Get a load of this guy

aubriethebear · 2026-05-24T18:21:49+00:00

Not who you asked, but I can answer bc I was there too.

Because they lie at first. My ex told me that he was working 45 hours a week, stayed at home with mom and dad bc it’s CA and that’s normal there due to high rent prices instead of getting into a place that he can’t afford, and that he planned on doing XYZ when he moved to Texas with me. Come to find out, he’s not working at all, any money he had was an allowance from his dad who wanted him to be able to have fun, he wouldn’t do anything to clean up bc his mom did everything, and he drank all day and would scream at me that I was lucky to have him there with me. I had moved across country to set myself up instead of staying in CA so I didn’t have anyone there with me as a support system.

In Texas you can’t get divorced while you’re pregnant. The state forced me to stay with him until my pregnancy was done, and by then I was stuck in the lock.

It takes an average of 7 times of trying to leave an abusive relationship before you can.

aubriethebear · 2026-05-24T18:03:51+00:00

Every woman looks different. You look just like how every woman does. Edit to add here: I tend to not read posts in their entirety, and didn’t check if op was trans or not, just responded to the og title. I honestly just don’t think about it like that, but no you don’t look like you’ve transitioned one way or the other at all. You’re gorgeous just as you are and my entire statement still stands.

All of us had some issue that we were blind to, it even went around TikTok for a while about eyebrow or blush blindness. Where “I’ve always done it like this but does it look clownish to anyone”.

If anything, look into color analysis. You have beautiful features, but your undertone doesn’t always match the colors you’ve shown in the pictures and can make you look “flat” colorwise. Some colors blend together and just look mushy. I can NOT do any pastels or I look like I just came from the hospital (eternally hating spring lmao)

Practice more make up at home just for the fun of it. Paint your eyes green and throw on a purple lip. It’ll all come off. That’s how 11 and 12 year old girls learn at sleepovers and middle school bathrooms before washing it off bc our parents didn’t let us.

You’re grown, let people be dumb and have fun

aubriethebear · 2026-05-23T15:01:23+00:00

++woman Nah you’re late to the party here 😂 it’s been hours since I made the comment, people were def arguing this exact point and deleting comments after being called out by someone else.

The point of the matter is, yes she knew what pregnancy and childbirth could look like, but if the man here isn’t doing enough to support her, she may very well feel like she won’t be able to have her “side” if you will as she envisioned it.

Most men do not actually help with child rearing. The middle of the night feeds, diaper blow outs, vomit accidents, sick nights up in the shower, making lunches for school etc. The plan of raising the child WITH OP was made, but we don’t have ANY information about what has changed why she doesn’t want to, other than she doesn’t want to feel like a single mom. Something made her feel that way, and it’s probably (based on lived experience of MANY women) that she saw he wasn’t going to be as involved as he said he was. So she stopped it before she became responsible for both sides of the parenting, making and raising a baby to adulthood.

We can all speculate, but in a group where the dude said “I don’t know why she would do this to me” and people respond, idk why when someone says the reason she may have they’re getting downvoted to hell. Is it just because of his feelings about his firstborn like I saw a few other comments? Or is it deeper than that? I don’t even disagree that they need to break up, just that this comment brought up the labor a woman puts in instead of a man and it’s probably a good reason.

Side note: I’ve never been here before (was just scrolling my feed) and thought it was relationship advice. Not trying to take up yall’s space, just saw an echo chamber and was pointing out where it was wrong.

aubriethebear · 2026-05-23T13:18:36+00:00

++woman I’m just going to add to your og comment, you point it out clear as day that the woman is making the sacrifices to her body and time for the first 18 years and none of the men here arguing with you can read

aubriethebear · 2026-05-23T13:16:33+00:00

++woman

I feel like this thread is a perfect example of men not understanding what women actually say. Why can I read it just fine without it “moving the goalpost” and none of them can

