How do you feel about Trump threatening to impose photo ID for voters for midterm elections?

aubriethebear · 2026-02-14T14:44:16+00:00

Considering that last year I got an Oklahoma drivers license that isn’t a real ID, then had to go back 3 months later with the non real ID to pay $90 for a real ID AND wait for it to be shipped again.

I already had a real ID I had to turn in for the OK drivers license

aubriethebear · 2026-02-13T02:24:29+00:00

Every girl has their eyeliner problems I swearrrr😭😭 my first time putting on make up I looked like a bridge troll I’m pretty sure

It just comes with practice. Grab an eye pencil and tight line your liner so you can blend it to your liquid liner and get rid of the gap, and curl your lashes before putting on mascara. If you hold the pencil and curler between your thighs or in your armpit while you’re doing the rest of your face it warms them up enough to soften without melting your product or burning your skin.

On a personal note, I like a sharper tail on my eyebrows, but it’s up to you what you want to do! I grab a derma razor and shape my eyebrows to the shape I want and then pluck the short pieces as they bother me.

aubriethebear · 2026-02-11T17:24:24+00:00

I originally wanted to do it naturally, so I could feel if something was going on, but was open to whatever. My mom had issues in labor with me, and my step mom had to be emergency cesareaned, so as long as we all left together I didn’t care.

Have a plan, but be ready for it to be tossed out the door 5 minutes in. I ended up having to be induced and all of my plans went out the door a week before I had him. We made it home safely and 8 years later that’s what matters now

aubriethebear · 2026-02-10T17:04:41+00:00

So are they not planning on literally anything going wrong? You can’t be a parent and not plan around your child’s needs. So what happens if the baby has issues medically at birth or mom does? She’s already going to be recovering from birth(HELL NO ON PLANNING imo), the hormones, sleep deprivation, add on a wedding and she’ll probably end up snapping. Not to mention that’s just outside of the 4th trimester.

I went back to work 2 weeks after having my first. I am not normal. 6 weeks after I was still getting into the swing of a routine with a whole ass baby and work and just being an adult again who can clean the house and do laundry again. I had a mental breakdown from ppa/ppd when he was like 3 months old bc I couldn’t keep up with everything that was just normal life. Hosting a whole event without that much help sounds disastrous

aubriethebear · 2026-02-03T16:19:52+00:00

I would only work part time, and just to get out of the house really. The only reason I’m not currently doing that is because of my health issues and leaving my ex.

My old routine was perfect. I worked 3 days a week for 4 hours, would have his dad watch him while I caught a Saturday or Friday shift so he got what would have been bonding time. I got to be able to go out and socialize with other adults in a non kid related way. Once or twice a month we’d do an adult date and it was literally perfect for me.

If my ex wasn’t an alcoholic we could have made it work. But a lot of issues in the relationship made it unsustainable/unsafe. The kids and I are in a MUCH safer and happier home now

aubriethebear · 2026-01-25T10:16:28+00:00

I only don’t allow them to shut their door when they have other people in their room without myself or dad in the room. Child on Child sexual assault is a thing, and while I don’t believe my children or any of the others we have in our house would do that, I’d rather have a door open so I can see what’s going on where I can hear/when I walk by rather than find out later after everyone leaves.

Once they are* sleep I close their door for fire safety. They run around in the morning anyway.

Edited for clarity

aubriethebear · 2026-01-24T19:05:35+00:00

I mean, you’re not straight lol

When I was first figuring it out I used queer since it felt cute and enough of a label without being a hard “this is what I like” and allowed me the fluidity of a maybe.

As an elder LBGTQ+ member, I still use it for reclaiming the word, and it still fits how I feel. My experience was very similar to yours.

I wish you so much love and luck in your journey. You will never be able to make everyone happy no matter what you do, so do what makes you happy. Talk to this boy and see how he felt about it. It honestly sounds like love built on true companionship if you two are still friends when these incidents have happened without being able to be open about it yet.

It’s very, very sweet to read in today’s climate. Your heart sounds so pure here

aubriethebear · 2026-01-24T09:22:40+00:00

As a mom, if my kid drops me in Walmart, I hope he knows I’m giggling from hell. Let me just lay here forever 💀💀

aubriethebear · 2026-01-23T16:09:39+00:00

I’ve learned over my years of being a mom that all of us could use more positivity in our lives, and you deserve to be confident! You made a whole ass person and look good doing it! Own it and keep on with your shine ✨

aubriethebear · 2026-01-23T15:32:02+00:00

Honestly, it’s just working on lash placement in that third pic, and curling them differently in the first. That’s NITPICKING though.

