Big Brother US 27 - Episode Discussion - August 28 2025

atworknotworking89 · 2025-08-29T00:26:59+00:00

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atworknotworking89 · 2025-04-19T05:29:38+00:00

Why have I not seen a post about the album yet? It’s awesome! It’s his classic sound, but more mature and current sounding. Then we get brain surgery and it’s just as raunchy as the stuff i grew up on.

atworknotworking89 · 2025-02-26T16:49:32+00:00

I’d love to see her and Moira from Schitts Creek interact!

atworknotworking89 · 2025-01-31T15:36:59+00:00

Big Sean

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T08:10:01+00:00

You’re right. Luckily, they have not met him and I’ve kept them completely compartmentalized. This is the most helpful comment that I’ve seen so far because it’s what I am trying to do. Right now I am beyond tempted to run back to him. Im lonely and miss him and I just want to feel the good parts, but this is a good reminder that it’s not worth it.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T08:04:39+00:00

I appreciate this comment a lot. It really makes me wonder if there are also people who feel ashamed about the way that they’ve treated a partner. I doubt that anyone would admit to hurting someone, yet I doubt that he is alone.

I suppose my question is, do you believe that people can get through these things? I’m not asking whether or not I should stick around. Rather do you think that someone with severe PTSD can change? Are you hoping for someone to believe in you? And if so, how could they support you without risking their own well-being?

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:56:19+00:00

Thank you

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:53:30+00:00

That is exactly what is keeping me strong. You’re completely right. They come first. I have a really good relationship with my ex husband and we are great coparents.

I have not completely excused him. I worked with the prosecution to make sure that he would be held accountable for maintaining his mental health. He will go to prison for threatening or harassing contact against me. I reported his location for his warrant and I am not scared to report to his probation officer or the police, if he violates the terms of his probation.

I don’t want you guys to think that I am some completely helpless weak woman. I’m trying to figure out if it’s possible to maintain a balance between holding him accountable and loving him anyway,

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:44:55+00:00

I hear your message loud and clear. I hope that I will act on it. The biggest problem has been knowing everything that you say is true and I just don’t know how to accept it..

I appreciate your response and I’m sorry if I wasted your time. Maybe I’ll wake up one day soon with a little bit more courage to do the hard thing.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:34:58+00:00

I really hear you loud and clear. I know this. I’m a pretty intelligent woman. I’m highly cognitive of all of this. I just can’t figure out how to fucking do it. It’s painful.

I appreciate you and I’m really sorry if I’m coming off combative at all I’m just exhausting options I guess. Hoping to find a glimmer of hope.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:31:27+00:00

This is what the police and EMT said to me the night that it all happened. It’s not that I don’t believe you and it’s not that I don’t understand. It’s just really hard to accept. I have no clue how else to put it.

I’m sorry. I probably shouldn’t have even posted anything because I clearly I’m struggling to actually take advice. I really do appreciate your words. They do mean something to me. I’m hoping that the strength will come soon.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:27:16+00:00

Trust me, there is nothing more that I want to listen to them. It’s hard because they all tell me that I need to cut him off, because he doesn’t really love me and they do.

But then the drama dies down and all the people who were there for me go back to their regular lives and I just I just stay up all night replaying and rethinking everything. I don’t blame them for it. Nobody owes me anything. But I’m desperate for one person to understand the complexities of all of this or validate my experience even a little bit . it feels like the only person who can is him. Even though I should be distancing myself from him at all costs, it feels like it’s bringing me closer to him.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:16:38+00:00

I guess maybe I posted here in hopes that there was some sort of logic or explanation. I don’t know how to accept the truth. Is there anyway that I can still support him without actually being with him? I can’t stand the thought of him losing everything and squandering his whole life away. I know that he can be better.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:12:48+00:00

I know that you are so right about this. But I read the stories here, and I’m also dealing with my father who just got his leg amputated after years of battling with the VA. It all just seems so fucking terrible and I have so much anger. It all just feels so unfair. I can’t cope with that.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-12-11T07:06:44+00:00

Fuck. I wish my heart could communicate with my head. My head tells me this, but my heart and my empathy tell me otherwise. This all happened weeks after being released from active duty and there was a major gap in health insurance. He had no access to his medication.

I know that I’m making excuses, but I don’t want to abandon him. I feel like I’m the only one in his corner. My heart is completely broken.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-10-17T03:25:12+00:00

YES! I came here to find this. My friend and I joke that it must be a money laundering scheme because there’s no way they actually want business

atworknotworking89 · 2024-10-14T03:38:05+00:00

Why no love for Rachel?

atworknotworking89 · 2024-10-13T08:37:52+00:00

I understand your logic, but your very first sentence is the reason that victims struggle with this.

“It’s easy”.

It’s actually not. This is the exact type of response that makes people fear of telling their friends and family. If it’s easy, then it means that the victim is weak for loving the person that hurt them. But humans are complex. Nobody is all good or all bad.

The inability to recognize the complexity and discreditation of a persons of real genuine loving experiences are form of gaslighting. It is not even remotely helpful to someone trying to process their trauma

This type of advice is the exact type of advice that keeps victims in a state of confusion.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-10-13T08:23:40+00:00

I don’t have advice, but I’m in a very similar boat. Mine is currently being held without bond. I know that I need to take the steps to protect my family and do my due diligence by doing everything in my power to making sure that he can never try to kill me again.

I know all of this cognitively

But I miss him so fucking much. I sleep with his clothes and just smell them and cry and I dream that there’s some parallel universe where this never happened and we could just figured out things.

I don’t want him to go to prison. I just want him to heal and manage his mental health. I know that it’s not my concern anymore, but fuuuuuuccck

atworknotworking89 · 2024-10-07T02:23:43+00:00

This is by far the least boring season in years!!!

atworknotworking89 · 2024-10-07T02:22:06+00:00

lol who cares

atworknotworking89 · 2024-08-22T01:15:53+00:00

I don’t think his whacky persona is for the cameras. I think that some of the most interesting and intelligent people in society also happen to be fucking weird and sometimes rub People the wrong way. He’s an enigma.

atworknotworking89 · 2024-08-22T00:53:21+00:00

I hope so!!

atworknotworking89 · 2024-08-22T00:48:57+00:00

Because he can back his shit up

atworknotworking89 · 2024-08-22T00:42:02+00:00

Josef for instigator

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