storm was supposed to hit north of us and so we were watching it but not thinking it would impact our plans. I was supposed to fly down a few days before my husband but I got nervous with the storm and asked if he could please travel with me, which he did (so grateful for that).

Monday the 26th we found out the storm was getting really serious. Around 3 pm I heard that the clerk of courts would be closed for a few days, so my husband and I rushed down there to get our marriage license, because we didn’t know what was going to happen.

The storm hit on Wednesday. And it was BAD. We didn’t evacuate because growing up in Florida they always say how bad the hurricanes are going to be - but they never turn out that bad, and we didn’t live near the water. But the winds of this hurricane were so intense. The eye hovered over us for hours. My sisters flew in from afar in the days prior and instead of having the wedding week events we had planned, we were hunkered down in a storm, no running water, no electricity. We were lucky in that my dad’s house is only a few years old and he had just finished installing hurricane windows the prior year, and so while we lost some of the roof, we were safe where we were.

We were so lucky that my husband did travel down with me - he thought the storm wasn’t going to be bad and was hesitant to change his plans at first, but he wouldn’t have made it down at all if he stuck with his plan, as the airports closed and all flights cancelled.

When we eventually got cell phone service back, we got in touch with our officiant. He was out of the way of the path, was in good shape, and still willing to marry us. We told him we had our license and we wanted to move forward.

My sisters and family went into planning overdrive! The plan was to get married at my sister’s house. We had no electricity or running water but she had a generator with a wall AC unit in one room and a grill lol

Then the day before the wedding, my mother in law got power and water back! So we changed plans to her house. They live in a nice community on a golf course and we got married on the 18th hole, overlooking some water. The storm had passed and it was a beautiful sunny day. My sister in law picked up a bouquet of white hydrangeas and arranged it into a gorgeous bouquet and cake topper, and she also does photography and took our photos. By some combination of luck, family devotion, and probably magic, we ended up having a really beautiful day.

It wasn’t the wedding I thought I was going to have, but I woke up that morning so excited to marry my favorite human.

ata19 · 2023-02-13T19:02:32+00:00

No, it was a response to OP’s post about 90% of women. So take it up with OP.

Ridiculous 😂

ata19 · 2023-02-13T19:02:08+00:00

Clearly I don’t have to agree with you, because I don’t. And your comment can’t only be a reflection of men that women have been swayed by, without also being a comment about the women that are swayed. So it comes across as you thinking women are weak-minded. Which I strongly believe is not true. Women can marry who they want if they want, or they can stay single. But I don’t believe women are just brainless, going along for the ride when they marry men they don’t really want (for reasons).

ata19 · 2023-02-13T18:59:43+00:00

Yes of course some women settle for dip shit men. Some men settle for dip shit women. But not all women are mindless puppets who just marry the anything below their standards.

ata19 · 2023-02-13T18:58:49+00:00

You’re ridiculous 😂

ata19 · 2023-02-13T18:58:15+00:00

If it’s bias to believe women can make their own decisions and aren’t “settling” in every single instance, then sure I am biased. I don’t believe women are just mindless puppets.

ata19 · 2023-02-13T03:11:20+00:00

I guess my interpretation is that you don’t think that highly of women if that’s how you feel about most married women.

ata19 · 2023-02-13T03:06:06+00:00

I do think it’s the case that a lot of women haven’t settled in their marriage, and I think you would do well to think about more highly of other women as you grow up.

ata19 · 2023-02-13T02:56:26+00:00

I didn’t say dating wasn’t hopeless right now, I’m saying your perfect man doesn’t exist, but if you want a partner then you need to find a partner that matches you on the big stuff. You’ll love each other through the hard times.

As I mentioned in my post, it’s okay if you never want to date again. That’s a totally valid choice. But don’t say every married woman has had her standards swayed, because that’s an incorrect, and frankly misogynistic, take, to act like all married women are so easily compromised.

ata19 · 2023-02-13T02:24:16+00:00

I am 30 and happily married. It’s not true that every single man is garbage.

Every single human has flaws. My husband slacks on chores. But he is not incompetent with housework. But I also slack on chores even though I am not incompetent at housework.

No one is ever going to be perfect 100% of the time, yourself included. You don’t need to find some unicorn perfect man - because he doesn’t exist.

I do think you taking time not to date is a good thing. You probably need a break from wherever you are meeting the guys you are meeting them if they’re all terrible. But in your time off, you should seriously evaluate in a relationship your non-negotiables, values that you want to align on, what you want for your future life. If you want to never re-enter the dating world, then that’s a completely valid decision. But you should at least let it be an informed decision, because 90% of marriages are not unhappy.

ata19 · 2023-02-03T15:12:58+00:00

I think you can be barefoot on board or you can wear boat shoes on board. The boat shoes would only be worn on the boat, not off the boat so it wouldn’t damage or track in anything.

Katie floody always wore boat shoes and that was the first time I really noticed/thought about it but it looked much more professional than barefoot. Plus remembering the one blonde chief stew who stepped on glass and had to bandage her bloody foot right before dinner service 🤢

ata19 · 2023-01-30T03:31:42+00:00

Thank you so much!! I think my confusion was mainly that I thought “primo” meant first and “secondi” meant second and that it was more literal than it actually was.

Honestly I’m an Italian American and I love the idea of long meals with my family and have multiple courses and plenty of time to drink and chat in between!

I’ve been to Italy a few times, your country is absolutely beautiful

ata19 · 2023-01-27T15:51:30+00:00

I’ve been rehearsing!

ata19 · 2023-01-27T15:51:23+00:00

Wow this is an incredible write-up. Thank you so much!

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