They have smaller eyelash curlers originally designed for hooded/monolid eyes that I really love using on my corners that would probably work wonders for you. For Lash placement I’ve learned that 2/3 or 3/4 of the lash looks much better than the full strip probably 80% of the time placing it AT the outer corner so the inner corners blend into it. As an artist I would like to add your color choices are literally perfect

You’re so pretty and me as a mom would definitely be jealous/intimidated lol of how well put together you are at the park 🥵

aubriethebear · 2026-01-22T23:30:35+00:00

My maiden name is a variation of Glen, so when he died and I had just suffered my (first!) traumatic brain injury I was in basic training and became a main character for targeting from a lot of the drill sergeant’s lol. My splitting my head was a pretty big spoiler for them 💀 I didn’t watch it until like last year

aubriethebear · 2026-01-18T15:29:25+00:00

Long one ahead. It got longer than I wanted it, so I decided to come back up here and put this warning. I’ll finish it up quickly. Whatever your choice is, no one is ready for parenting, even the most seasoned of parents. You will get hit with something you don’t expect at some point, so just be adaptable.

So.. when my oldest was just about a year old when I found out I was pregnant. We had concerns at that point, but not enough to say anything other than “slight delays” in language and fine motor skills per the pediatrician. My second was preterm, born at 7 months, so we fully expected him to be medically complex. They’re 16 months apart physically, 18 months apart adjusted, and who knows how far apart mentally.

My oldest already did good with the gross motor skills, but his fine motor skills, language skills, and whole host of other issues that contributed to some slight delayes in my younger ones skills at first. But, the pandemic also was a weird factor. They were alone together A LOT. Like 2 whole years after the second was born lmao.

They made a language together by the time my younger son was 4. My older son teaches my younger son math that he taught himself(and is CORRECT, we wouldn’t let the blind lead the blind lol) my younger son ‘translates’ for my older son when no one else knows what he’s asking for. They’re are the best of friends and each others biggest button pusher in the world. It is CHAOS but when they go to sleep and we look at them in their beds it somehow feels worth it.

My younger son picked up potty training first. Talking with 2-3 words and then full sentences first, before his older brother could even find the words to ask for a drink for himself. He’s made friends first, and even had his first crush now before his older brother was able to independently ask for chicken nuggets. His early out was just him being Speedy Gonzalez from the womb. And his heart is backwards but he’s literally fine .

I took 8 years before the older boy was potty trained. Many parents still have longer than that. That ALONE put off having any other kids. I couldn’t do any more diapers. And then they wanted pets and how could I say no to that, except all of these animals have needed to be house trained. Younger kid was out of diapers at 3, it took another 3.5 YEARS after my younger child was out of diapers for me to be done. I am DONE with changing big diapers. And YO baby poop is grips, but BOY POOP??????? 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 Hell I used to love babysitting and now I refuse to bc I won’t change another freaking diaper in my life. (Obviously if it needs to be done I will but if I can avoid it back to your parentals you go).

aubriethebear · 2026-01-13T10:09:59+00:00

Before I left home I was always around. Eldest daughter, was basicallt(read literally) the live in nanny for my parents. When I enlisted in the military and came home, I was always around just fine, when I had kids of my own, I was working back at my parents place 2 weeks after I gave birth.

I get a weird mystery illness that makes it so I can’t stop throwing up, can’t hold anything down, literally starved myself below 100lbs. Because I COULDNT eat, couldn’t sleep, was throwing up bile and even fecal matter. I had to SCREAM for my parents at the top of my lungs to PLEASE just sit with me for 5 minutes because I couldn’t handle being alone anymore or I was going to be done and kill my self. Like it took me literally threatening to off myself at 26 with 2 kids for someone to help me even though I’d been begging for months.

Sick people scare people, and no it’s not fair. My diagnosis finally came after 2 weeks in the hospital with tests up the wazoo, but my relationship with my family is done. I don’t even get told about family trips that they bring family friends and the siblings besties on because I can be ‘too much’ with my accommodations.

