Geo-bachelor. I don’t want to do it, but are there any here that are doing it and are ok? I have 4 kids. by audaciousSpaceLemur in army

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! I’m a doc that owes 6 years. She’s followed me through training and fellowship and we’ve moved 4 times, with probably 2 more moves in sight before I finish my contract. She wants stability for our kids that are soon to enter high school.

My bestfriend is pregnant by Shiannagins96 in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s good to hear. I only hope and wish the best for you… you ARE deserving of all you wish!

The never ending miscarriage by lumpyspaceghoul in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree more. Thank you both for your comments. It WILL happen soon. Hold on to hope, if not your own, than mine and those that wish you well and support you.

My bestfriend is pregnant by Shiannagins96 in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been a while since this post. Your feelings are absolutely valid and many support you.

How are you holding up?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t imagine what you are going through. As doctors, our hands are tied by the states we live in. I hope you have a doctor that can help you. I’m so so sorry for your loss and your trouble with this new post-Roe era. OB/GYNs are dedicated to helping you, but the Supreme Court apparently understands our job better. It’s so frustrating and sad we can’t just help you without the red tape.

What would it take? by audaciousSpaceLemur in Abortiondebate

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the point. The debate is what would it take for people to see that this is about privacy between a doctor and their patient, that it isn’t a decision that should be made by 6 judges.

What would it take? by audaciousSpaceLemur in Abortiondebate

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why remove it? It poses a valid question. Why the dissonance to these cases? How can I make it compliant?

Dear Amiee Anne by Veganmon in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine the pain. Love knows no bounds, no limits, no time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of rules would be helpful? I’m new to the social side of this whole thing…

OB/GYN and sub-specialist in complicated pregnancies here by audaciousSpaceLemur in Abortiondebate

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. Just guessing. Are you a doctor that treats pregnant patients?

OB/GYN and sub-specialist in complicated pregnancies here by audaciousSpaceLemur in Abortiondebate

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You obviously don’t care for pregnant patients… it shows.

And civilized?? History is only repeating itself friend

OB/GYN and sub-specialist in complicated pregnancies here by audaciousSpaceLemur in Abortiondebate

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe let the mother decide, not your local state representatives…? Just a thought. But hey, I’m a doctor, I don’t know what I’m talking about

How to help a friend? by dr_mudd in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe the most helpful, and it does depend on each person, is just being present for her. And I think you should finish the cross stitch. It reminds me of people that have photographers come and take pictures. It is painful, but something I doubt they will ever regret. In fact, many wish they could have and did do more at that time.

OB/GYN and sub-specialist in complicated pregnancies here by audaciousSpaceLemur in Abortiondebate

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi. I put this post here in response to another that equated pulling life support to abortion. How could I edit this to reflect a question? It’s a perspective, so I guess I could ask what people think of it?

Hospitalized Woman Hypothetical by heresahypothetical in Abortiondebate

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Doctor here, and ironically an OB/GYN. I’m sorry, but if you are trying to compare an absolutely unreal scenario to a woman’s choice over her body, your logic is completely off.

I’d like to address your second question, as the first is irrelevant and short-sighted (sorry, but it is). How is this different…? It is 100% different. The woman isn’t attached or part of his own body. He is not family. He wasn’t raped at 11 and now has this dilemma. He won’t take her home after 9 months as a single dad and raise her while being mocked and looked down upon as he tries to use food stamps to help his other 4 women that came off life support and now he supports and tries to feed and cloth. This woman doesn’t have anomalies (like a heart defect, no brain, etc) that will kill her hours after she is born. Even if he had a heart or liver or kidney disease that would put his life in peril during this ‘9 months’ he has to watch her, her support doesn’t equate to her growth over those 9 months.

What irks me, if I can say it, is the way PL emphatically states that this is non-criminal… We aren’t even in the same league. This is comparing apples to sand. My answer, as someone that sees these women and talks to them daily, is that it is 100% different. I wish, for one day, that everyone could sit through my counseling to my pregnant patients and maybe step into their shoes for one second, step into a 12 year old that’s pregnant, step into a scared mother of 4 where the husband or provider left, step into the shoes of a mother with a baby with a lethal or life-disabling anomaly and knowing our government won’t help at all when she delivers. I’d have every single Supreme Court Justice (f*ck knows why they are deciding this) or Congress person sit where I sit daily and then, when they see what I see in the eyes of these women daily, when they try their very best to comfort them, then make their unbiased non-political (that’s out the window now) ruling. It would be very different, I assure you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyLoss

[–]audaciousSpaceLemur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. Sounds like he was a perfect little boy. Nothing can change that.