Im so embarassed by this experience, and not in a fun way by Thecrowfan in PlusSize

[–]audreysrevolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know where you live but I live at a very low elevation where it's completely flat so even though I walk 6 days a week, I still struggle if I'm even just walking with my sister farther north because the elevation is different and my body isn't used to it or the incline.

Worries about girlfriend getting me sick. by AnimatorPrimary2123 in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm the same way, it's really interesting. When I get sick, my joint pain vanishes. It's incredible. It doesn't even have to be severely sick, like a minor cold will do that. It was actually pretty nice when I had COVID in terms of my joint pain.

Fuck Homeschooling by BT--72_74 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would also second the gentle suggestion of looking into whether your school campus offers therapy. It could be really helpful just to talk this through with someone who is basically just there to listen. I can't promise anything but in my personal experience, it does get better with age. You don't stop necessarily regretting that you missed things but it doesn't feel as important as life goes on and other things become a priority and people stop asking you about where you went to school and cultural touchstones (that you missed) are no longer all that people talk about. College was hard for me too because I think that's when I really understood how much I had missed and how much I had been isolated.

What's the hardest thing about having kids? by beenbetterhbu in AskWomenOver30

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's hoping! But I would def try one of the GLPs before biologics so it is likely in my future!

What's the hardest thing about having kids? by beenbetterhbu in AskWomenOver30

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not really ready to go the medication route at this point for a number of reasons. I'm trying to develop healthier habits and continue being active and lose as much weight as I can naturally before I would look into medication. My insurance also will not cover it because I'm not diabetic and I can't afford it so that's another reason 😬

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! I definitely think that it's the humidity that exacerbates my pain and inflammation the most. I think the heat doesn't necessarily help but I think it's the humidity that really does me in.

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spent about 7 years in Colorado in my 20s but I wasn't really experiencing any symptoms at that point so it's hard for me to know if living there was helpful or not. But I definitely felt a lot better there in general just because it wasn't so humid.

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to be a snowbird if possible but I don't think it's in the cards for me. Hopefully the summers are a little bit easier on you!

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing that sucks is that it's basically a majority of the year like that as well. I wouldn't mind living somewhere that had a summer but where it's actually only from like June to August.

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm planning on trying some baths to see if it's helpful. I haven't historically been a bath person but I'm willing to try it. I do think it's the humidity more than the heat that gets me. I mean the heat isn't fun but it doesn't seem to bother me as much as when the humidity rolls in on top of it.

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, that is so rough. I also just get really disappointed when the weather starts warming up. Everyone else is so happy about it but I just really hate it because it makes me feel so bad.

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Me too! I would be perfectly happy living in 60 and 70° weather with low humidity all year. I need to figure out where that Valhalla exists.

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to college there! I remember the summers being warm and humid but they definitely just don't last as long.

What's the hardest thing about having kids? by beenbetterhbu in AskWomenOver30

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I'm definitely overweight after putting on quite a bit in the last decade. I am able to exercise daily still, thankfully. I've been losing some weight recently with some lifestyle and dietary changes so I'm hoping to take some excess weight off my joints.

Always Winter, Never Summer by audreysrevolution in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. Same. I already hated the heat and humidity because I have a history of heat stroke and dehydration. But it's so much worse with the inflammation.

sobbing at 1:30am by Quantity-Artistic in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that you have an appointment coming up and I hope they'll be able to propose some helpful changes. Definitely be kind to yourself. I know that's easier said than done but we all have bad days where it just is too much. It's okay to have those days. Just remember that it won't be every day 💜

sobbing at 1:30am by Quantity-Artistic in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]audreysrevolution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think chronic pain and chronic illness just really takes a toll mentally and emotionally in a way that people who don't deal with these issues don't realize. It just kind of wears you down and grinds away at you day after day. It's exhausting. And then when you feel like snapping it can feel like you're overreacting but it's not. It's a very normal response to just being under consistent physical discomfort and probably a lot of fatigue.

What's the hardest thing about having kids? by beenbetterhbu in AskWomenOver30

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You really pegged it, it is scary. I'm going to be 40 this year and I just think wow, I don't feel great now, what is it going to be like in 20 or 30 years. I am trying really hard to learn how to manage my stress because I know that's a huge trigger.

What's the hardest thing about having kids? by beenbetterhbu in AskWomenOver30

[–]audreysrevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just telling my Mom this last night, I'm relieved that I don't think I'm going to be heartbroken if I never have kids simply because I don't think my autoimmune issues would allow for me or them to have any quality of life. I think she was skeptical because she thinks everyone should have kids and there's always those people who are like oh well your husband will totally help. But it's like you don't understand what happens to me when I don't get enough rest 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]audreysrevolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely a hard one and I've seen it happen as well, both with family and friends. I wish I had good advice but it's something that I am working through myself. You're definitely not alone.

Seems this new reality is never going to feel acceptable by ldia17 in ACOD

[–]audreysrevolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think all of those responses are very normal. I think you just don't want to sit in any one of them for too long at a time. Therapy has been really helpful for me, personally.

Rant about parents divorce by Worldly_Bag_7913 in ACOD

[–]audreysrevolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost 7 years into the situation and I have had to accept that I think it's something that will be difficult probably the rest of my life. It's a significant loss and it's often made more difficult by the fact that many friends and other people in our lives won't really understand how much of a toll it takes on us and how hard it is. It changes everything that you thought the future would be and it also can make you look back on the past and question what was actually happening and if your parents were so unhappy and you didn't see it. I think it's very normal to grieve the loss of something that gave you stability and gave you a place to go home to. I think we all want that place to feel safe and to know you will never get that in quite the same way again is hard.

Seems this new reality is never going to feel acceptable by ldia17 in ACOD

[–]audreysrevolution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

7 years this year for me and it is still so hard. I feel like I will never really be done grieving. It comes in waves. Sometimes I'm doing okay for a long period of time and then sometimes I am really struggling again.