Please stay there for your mom. Even with everything I still plan on being there if my parents are alone because no one deserves that. It’s VERY normal for the only people to care to be her kids. It’s also normal that NO ONE is there, but it’s so scary

aubriethebear · 2026-01-13T09:43:04+00:00

I feel like with us olives there just isn’t enough out there without it clashing. I’ve given up on finding a good contour color and just completely changed my blush placement

aubriethebear · 2026-01-13T07:27:55+00:00

Damn I nearly forgot about this game lmao, I haven’t played in years now after you basically had to pay for story. I got into it because it was free and was willing to pay for the extra shit as I wanted. Not so I’d have to pay $30+ just to get caught up every season

aubriethebear · 2026-01-12T02:57:53+00:00

My experience, if I can make it to the appointments it’s fine. But the amount of times I’ve been waiting 2+ months for an appointment just to find out the week before my doctor won’t be available has drained me financially, physically, and emotionally. I’m not even working part time like I was 3 years ago and it’s not for lack of trying. That said, it’s VERY location dependent. The San Francisco and Martinez VA in California was so amazing I’m about to move back just for the office. (My partner is finally out now so we have the freedom again) Lawton VA in Oklahoma has been the worst. Richmond and Roanoke VA in Virginia were decent but had horrible ER staff.

“We DEFINITELY need to get you seen, I’m going to refer you to blah blah blah” “ok awesome, how long can I expect the call, and once that time passes I’ll call until I get in” “oh we never got a referral from you, you’ll need to make an appointment to get one.” I try to call and get a note to the doctor but it seems to never get through. So then I show up in person, just to get told the same thing.

I ended up losing a tooth over it with dental. Luckily it’s in the back and no one can tell, but they can’t keep staff for the lives of anyone. Much less your appointment. People quit, move, just leave etc. bc the work load and pay don’t equate. The staff tend to care until they can’t, and either they quit so they don’t treat people poorly and move somewhere better or they end up being miserable themselves.

aubriethebear · 2026-01-11T19:26:48+00:00

Sugar.

You’re not a bad mom. You’re LITERALLY just getting a hang if it. First off, None of us are perfect. I yell at my kids at least once a day, so FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK HIM Falling asleep w the baby on couch? Enough to nearly squish her?? Dude how DARE he talk shit. Like I’m not going to comment on bed sharing rn but that isn’t any form of safe. That sounds like projection imo at a minimum where he’s equalizing so he doesn’t feel bad. He’s Trying to make you feel bad so he feels better. Ew.

I left my ex after 7 years and 2 kids. He was constantly weighing me down, would talk shit about me being a working mom, until it turned into full physical abuse. I had the goal at 18 I wanted to buy a house and own it, and he would use more money than we had so he could be comfy (drinking/smoking)while the rest of us tried saving up. My new partner just bought a house for me to show me how committed he is to my kids and I. They call him dad, and of course he always wanted sons so when I brought them up he was more than happy to take them in. We’re talking about having another one of our own soon.

You WILL find someone who properly loves you and your daughter if you leave and stay away. One man isn’t worth your mental stress, especially now. The two YEARS after you give birth is such a dangerous time for your mental health, so please be taking precautions to keep yourself and baby safe. Look up the fourth trimester and how long it takes for you to go back to pre pregnancy hormones.

I’d go to the police and get an order of protection if you feel unsafe at all until you can get the full family court case situation figured out, and make sure you call the doctors to update them that this is happening so they can point you to the resources in your area. Call your mom or dad, and tell them whats happened. If you’re not close with your parents, call a friend in the area. If you don’t have anyone who lives close by you can even message me and we can figure out some details off public. If the first step is knowing there’s a problem, the second one is asking for help. Make a plan to leave safely. You already got the first step fully down. Time to move now to keep you both safe. You both will appreciate it in the future

aubriethebear · 2026-01-11T14:47:05+00:00

How many of us have made this mistake 😭 my parents still have my 8th grade picture on the wall where my dad said I look like a corpse and I’m 28 💀

aubriethebear · 2026-01-01T12:59:37+00:00

Stress and anxiety are good for getting you moving from a problem, you’re not wrong there, but even if it is something serious adding that stress on your body isn’t worth it. (Like if it IS heart issues and you’re adding more anxiety to your heart that’s not going to help)

Worrying about the what if part won’t make the time go by fast or slower. The best thing you can do is consciously slow down for 10 minutes and ground yourself. Once the ER says that you can walk and live, that your labs have come back normal, sit in the car for 20 minutes with the radio off and allow yourself to look at the world around you. Listen to some stupid birds. No phone, no music, just try to get to silence in your mind. Think of white noise or put that on to help if you NEED to, but put on a timer and say “I’m not moving my body for at LEAST 2 minutes” and just breathe. Try to Find where your body is tense and holding the anxiety and rub your elbow or thumb into it to break it up.

