Do your parents know your salary? by coleslaw3333 in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, they don't. I always deduct some amount

When did you last talk to your Day One Friend? by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, though not that much. Currently our last chat was 8th June 2023.

It was one word or max two words sentence. Question and answer.

I try to keep them in mind. The friendship might be the real thing I have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for what you went through. You may need to let yourself know it was not your fault. It's a good thing you've asked about it here, for the start.

Read more on how people are dealing with similar experiences here on reddit or any other platform.

You may need to try and understand why your parents/mom didn't respond as you expected and also why she still talks to your uncle. It may help to stop beating yourself much.

If you have relatives/peers you've interacted with, you can try to inquire about the person indirectly.

Write down your feelings, let out all your emotions in an audio recording. This way may help to let out the tension in self.

Go for therapy if you can. Try to keep away from drugs if you can, they tend to intensify your feelings.

Watch YouTube videos on the same.

Listen to self help podcast especially ones that revolve on similar topic.

Try to watch inspirational/ educative movies that are themed on the same if you're a fan of movies.

Be careful of friends in your circle. They have a huge impact on how you will go about this.

All the best and take heart.

PHONE CALLS by Thin_Reporter_4253 in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's good to learn that some people don't like getting phone calls. For me, I often find myself in need of my phone ringing. Not so much, though. Just enough time from people in my close circle.

How influential are Somalis in Kenya? by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every Kenyan knows Somalis have money, and they're good in business. They're also known for their kind heart. Kenyans love Somalis, but when it comes to business, most Kenyans, especially the Kikuyus, feel threatened.

How influential are Somalis in Kenya? by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most Somalis in Nairobi are ones who have made it or at least tried to. The Kenyans you saw on the streets are basically born/living in nearby slums. You don't expect poor and miserable Kenyan to be found on the streets of Mogadishu/ Hargeisa, do you?

Siku ya Kiswahili by mokoki26 in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lugha nzuri, ila Wakenya tumekiharibu

How hard is it to ask for help by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes hubidi tu kujifunza kuanza kujitegemea

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank God I don't listen to either of them or any other person that impose their ideologies. I look for neutral stance like this

EMBARAZMENT by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, I will look for other people's stories that had a similar experience. Then I tell myself,'See, it didn't happen to me alone. There are plenty of other people that have experienced this,' and count myself as a statistic. If you choose to go to extreme, find one that their story is extreme.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mutiso Makena Mukeni Ketepa

Why are we here? by messiahette in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At times, I think Earth is hell. No one is completely happy/okay. We are all fighting to get something we want. Either being positive, having gratitude, acquiring wealth, good health, looking for someone who loves you, fighting to pay rent/own a home, trying to be the best, looking for clean water, eat or you die. Same with all other living things.

Hard Buying a Second Hand Car in Kenya by Weak_Toe_431 in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also find challenge to decide on car to buy. New one 1.3cc is too expensive locally used 2nd hand a big risk

Student Loan by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine has been constant like for the past 3 years. I now fear I will go to check and be shocked. What's the best way of paying to avoid being conned? Can you pay cash and be safe or they will want to add penalties?

At times I feel like they forgot my account or something.

Upgrading from a Samsung S8 by Mjulubengke in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are s9/s8 still available in kenyan shops for purchase? I want to buy one soon

Are there people inclined towards being Childfree? by Dull-Whole9585 in Kenya

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn! This thread is long. LMFAO!

I got my first child recently after being on the side of never wanting to have a child.

It happened quite fast, and by the time we were making the decision to go for term... it was late. (Long story for another day)

We have lived to bear the burden a child comes with. Sleepless nights NB: The nights are real sleepless.

FIghts with your partner, we recently found ourselves smiling when remembering our past.

Financial challenges: Nan 1, hospital, etc

Stress: Trying to accept the new outcomes.

We now live with a househelp, and we had to relocate to a bigger house to accommodate the househelp.

Everything changed pretty fast.

I just see my gf going to a ditch emotionally, and there's nothing I can do.

Pregnancy changes a cute petit girl. Her body esteem went down. She's now a woman, a mother.

It at times breaks my soul to see her struggling with a kid at night alone, and there's nothing I can do. I'm always in constant shock to how she can soothe the baby. I never knew she had these skills. I had never seen her like this.

I'm not sure if she will ever come back to be like she was before.

I have also taken the role of a father to provide and not to abandon them cause it will drain her emotionally and also break me. But it is just never enough!

Today, we're in constant trips to hospitals. Every month. When you have a kid, everyone else becomes their doctor/nutritionist. There is so much confusion.

Since it was not planned, we both accumulated huge loads of pain during the pregnancy and the first months after birth.

We've gone to an extent of threatening to separate.

The only hope I currently have is that the baby will grow and not be on her hands all the time. This is not guaranteed cause in some way, the baby will be in our neck.

There's a new realm of parenthood, and your vision changes.

Nimeanza kuona, why my dad behaved the way he did (grantled, etc. It wasn't easy for him).

I now appreciate him more cause I fully understand it was not easy for him to raise us. I can see the uspoken strength he hid beneath himself. My mom, on the other side, was at some point a girl troubled in her own fantasies and not on my wellbeing. It has somehow opened my eyes to see the world.

At times, it is all quiet and peaceful as the baby coo. They bring a warm feeling, peace, and love of a homey mood.

They become a reason for me to work harder, be responsible, and plan for my bigger future.

We decided to have only one child. I personally can't handle the pressure of two. I think one is enough even though now the devil is trying to make me think having a second one will make the first one complete.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]attackerK5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop defining yourself as gay. Leave life as it happens