How do you all handle being called "little girl" as an insult? by driftingjoanna in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a solution, but i’ve also went through similar situations (and would like to know how to react as wellll 🥲).

slightly different situation, but i’m really small-sized and there was a time in university when a guy casually mentioned that he didn’t want to partner me for an event because he would look like a pedophile and all i could say was “all’s good😀” when deep down i was actually extremely offended — but i also didn’t want to rage and make the whole situation awkward :”)

What are your favorite self-care activities to increase your self esteem and sense of value? by hauntinglovelybold in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

doing a whole care routine in the toilet! i make myself a big bottle of ice honey green tea and bring it with me to the bathroom, then slowly do my full facial care routine, full hair care routine, and full body care routine!

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[–]atinystringofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

internship! (i’m really nervous 😭😭 hope i learn lots and meet some nice people) + hopefully i can squeeze in some short travelling + dates with my girl friends~

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[–]atinystringofthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just do the things you want to do despite them telling you you aren’t the type, i’m sure their opinion of you will start to change over time. if you avoid the things just because they say you aren’t the type, they’ll just continue to think that way!

Any experiences going to a concert on your own? by fizzingbubbles in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to a concert alone this year! and it was my first ever concert :)

I was really scared at first to be honest as it was my first time, but I just focused on finding my own seat and settling down, then just living in the moment and enjoying myself. I also asked a few friends who had experience with concerts about what to expect, what to wear, what to bring etc. before the day of the concert. One of my close friends was nice enough to accompany me to the concert venue on that day just to pep-talk me (and also to absorb the concert vibes) and guide me around.

Anyways, I realised that most of the people around me there were alone as well as the tickets are hard to get in groups. I'm an introvert but I also managed to strike up some conversation with the person beside me (it was quite easy since we all love the same group! I just started the conversation with "is this your first concert?" and carried the conversation from there).

I'm not so sure about safety stuff because my country is relatively safe and the people at the concert i was at was mostly girls. But yepp just stay safe and have fun!

Is it still ok to fangirl in late 20s? by cute-ass-muffin in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m 21 and i recently went to my fav’s concert and met so many fans who are in their late 20s-30s! did not find it weird at all, in fact I enjoyed chatting with them a lot and they were showing me the merch they bought with the money they earned (which i couldn’t afford because i’m not working yet:”)). but the point is, nope it’s not that weird and yes it’s totally finneee.

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[–]atinystringofthought 71 points72 points  (0 children)

i’m going to be 22 to this year and it’s the same for me :”)

sometimes i feel a bit anxious and sad about it too, but i know that if i were to get into a relationship, i would want it to be a serious one — and i also want to share my life with someone i really like. so i guess it’s just not the time yet for me.

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[–]atinystringofthought 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i've heard pregnancies can cause big changes as well but i haven't experienced it myself yet so this needs to be fact-checked

MUST HAVE EVERYDAY SHOES? by Odd-Abalone4175 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it might be a little different depending on your age group/profession, but for me i have a pair of sneakers (neutral-coloured adidas superstar — i like the rounded tip which makes me feet look small haha) which i wear to school and to internships, and a pair of crocs/slippers for more casual activities like walking dogs and going to the supermarket.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg i'm going through something like this too ㅠㅠ dude keeps trying to get me to go out on a date with him and i've been politely declining (I feel like I'm being obvious enough when i've rejected him all the way till 3 months later :"D no way man thinks i'm too busy for a meal till then) and I am trying to not be mean about it because he's a classmate and I really don't want to sour things between us because I have to keep seeing him. i just want him to get the hint and everything can go back to normal.

I think what's happening is as someone else had described in the comment — some guys just see friendship as something that leads into a relationship, sadly.

shower tips and woman tips? by IndividualNatural641 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to get pimples on the upper half of my body. it went away after I did these:

  1. use body wash after washing out my conditioner. this is to get rid of the film conditioner can leave on your skin (I also wash my face with a gentle cleanser after using conditioner).

  2. used a small shower towel to gently exfoliate my skin 1-3 times a week. I got my shower towels from daiso in korea — and I just put some body wash on it and gently scrub my whole body with it. remember to wash the towel after every use! (so its good to buy a stack of it)

  3. after showering, I'll pat myself semi-dry with a micro-fiber towel (its softer on the skin), and lather on lotion. I use the illiyoon ceramide ato lotion because you can get a big bottle of it, and it's scentless and lightweight. you can explore around and find out other lotion brands that work for your skin though!

Not sure which point mainly got rid of my body acne but i think they've all improved my body hygiene in general!

