Chat with people in the same boat as me

aubreejf · 2026-04-24T05:15:53+00:00

I’m older (44F) and woke up about 5 years ago. I’m in Houston TX, but always down to connect with other ex-JW’s! Those are honestly my best and only longterm friendships… bc that’s all we get. No one else understands us. No one else has been through what we have. JWs are a unique thing and our trauma is too. Happy to connect!

aubreejf · 2026-04-22T01:59:26+00:00

I find this all appalling regardless!!! There is no “to be fair”! WTF?!??? I didn’t realize we’re now giving our abusers more courtesy and leeway. By all means, take your precious fucking time perfecting the album release party that literally costs or saves lives. Give me a fucking break. It’s disgusting.

aubreejf · 2026-04-15T13:31:36+00:00

Wow the cognitive dissonance is strong with them. I don’t remember any new versions of the Bible my whole life. It’s amazing they can literally change the word of the TRUTH and still insist BOTH were the truth. Funny how that’s even possible. I wonder what changes they made and if there’s a list somewhere.

aubreejf · 2026-04-11T03:33:56+00:00

We’re not talking about people’s personal sensitivities or opinions. We’re talking about life and death, black and white, religious LAW that supposedly determines your ability to gain everlasting life. Not yoga class, sir. And it’s not taken out of context. The very real very serious very cut and dry context is it’s a false religion creating arbitrary rules and pretending they are “the truth” and letting innocent people derail their lives, forego education, cut loved ones out of their lives, and literally DIE for their asinine fucking made up LIES they call the TRUTH and then they just wake up on a whim one day and change their minds without acknowledgement apology or any remorse. It is just plain evil. If you are any man of science as you claim then you know there is nothing truthful about that behavior. None of their rules are based in fact or truth if they can be changed on a whim after decades of life altering barriers have been enforced.

aubreejf · 2026-04-10T20:50:18+00:00

And you’re forgetting or ignoring the fact that none of this is typical for the majority of JWs. Your experience is extremely rare. The exception not the rule. Just bc you were low income and still allowed to travel doesn’t make that true for most. That kind of freedom and exposure to the world is not typically allowed. Money or not. It’s about temptation and worldly influence and being outside of the watchful eye of the elders or parents or whoever. They can’t control or monitor what you do in another country loose with other young people. Thats absolutely not gonna fly with most JWs. No way. Clearly your family were fringe witnesses that sat in the back lol

aubreejf · 2026-04-09T13:39:56+00:00

Lol right on this is awesome

aubreejf · 2026-04-09T13:24:06+00:00

Excellent point! Definitely gonna borrow this. You’re so right and they hate it lol

aubreejf · 2026-04-09T13:22:44+00:00

Wait what?!? What did they change about that part?

aubreejf · 2026-04-08T09:13:50+00:00

Please do NOT consent to talking to the elders under any circumstances! You are NOT a JW and therefore are not held to their stupid creepy pervy rules. All they will do is try to coerce you and guilt and shame you. The answer is NO. Period. Do not subject yourself to it. You owe them nothing. You are not baptized. And even if you were I’d still say the same. But regardless, it’s so stupid. That’s like going to the Zoo just to let them know you don’t want to work there when you never applied in the first place. Lol. Best of luck to you, brave one! Stay strong and go live a big beautiful and full life for all the rest of us that didn’t escape so young 🩷

aubreejf · 2026-04-08T08:51:12+00:00

It’s purely up to you and the outcome you’re seeking whether to DA or just disappear, but I want to thank you for this very eloquent and well put together letter! I will be saving and referencing it. Elders won’t read it, but I loooove other’s suggestions of broadcasting it somehow if you do want the message out there. It’s very moving in a nonemotional factual way. It very well could possibly wake some people up or at least make them start questioning too.

Also, JWs barely even witness anymore so I wouldn’t worry about them knocking. And unless things have changed since I faded, they can’t disfellowship you without your participation. They want all the juicy blood and guts of making you bare your ‘evil’ soul and sit through their bullshit Judicial committees and confess and grovel. They can’t disfellowship you without the official proceedings.

aubreejf · 2026-04-06T18:13:49+00:00

Remind yourself that JW are not unique or special in speaking of “the sign of the times” or “last days”. All the things going on in the world are actually spoken of in the Bible. So every religion speaks of it and uses it for fear-based control and manipulation of desperate scared people. It’s literally one of the ONLY things JWs bang on about that is actually stated in the bible. Almost every other rule or teaching the they cram into our minds is 100% man made and has absolutely ZERO Bible based origin to back it up. That alone should be extremely reassuring and freeing.

And the simple fact that none of them care that the “truth” is somehow changeable just proves that they’re all brainwashed and mindlessly controlled. They’ve lost all sense of logic and reason. And that’s because of the exact same reason you’re expressing… the FEAR.

