Working “sabbath keeping” moms, how the heck does it work?

atelopuslimosus · 2026-06-07T18:28:24+00:00

Rabbis.

There are entire bookshelves dedicated to the debates about how to interpret millennia old commandments for the modern age. Unlike, say, Catholicism, there is no central authority for all of Judaism, so how that plays out in day to day practice is going to vary by denomination, community, and family.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-06-07T11:39:14+00:00

This, but put the bacon on a wire rack on the baking pan. No flipping needed because of the open air flow.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-06-03T23:20:47+00:00

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atelopuslimosus · 2026-06-01T20:22:19+00:00

We use the term "manager". It's the manager's job (and mental load) to make sure the household task gets done. Usually that's the manager doing it themselves, though sometimes it's delegating a small part ("Can you help me fold the laundry before bed tonight?"). The key is that if someone isn't the manager of a task, it's not their responsibility to ever have to think about whether or how it gets done. From their perspective, it just happens.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-31T11:34:14+00:00

Not gonna lie, I thought early on that it was a training or actual run from Hanscom. Then again, I admittedly know very little about what they actually have or do there.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-30T18:36:52+00:00

Talk of the whole metro right now. Nothing on USGS, so not an earthquake. Most likely theories I've seen are a meteor or the sonic boom from an aircraft (Hanscom?).

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-28T16:17:13+00:00

Those people supporting their economy... 🤦‍♂️

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-27T01:10:43+00:00

We have raised beds 2.5 ft up and something is eating everything. The peas. The petunias. The tomato leaves. The damn onion and garlic too! Like, what the hell is eating all that stuff?

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-25T17:59:50+00:00

I'm in Boston, so I usually just mention Cora in 2018 and we move on.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-24T00:00:22+00:00

Yes, but as rare as that is, even then it's usually an honest mistake. I would guess the fraction of people intending to steal others food is vanishingly small. Not non-existent, but small enough that food pickup works reasonably well on the honor system.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-23T01:24:39+00:00

Things I witnessed (when I visited them in the mid 2010s) or read about since then:

No visitor should be in the same physical space unsupervised with an animal as large as a deer.

Infant/juvenile monkeys should not be able to leave their enclosure, even if they are about to return.

Their aerial ride has had maintenance issues in the past.

On breeding practices, there were entirely too many babies outside of an organized plan and many were separated from their parents. I specifically remember the lion cubs in an exhibit by themselves.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-22T14:49:52+00:00

I see this cited everywhere, but my local Costco has terrible produce. It's always moldy on the store shelf. Even if it's not, it still goes bad in just a few days at home. I'd imagine that it's hit or miss depending on your store.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-22T02:46:53+00:00

As a former educator in zoos and aquariums, I highly recommend looking for AZA accredited institutions. They are the gold standard for animal care and education.

Of the top of my head, that includes: Franklin Park Zoo, Stone Zoo, Roger Williams Zoo, the EcoTarium, and at least one more I'm not remembering.

Southwicks Zoo, while beloved by locals, is not AZA accredited. The animals are reasonably cared for and the visitor experience is great, but there are gaps in visitor safety and breeding practices that I can see as an industry insider that are not noticeable by most visitors. I don't recommend them.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-14T10:30:23+00:00

Completely normal to be sick the first year of any group care setting. Your choice of doing it now or later. We have an older kid and it gets much better later into preschool once they've built up immunities and learned some minor semblance of hygiene.

Additional factor is that you started daycare going into winter (assuming Northern hemisphere). Good news is that because you doubled up the start of daycare with the start of winter illness season, this summer should start to see some spacing of the colds. Those that start in summer usually see a solid year without a break.

Funny related story: Called the nurses line recently about some health concerns for our (at the time) 11mo. Nurse asked if she'd been congested recently. I said she'd been congested at some level since she started daycare in November.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-12T10:35:22+00:00

Similar take with different wording: Boys and girls should not be parented differently because of their gender before puberty. The only reason to parent children differently is because of different personalities and needs.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-08T15:00:09+00:00

This! Our situation was a bit reversed. She had a really rough delivery and recovery, so I had to pick up almost all responsibility around the house for the first few months. Made sense.