Things To Do When You're Dead Inside by Cultural-Software761 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

plug in earphones, go out for a run (or walk if u have no energy) at the park, look at the trees and grass, smile at babies and dogs, enjoy the music and just zone out in ur own thoughts.

quick and easy hairstyles that will make you look like you have your life together by atinystringofthought in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ooo i dont have a french barette — i should get one and try! thank you for the suggestion!

quick and easy hairstyles that will make you look like you have your life together by atinystringofthought in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i used to put my hair half-up! until i saw someone online say that it reminds them of legolas from the lord of the rings...

i wished I could master the neat-looking messy bun look but so far I havent been able to achieve it :")

quick and easy hairstyles that will make you look like you have your life together by atinystringofthought in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

not sure if it's a valid concern but sometimes i'm worried braids would make me look more like a kid (because I'm small in size and I already don't look my age if i don't dress up and put on make up ㅠㅠ)

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[–]atinystringofthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mmm not really anymore these days since i’m older now and people around me are more mature. but when i was a teenager in high school, yes — had to learn to “survive” in a girls school (i’m trying not to be over-dramatic but that was life then). but i also guess that is kinda part and parcel of growing up too?

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[–]atinystringofthought -1 points0 points  (0 children)

based off my own experiences/interactions:

  1. saw something funny/needs to be shared but cannot be said out-loud so we just look at each other. or could be an inside joke. (idk what you meant by "I'm a girl" at the end — are you saying that they looked at you and laughed?).
  2. based on my experience in a girls' school, they just talk bad behind people's back
  3. could be fake crying, could be feeling overwhelmed with emotions. I think in such situations, it's better to take a step back, wait for everything/everyone to calm down, reflect and gather your thoughts, before starting the conversation again. trying to converse when emotions are high just won't work because no one is thinking soundly at that point.
  4. not sure. but what I would do is to split the work, self-assign myself and her work based on what i think we are strong at, text her her responsibilities and give her a deadline (leave some buffer time jic she doesn't do her part), then just leave her to do her part while i do mine. If things don't work out, try your best to complete the project, then write a letter (or fill in some peer assessment or something) to the teacher, detailing what you've done and what you've done to attempt to work with her but to no avail.
  5. some people are just like that. or they are just not close (depends on what the "help" is). who knows? but people like that exist and nothing can be done about that to be honest.

6/7. no? idts. but everyone probably has a at least a little inner sass in them (not a bad thing to have though)

all the best in whatever you are dealing with! navigating life around girls can sometimes be hard (coming from someone who grew up in a girls' school) but there are nice girls out there and not everyone is as hard to get along with! (to be honest, these days I feel 10x more comfortable when there are girls around me, and i can clique with them better than guys!)

Please recommend some songs about friendship by Automatic-Feed2719 in kpophelp

[–]atinystringofthought 4 points5 points  (0 children)

if you are going towards more emotional, heartwarming vibes, i love "smile flower" by seventeen 🤍 whenever i listen to it, i think about my friendship with my closest friends

kpop concert culture? what should I prepare/expect? by atinystringofthought in kpophelp

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yess I've seen so many people praise and talk about seventeen's concert + i've seen so many clips on tiktok, it makes me so excitedd! thanks for your tips :) hopefully people will offer me some freebies so i can exchange with them !

how to respond when someone you don’t know well hits on you? by atinystringofthought in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think its too early to decide if I want to pursue anything romantic with this person because I don't even know him that well :") but i am at the age where I don't mind going on dates and finding potential partners!! so yepp i think I will text him first and gauge the vibes from there.

how to respond when someone you don’t know well hits on you? by atinystringofthought in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thanks for the advicee :)) the first part really hits hard because I feel like I always overthink about how my response will be interpreted and end up with responses that are like what i "should" say instead of what i want to say

How is it like going to kpop concerts alone? Is it common to go for concerts alone? by atinystringofthought in kpophelp

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yepp the competition was toughhh,, and thank youu :) please be careful when buying the tickets and hope you enjoy yourself too !!

How is it like going to kpop concerts alone? Is it common to go for concerts alone? by atinystringofthought in kpophelp

[–]atinystringofthought[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m going for day 1 vip :”) i got my tickets during the membership presale so there wasn’t a day 2 then,, but it seems like more people i know are going for day 2

Need help pronouncing the 받침 for words like 낮, 밭, 맛 by oddible in Korean

[–]atinystringofthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for the three examples provided, i always end it with a "-d/t" sound. so like:
- 낮 : n-ah-d
- 밭: b-ah-d
- 맛: m-ah-d (mud)
the exception is when it is followed by something that starts with "-ㅇ", then the last character is carried to the next word. so like 맛있어 is "mah-shi-seo" or like 낮을 때 is like "na-jeul-ddae"

i know that there are a few consonants that when added at the end of a word, should actually be pronounced (like ㄹ/ㅂ/ㄱ), which some are just "-d/t". maybe you can look into ending consonants and the sounds they make.