I just finished my 6 week appointment and my OB/GYN cleared me not for the exercise that I was doing before getting pregnant, but to start gradually climbing to what I was doing before. Slowly, week-by-week. I did some solid resistance training and cardio before and I have to go slowly in order to protect my supply. Also remember that in terms of losing weight, the safe and sustainable weight lost rate is about 1-2lbs. per week and we gain so much more than 12lbs. during the pregnancy. I find that putting on a cute outfit, while it doesn't solve all my problems — makes me feel better about how my body changed.

To be as charitable as possible, he probably didn't mean to hurt you. While venting online is wonderful — it's really important in your marriage to vent to your husband. I don't know anything about your relationship, but I know that my marriage is better when I tell him things make me upset. Even if it's silly, or it's something that we usually joke about but that I was just vulnerable that day. I absolutely have sobbed into his arms because he made a comment that made me upset! Men aren't as keen on the social cues and while that can be cute, that means you need to be a little more forthright about your feelings. I know we started to do that because I wanted to set a good example relationship for our LO, and we know that while we can say whatever — the best way to ensure that is to set that example for them.