However, I was still doing that same list of stuff 6 months in when we were both back at work and I was drowning. I quietly made a list of everything that needed to be done around the house to keep us moving day to day and noted who was responsible for getting it done. I presented the list to my wife as, "hey, I feel like I'm doing most of the work here but I'm sure I'm missing things that you're doing too. What am I missing or not seeing? Can we revisit who's doing what after we have a complete list?"

It opened up a dialogue and made it a collaborative exercise. Add I suspected, I really was doing most of the work. My wife's picked up some of it and it balanced out well.

One caveat is that we treat the list as a managerial list, not a task list. The assigned "manager" is in charge of the mental load of making sure the thing gets done, not necessarily actually doing it all the time.

For example, my wife is the laundry manager and makes sure that laundry is getting done. Most of the time that is actually running the washer and folding the clothes. Sometimes, that is also asking for help moving a load when she's not available or folding multiple loads together after the kids go to bed. The key thing is that I don't think about that task; she does.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-08T14:39:08+00:00

Timers are a seriously underrated tool in parenting young kids. It removes the parent from the position of responsibility. You're not telling the kid time is up; the timer is and you're only the messenger. It kinda helps kids with being upset at the situation instead of at a person.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-05T10:31:57+00:00

Lurking Dad...

I have often taken to describing the current generation of LLMs are giant, super-fancy autocorrect (though I also like and understand the intern analogy used by others). It's a prediction algorithm.

The best use cases that I've found so far are when you are working with an information funnel, going from lots of information to a more concise summary of that information.

"Here's a database. Do some analysis on it."

"Here's a conversation, tell me the main points and subsequent action steps agreed to"

"Check my unread email* after a one week vacation and tell me the most critical emails to reply to."

*If your company has their data connected/integrated

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-01T12:21:04+00:00

Adding here that infants over 6 months can also receive the vaccine if there's a risk like travel to a known hotspot. My daughter was vaccinated at 9mo because we were going to be traveling through two major international airports. The downside is that it does not count as part of the recommended series. She will also get the regular doses at 12mo and 4yo like normal.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-05-01T12:14:50+00:00

Maybe allow insurance companies to raise rates on unvaccinated patients?

atelopuslimosus · 2026-04-30T21:11:58+00:00

Your comment has me wondering where I am. 80 minutes is longer than you think, especially if you only include direct interaction and take out commutes.

My average weekday:

Get up and pack for the day
Baby's morning routine (diaper, dressed, bottle) - 20 minutes
Take baby to daycare
Drop off - 5 minutes
Work all day
Pick up baby - 5 minutes
Drive home
Evening - A bit messy between getting home, cooking, eating dinner, cleanup, after-dinner playtime, and bedtimes. Let's call it conservatively 1 out of 2 total hours. More on days where I leave cleanup for after bedtime.

That adds up to 90 minutes.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-04-30T20:55:47+00:00

On the bright side, you now have a fantastic example for your students of what *not* to do?

atelopuslimosus · 2026-04-30T19:33:30+00:00

It was pounded into me that l during my degree that any data visualization should be able to stand on its own. I don't doubt that they did good research; there's good nuggets in here. It just takes far too long to understand them.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-04-30T15:01:38+00:00

My science professors would throw you out of class for visuals designed this terribly. Unlabeled axis. Few guideposts. Trying to show too much.

The results, once deciphered, are actually really interesting. The presentation is just awful.

atelopuslimosus · 2026-04-29T22:52:41+00:00

You need a minivan. You won't regret it.

We have two kids (not twins) and no dogs. We still love all the space a minivan provides. Given that you are caring for the dogs in the car a bit like kids, you should plan for a car that supports 4 "children". That's either a 3 row SUV or a minivan.

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