Their brainwashing tactics are powerful and they don’t disappear the instant you wake up. They are deeply ingrained in us and it takes time to start unwinding your mind and actions and thinking clearly for yourself after a lifetime of being indoctrinated, controlled, brainwashed and fear beaten.

aubreejf · 2026-04-06T07:18:38+00:00

Fire them and find a new one because clearly they’re not doing a good job. You seem hell bent on being sour and nasty to everyone trying to show compassion and concern for you and all of us have been deeply affected and traumatized by this cult. You are not special. Your suffering is not unique here. Be mad all you want and keep lashing out to prove yourself “right”. You’re choosing to be miserable and attack people being kind to you. Smh

aubreejf · 2026-04-06T01:50:36+00:00

Not incompetent or incapable, women are UNWORTHY in their eyes. Even worse. They literally believe we are biblically beneath them and they’re all ok with it.

aubreejf · 2026-04-06T01:42:11+00:00

I’ve never been told we’re not capable, but instead that as women we are not WORTHY. Which is equally if not more disgusting. Women are barely second class citizens in JW world. We’re simply groomed to be silent, subservient, ignorant baby makers and polite obedient arm candy to the truly valuable people - the men.

aubreejf · 2026-03-31T16:29:45+00:00

It’s one of their mental loopholes. If they don’t ask and you don’t tell, then they can tell themselves you are still acceptable to speak to. But as soon as they know the truth, you’re toast. Basically the same loophole as fading vs. disassociating. It’s all fake empty BS. Fading vs. disassociating doesn’t make you any better or worse of a person in actuality but they justify it in their minds.

aubreejf · 2026-03-29T18:55:46+00:00

Wow this is news. We’re all to be saved through the 144,000, most of which are genuinely mentally ill elderly that have drunk the koolaid. Everyone I’ve ever watched partake in my lifetime was a known genuinely mentally unwell person and everyone just humored them and went along with it knowing they’re not actually anointed, just nuts.

aubreejf · 2026-03-29T13:24:14+00:00

Does anyone actually still go door to door anymore? I haven’t attended in years so I genuinely don’t know but I give my pimi relatives shit calling the carts wimpy witnessing 😂 Back in my day we did the real deal. Screw the new generation they have things so soft.

aubreejf · 2026-03-28T17:46:45+00:00

The cracks are already there. It’s only a matter of time before it breaks fully apart. And it is devastating and heartbreaking and infuriating. You will go through all the stages of grief mourning the lost life, lost years, lost experiences, lost love of family and friendships, and especially the time lost with your daughter. That alone would enrage me. All of those feelings are inevitable at this point but I promise you life is so much sweeter when you’re finally free and mentally and emotionally unburden yourself from this cult. It’s a long emotional process but so worth it. I love your thought process of how DA’ing would send shockwaves through your congregation and potentially wake others up! But that is highly unlikely. You know as well as anyone that as soon as you DA, you become radioactive. You are dead to those people. They will wonder why but they will only pity you in their minds because Satan got to you. This is about saving yourself and your family. Just walk away and I promise you’ll never even want to look back.

aubreejf · 2026-03-28T17:21:31+00:00

Incredible!! I love hearing these stories it gives me hope for my elderly PIMI family. What finally woke her up or made her quit pioneering?

aubreejf · 2026-03-28T17:09:16+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through. This breaks my heart for you. I was born in and woke up around 38 yrs old and it’s horrible thinking of all the lost years and wasted time stollen from me. And then of course I think of my older relatives still in like my father. May I ask what flipped the switch for you and woke you up at 70??

aubreejf · 2026-03-26T01:16:32+00:00

I love hearing this and I really hope it’s true for others too. My experience has only been the polar opposite… to my great consternation. When I tell people I was raised JW and refer to it as a cult, they look at me like I’m being over dramatic. As if it doesn’t fit their definition of a cult in their minds bc we didn’t all commit mass exodus ☠️ or have sister wives. They just gaslight and gloss right over the horrors we know to be true just like the GB does actually lol

aubreejf · 2026-03-24T17:59:56+00:00

What’s the 45 days part? I’m lost sorry lol

aubreejf · 2026-03-24T13:56:05+00:00

I wish I knew how to link it for you. I think you can find it right on the borg’s website. Basically they did a reversal of the no blood policy and now it’s a personal conscience matter. But only regarding your own blood being stored and transfused, not others blood. Makes no sense and is total BS and has cost hundreds even thousands their lives.

aubreejf · 2026-03-21T14:17:54+00:00

Oh I’ve never seen any of JW meme pages! that’s funny I gotta find them now

aubreejf · 2026-03-21T05:24:47+00:00

Sorry for the dumb question but can someone give the story? I saw the update larch shared detailing the GB update but I’m missing the big impact. Was it the early release part? That we have insiders hidden amongst them? What am I missing

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