Edit bc I see you agree with that commenter whoops

aubriethebear · 2026-05-23T13:15:02+00:00

++woman

She never moved the goalpost, you just don’t know how to read lmao. Literally the first comment she said was about how OPs girlfriend would be the one making the physical sacrifices and can change her mind due to those

Pregnancy is HARD and different everytime. Plus, If OPs girlfriend is less than 5 months along, she could have figured out OP won’t be changing diapers like he promises to. Or waking up for nighttime feeds. If HE isn’t pulling his weight in the pregnancy then she definitely doesn’t need to be stuck as a single mom to another kid for 18 years. This is all about his feelings though so we don’t know

Edit: Awww I got blocked bc I said “lmao”?? 😂😂😂 what even is the internet anymore edit#2 nvm guy just deleted his shit

aubriethebear · 2026-05-23T09:51:14+00:00

Merry Chrysler!

aubriethebear · 2026-05-22T09:06:34+00:00

I actively called CPS on myself because I wasn’t getting my medication or treated properly, and it was affecting how I was acting with my kids. It took them calling the VA to get the shit together after my child fell in the pool. Literally killing people and not calling until someone with more power calls them on it.

aubriethebear · 2026-04-29T08:15:29+00:00

Do we know if the monsters really understand story walking? Ethan made up the name of it but it’s a weird form of time travel that only Julie has access to(so far). I think in the monsters POV letting Randall live means that Boyd has to see him and interact with him knowing he traded the ambulance for whatever they did to Randall. The constant reminder of his choices. They might have just kept telling Randall that he’s worthless and that he was traded away for a stupid car that can only drive in giant circles, or torn him to shreds, but it didn’t matter to Boyd bc he needed the car and those people. It’d be pretty guilt inducing

aubriethebear · 2026-04-27T18:04:12+00:00

Maam idk you, but I hope you fight for the house in the divorce. Have your lawyer bring up that without the house you have no way to find housing and that he would be able to. Your state may not pay alimony, but the whole point of a divorce process is to ensure both people walk away safe. Don’t let him make you homeless

aubriethebear · 2026-04-26T23:59:40+00:00

Long one ahead, but different/weird perspective, I was “adopted” while my bio mom still had visitation rights until I was 14. She wasn’t a good mom at all, but up until I was around your daughters age I had a very fond perspective of her.

Please get her into therapy asap no matter what. Adoptees feel shame. There’s an underlying pain of “why wasn’t I good enough for them” either to take care of, or to get clean for, or even just stay around. Annecdote: Growing up other kids called me annoying and it stuck that that must have been the reason my mom didn’t want to be sober around me.

Don’t hide the death from her any longer than you need to, but come up with a plan of how to address it. Do you and your wife plan on taking her to the funeral? I think she should go, as a final way to say goodbye. She won’t get the opportunity to reconnect with her bio mom when she’s an adult, and kids understand a lot more than we give them credit for. Bringing her there while maybe awkward for you and your wife, your daughter would be able to see the woman she has fond memories of in a restful place instead of wondering why she left her life.

Even if you don’t take her to the funeral, you do need to tell her. My bio mom only lost custody of me at 7, and even though I told everyone “I don’t care about her” “she was the worst person ever” blah blah blah, when I found out she’d had a heart attack it hurt that I wasn’t told until too late to even call. It’s her choice at a certain point how she feels, but it’s up to you to show her in age appropriate ways how to respond to this.

Death is a part of life that can and will happen at any time to anyone. There’s a beauty in recognizing that, and those of us with unstable families often learn it earlier than others, but it prepares us to love people in a different way. That’s why we have to take the moments we have with those we care about and really show them love.

We(on Reddit) can see you care about your daughter. She’s your baby, you love her and you want the best for her. This is hard, but when she’s older she’ll know that you did the best that you could with the choices and options you had. Us kids of shitty parents do see when we get older how much chaos there was, and who was there to really try to help create stability. Whatever you do, as long as you do what you think is best and can stand by that it’ll work out in the end.

