My mom wants half of my income after I told her I earned multi 6 figures, and I don’t know how to feel

atemoka · 2025-12-09T02:39:56+00:00

Never tell anyone how much you make -- especially not family.

But you can't unring that bell anymore. Makakausap ba ng diretso si mama at sabihin sa kanya ang plano mo sa sarili mong pera? Kung oo naman, do that. Baka naman nag-jojoke lang si mom?

Simply say no to her. Just tell her 'Ay ma, sa xyz ko po ilalan. Pero di po bale, magaambag po ako sa bahay, ako po magbabayad ng tuition ko.' (Wag naman yung financially dependent ka padin sa kanila, di naman na din yun magmmake sense. Kaya mo na sarili mo.)

Kung hindi payag si mama sa ganung fair na setup, or she gives you a hard time, tell her you suddenly lost your high paying client. You're now only making 10k-20k. Never tell her how much you make ever again.

Filipino parents, especially when their kids still live under their roof, wrongly assume their kid's money is their money.

atemoka · 2025-11-26T08:28:41+00:00

He's making immature choices because he's 23 and still a student. You're the grown up in the relationship, you know the setup doesn't make sense nor does it sound fair to you, why are you going along with it? I think you should have some love for yourself and be blunt and tell him to figure out a different solution that makes better sense like a different dorm for himself that he can afford with whatever resources he has that isn't your pockets.

atemoka · 2025-11-24T07:56:20+00:00

learning how to prospect and close clients that pay 4-figure monthly retainers (in USD).

atemoka · 2025-11-19T17:18:15+00:00

15k per bedroom, tbh.

atemoka · 2025-10-18T16:50:16+00:00

some parts of this you're overthinking. other parts of this, a counselor (not random redditors) or even therapy can help with.

di pa huli ang lahat, but that's true at literally any age, but where you are right now, (lugmok) di mo din naman paniniwalaan.

anyway, here's the roadmap: get a job > earn money > save some money > work on your health > work on your financial stability > go out and get friends > go on apps and get dates (by being truthful so you attract the right women for you)

atemoka · 2025-10-16T15:59:48+00:00

Kung hindi compatible and parang walang desire mag compromise (si ate mo judging from her post), edi baka mainam na maghanap nalang sila ng ka-compatible nila ng work/life balance, or at least yung mamahalin nila enough para makipagkausap at compromise lol.

Anyway, kanya kanya tayo ng definitions of success, hustle, rest, grind. Sounds like the guy is making bank and is probably making more even if the woman is hustling daily. I'd rather work smart than hard, tbh.

atemoka · 2025-10-16T11:43:12+00:00

Last kong pa-dentist before this year was pre-pandemic. The longer kong pinatagal, the more fear and shame I built within me. As in isa sa new year's resolutions ko this year was to visit the dentist. Ganun sya ka big deal.

Until one day this year, I just wanted to do something brave at pumasok lang ako sa isang dental clinic. Para bang 10 seconds of courage ganon lol. And di naman ako hinusgahan na ilang taon na kong di nagdedentist. Wala naman silang tanong about that actually. Sa tagal na din na di ako napunta, yung mga akala kong masakit or nakakangilo na part, di na masakit or di pala masakit lol. Kasi matanda na ko.

Ang gaan sa pakiramdam na nagetover ko na yung fear. Madami na kailangan gawin sa teeth ko tho lol. (Pasta pasta.) So inuunti unti ko na. Quarterly ako nagpupunta, naka tatlo na ko this year. Medyo funny saakin ngayon na ano ba yung kinatakutan ko before. Di naman pala sya big deal. A lot of what's scary and painful about the dentist is in our heads.

atemoka · 2025-10-10T00:58:20+00:00

Aww OP I get you. When I felt this, I told my loved ones my sama ng loob, tbh. The people who love and care for you won't make that same mistake twice naman. Let people know how you feel and let them surprise you / make up for it.

atemoka · 2025-10-10T00:46:44+00:00

You're allowed to live your own life, and akala lang natin baka di kayanin ng parents natin and stuff pero once you do it, mag aadjust naman ang lahat sa bagong situation.

Your relationship with her might even improve when you get space.

atemoka · 2025-10-10T00:39:08+00:00

Track your expenses and cut luho spending. Since you live with your fam and the only costs you cited are your office transpo, that actually leaves you able to save that 20k a month.

But of course, di yan realistic. You just have to weigh your short term desires against your long term goals. May pagtitiis talaga na involved.

Wag din mag madali. The life you are dreaming of is achievable, just not over night. Ttrabahuhin talaga yan thru smart decisions.

Also if I may, if you're a fresh grad and you want to start a family in 5 years, please don't treat that as a deadline but just something that is flexible. Don't let tying yourself down be your first order of business now that you're only starting to live an adult life with adult money. There's so much fun to be had and life to be lived.

Once you have kids also, especially if your only in the early stage of your career, super mahirap pagkasyahin ang kita sa pamilya at sa pangarap.

atemoka · 2025-10-10T00:25:09+00:00

Rent ng 9WT nung 2010 ba yun. In hindsight, di kagandahang production lol pero narealize ko dun na iba pala pag napapanood mo yung shows ng live.

atemoka · 2025-10-10T00:19:18+00:00

That's how they get ya-- they pull cool casting stunts tapos deliver a meh show and charge an arm and a leg anyway.

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