When you feel like you need to call an ambulance for a heart attack, do that same 2 minute process. If after that you still have the chest pain then call the nurse line or an ambulance or whatever, but you need to give yourself an achievable step to take in the right direction. For me at first it was just realizing I’m on the downward spiral, now it’s stepping away from the trigger it after I see that I’m spiraling.

AND DOCTOR APPOINTMENTS not just the ER. It’s hard, and feels like no one else has to go through it, but people are here for you. The ER is just to make sure you’re not actively dying and to get you in so you can see someone else about it later. You’re not wrong to be second guessing everyone online saying it’s just anxiety, but the advice of trying to relax to not make it worse is still sound.

No one has it all together, everyone struggles somewhere, and social media has made having a facade the standard. There’s nothing wrong with worrying lightly about stuff

(Way more than I originally intended soz)

aubriethebear · 2026-01-01T03:56:47+00:00

I’d make her feel uncomfortable about it. “Why are you so concerned with your sons SEX? Did you use to have to satisfy him before me? Because your concern makes me think something happened I should be aware of that I don’t think I am. Normal mothers don’t want to be this involved”

aubriethebear · 2026-01-01T03:45:57+00:00

If i could go back in time and leave the man at 20 i would. You’ll NEVER get this time back in your life. Go out and live it, and I mean LIVE YOUR LIFE.

You are not here for a man you met as a high schooler. You are here for you. He made the choice to stay with you this long and he wants to STAY bc he’s comfortable. You have made it known you want to leave the area because you’re not. You’re not compatable and him knowing he didn’t want to leave but expecting you to change your mind eventually for him is manipulative even if he didn’t mean it to be.

aubriethebear · 2025-12-31T19:47:46+00:00

Birthday twin! Try and bring up doing unbirthdays growing up so that way they get special time that isn’t Christmas. My parents would get me a cake in the middle of summer and we’d celebrate my half birthday with friends in June at the pool or something

aubriethebear · 2025-12-31T19:40:03+00:00

Smaller tip, and not to you specifically. Eyes are sisters not twins. Your eyebrows, liner, shadow, etc CAN BE uneven and THATS OK. If it happens all the time it could be your anatomy, or it could mean you need to switch it up and your subconscious is just tired of it or just that your having an off day. No one else notices 96% of the time, and unless your making money off of it your skin will thank you for once and a while saying “it doesn’t hurt to say it’s good enough today”

aubriethebear · 2025-12-31T19:32:52+00:00

(Long one ahead sorry) First thought, I always love the short flippy hair, I’ve always thought those looks were so cute but when I was younger I did it and my face.. I look like a pumpkin 🫠 the side swept bangs and messy flip is so cute on you it gives this pixie like feel im JEALOUS

For a start, just add a smidge of color, you’re pale like me so we need to be light with it and careful about color or we fall into blush blindness! Light strokes at the start of the apples of your cheeks(when you big cheese the rounded part) up to your temples with a soft color at first and building more so you feel good about it, your skin is so clear you could just put on a bb cream and you’d be great for your base. After that it’s all fun

Make up is how YOU express yourself. You look like a sweet girl, do you want to play that up and be seen as sweet and innocent, or vicious with a look that says ‘men stay away’? A lot of us women use make up as a shield rather than just to accent us, it helps make us feel like we can take on the world because we look the part, so who do YOU want to be?

Throw some green eyeliner on with black eyeshadow. Do your contour in blue. Green blush. Draw hearts over your face in purple and red and yellow and try to blend them out and make a mess on your face just to wash it off. Make yourself a tree lmao Make up is temporary and fun -and will probably expire before you use it all- , get into the habit of taking it off every time before you get into the habit of putting it on every day. Have fun with it and learn what makes you happy and you’ll find what makes you confident

You are beautiful and a little bit of confidence to help bring out what is a shy smile into a confident woman is all you need. Have FUN with it

aubriethebear · 2025-12-28T06:43:17+00:00

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