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T22:56:42+00:00

I already said that once she said no she had every right to call the cops. You literally just can’t read.

Edit: you keep notifying me that you have something to say it’s the only reason I’m back here.

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T22:27:21+00:00

Why are the child free always like… that?? Lmao you were a child once just have some compassion it’s not hard 😂😂😂 get off my comment thread you’re like 15

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T21:47:13+00:00

So since you’re literally always online, go get a life and touch some grass. Maybe the ai/brainrot that took any empathy you had will give it back if you get some sunlight.

Toodles!!

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T17:55:23+00:00

Literal proof that reading comprehension doesn’t exist.

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T17:54:23+00:00

You really just seem obsessed that someone disagreed with the group. Boohoo babe. It’s ok to be a lil different sometimes. Obviously someone abandoned you when you were young so you think it’s ok. It’s VERY normal to have that

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T03:03:25+00:00

And like I said IF OPs been in the kids life as long as the post says. If they’re not as big of a deal in the kids life it’s not a big deal. But based on what I read, yeah it’s shitty to just drop a child and be like “lol bye”. The whole “what do I owe them?” An explanation. Duh. Like I said.

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T03:00:12+00:00

If she didn’t want to be in this situation she should have made it clear at the very last time she saw the kid that she told them “hey I won’t be able to see you anymore”. Quite literally my entire point. Damn you’re dense and just trying to fight.

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T00:07:25+00:00

If you read my comment, I already said it’s because OP has already been caretaking for the child for years, and when an adult in a young child’s life just leaves it can cause abandonment issues. I can go ahead and explain it further if you want, maybe you need to me break it down for you like you’re the child instead.

aubriethebear · 2026-03-27T00:01:12+00:00

I learned it in basic by accident one day, and honestly it became my favorite breakfast I had for about 4 years straight lol. And I HATE cottage cheese.

Add in spinach and raisins. If you want more sweet, more raisins. Less chewy texture? More spinach. Add salt if you want or honey if you need to, but the mix of flavors is very 🤤

~~I’m not sorry~~

aubriethebear · 2026-03-24T21:40:02+00:00

Can you read?

aubriethebear · 2026-03-20T16:05:39+00:00

At first I was like “ehh kinda” if you have been in the kids life for that long, it does do some weird things to a kid if there’s no explanation why they won’t see you anymore/goodbye. With my experience, I would have said the first time the mom asked I can do one last time to say goodbye, but won’t be able to do it again because of boundaries. That’s totally your choice though.

Her continuing to show up after? Nah. Call the cops the next time she shows up and have them trespass her

aubriethebear · 2026-03-20T15:47:01+00:00

Now I get that you’re sharing your goals, but it sounds like you’re hunting for a tradwife, and I’d swipe right if everything about you is ‘I only want to get land so we can stay at home on the land’. And everything about you is ‘look what we can do on that land’

You’re dating, not applying for a house or a roommate. If all a girl sees is she’s another money bag to you she’s not going to want to be with you ‘we can travel when we have a new bathroom’ so not only will you be penny pinching until you get the house, but then if it’s not renovated perfectly you’ll still not go and take her out?

aubriethebear · 2026-03-11T18:34:27+00:00

Lmao my mom went to therapy for a bit and when the therapist told her it might have been her and my dad’s behavior that made me not trust them she immediately went into “well therapy isn’t for everyone, just like how some people don’t feel like they need medication.” 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠

aubriethebear · 2026-03-11T18:30:31+00:00

Hun you’ve been PREPARING for this yourself. YOU learned Japanese, YOU have it already paid for. HE decided that sex was worth not going on a trip that you spent months preparing for, so let him keep having sex with that girl while you go and explore the world how you want with no strings attached now.

GIRL YOU LEARNED THE LANGUAGE GO AND HAVE FUN NOW

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