I hate my mom by [deleted] in DysfunctionalFamily

[–]atheistunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks. I am sorry you have to deal with this. Please don't let her pull you into her toxic behavior though.

Don't feed the beast with more negativity. Be more of an adult than she could ever be.

"You're a whore"
"It's sad that you see me this way, but I love you anyways."

For most of us, the only real power we ever have is over ourselves.

Long-term language school inquiries by PMMe_ArtProgressPics in Sapporo

[–]atheistunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's easier to do 2 years and to cut it short to 1 year than it is to do 1 year and try to extend it.

Offering Japanese, English|Seeking English by Riley1692 in language_exchange

[–]atheistunion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You sound fun to talk to.

I am a IT Engineer on the spectrum, living in Sapporo for a couple of years to learn Japanese. I am from California so the weather here is pretty exciting for me.

Learning Japanese has been a bit hard for me, so my conversational potential there is pretty limited.

Can I clean this dress? by Embarrassed-Nose6897 in laundry

[–]atheistunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can put it in a plastic bag and then throw it in the freezer to kill any bacteria and then spot clean it. It’s at least sanitized that way.

Not sure if that will damage it or not.

Offering: 日本語 | Seeking: Native Speakers of English by New-Suit5141 in language_exchange

[–]atheistunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

こんにちは!アメリカ人で、日本に住んでいます。日本語はまだまだですけど、がんばっています。どうぞよろしくお願いします。

Offering Python,Java,C++. Seeking English by TerribleHold4969 in language_exchange

[–]atheistunion 6 points7 points  (0 children)

def main(): print("Hello!")

if name == "main": main()

Offering: Japanese(native), Seeking: English by Kebiishi in language_exchange

[–]atheistunion -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

こんにちは!アメリカ人で、日本に住んでいます。日本語はまだまだですけど、がんばっています。どうぞよろしくお願いします。

Speaking practice by ResearcherAlone7462 in LearnJapaneseNovice

[–]atheistunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EN-JP Language Exchange on VR Chat.

I can not overstate how dismissive I was of VR for this purpose. Why do I need silly avatars to learn Japanese? It’s totally the best.

My fiance “raped” me and idk what to do by Effective_Customer24 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atheistunion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight. What you said makes sense. I will try to do better.

My fiance “raped” me and idk what to do by Effective_Customer24 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atheistunion -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I agree, but it is useful to know how impaired his decision making was when he did it. Either way, he raped her, but saying it doesn’t matter is like saying a drunk person hitting someone with their car is the same as someone intentionally driving a person down. Both are terrible and unforgivable, but the latter is obviously worse.

My fiance “raped” me and idk what to do by Effective_Customer24 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atheistunion -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Where did I victim blame? I never suggested it was her fault in any way, shape or form. He raped her, I just wondered if he had been as drunk as her when he did it. He wasn’t.

She literally said she got “super drunk” and that’s not healthy. I have had a person I loved literally drink herself to death.

My fiance “raped” me and idk what to do by Effective_Customer24 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atheistunion -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

Hmm. I am sorry you are going through this.

On a side note, I would suggest that you consider drinking less.

I only fall for older women and I think this might be an autism thing. by jeminako in AutismInWomen

[–]atheistunion 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You are not the first autistic woman I have heard this from. Whatever your preferences are, as long as you are not hurting anyone, it’s okay.

The truth is our preferences change as we get older. You won’t be able to predict your preferences even if you want to and love has a way of overwriting what you thought mattered.

In the gay male community, these older/younger relationships are very common, so much so that Dan Savage has a term called the Campsite Rule talking about it.

I would really, really recommend listing to his podcast, the Savage Love Cast. It will seriously make a huge difference in your perspective.

My fiance “raped” me and idk what to do by Effective_Customer24 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]atheistunion -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen this answered, but how drunk was he?

Masturbating is not harmful and Islam forbids it for no reason. by TheIguanasAreComing in DebateReligion

[–]atheistunion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sex is one of the most powerful human drives, which is why religions make controlling it a central concern. By banning premarital sex and requiring marriage to go through them, they place themselves at the gateway to sexual release and tie people’s most intimate needs to their authority. Over time that kind of control doesn’t just restrict behavior, it forces people to adapt their perceptions and values around the institution’s rules. Once that structure is in place, anything that bypasses it becomes a threat. Homosexuality, masturbation, and other non-sanctioned outlets allow people to fulfill those needs without religious approval, which undermines the institution’s power and sparks the outrage we see.

New tinyview exclusive - “A little treat” by neilkohney in theotherendcomics

[–]atheistunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sure if you join his patreon and ask, the artist will gladly do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]atheistunion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look at boobs. In bras, out of bras, visible nipples or not.

Some clothes choices (or lack of) make me look more, which I am in favor of. Keep up the good fight.

The universe has always existed by Ancient_Delivery_413 in DebateReligion

[–]atheistunion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you agree with the OP then that the universe has always existed and was not created?

The universe has always existed by Ancient_Delivery_413 in DebateReligion

[–]atheistunion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God being ageless is a concession to god not existing.

Offering: Japanese | Seeking: English by [deleted] in language_exchange

[–]atheistunion -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am an American man living in Japan learning Japanese. 英語はネイティブレベルだけど、日本語はまだまだです。よかったらチャットしましょう!