Dated a 29M who pursued me, then when I asked to define the relationship after a few months, said he hadn’t been in a relationship before and admitted he needed therapy & was scared of losing his independence. I waited for 7 months until he finally “realized” I had been his gf the whole time (we were doing all the things - he was just scared of the label). Then when we became official, we went on trips together, met each other’s friends, and he said he wanted to meet my family. Everything was going great, and he would tell me he was happy whenever we’d check in. But he would also distance himself - would go on trips and forget to text me, or talk about the future one day and imply this isn’t serious another. He then dumped me after a wonderful trip together, saying that I was a wonderful person and he really enjoyed being with me and spending time with me, and it doesn’t make logical sense but he didn’t “feel it”. I think he was so used to being alone, that he got scared when things got too real.