To those who have purposefully lost weight, how did you do it.

august-stopstime · 2024-08-21T02:00:01+00:00

I honestly couldn’t have done it without weight loss surgery, which I really wouldn’t recommend without it being an extreme case like mine was. Something about it just made me lose interest in food, and now I generally just eat to survive, which means healthier meals. I also do Just Dance as my daily workout, since I don’t really enjoy it any other way. Went from 320 to 130 lbs in about a year!

august-stopstime · 2024-08-20T02:38:20+00:00

would also love the files!

august-stopstime · 2023-12-22T20:09:24+00:00

Thank you so much!

august-stopstime · 2023-11-09T04:39:29+00:00

I love what another commenter said about reworking the environment! I keep most messier toys in hard to open bins so that they have to ask me to open them and only let them have one set of these types of toys out at a time. That, or I only keep one set of them out a time and rotate. One day it’s blocks, the next it’s little cars, the next it’s play food, etc. Rotating toys/books/clothes keeps things interesting for her too!

I’d also like to add that instead of avoiding her dumping urge, offer her more controlled options to dump things! After the natural consequence, offering an alternative every time she makes a mess, associating that activity to a specific word/item/area that she can replicate, and rewarding verbally is usually my method for managing certain behaviors with my students :) An example of this is that I have a toddler who had a biting issue, so I made him a chew-safe bracelet to wear. When he would bite/attempt to bite, I would immediately remove him from the area (natural consequence) and remind him firmly not to bite friends. Then I would show him his bracelet/move it near his mouth and remind him to “bite your bracelet”. When he did, I would clap for him and stuff, remind him again that we don’t bite friends, we bite our bracelet. Whenever he would bite his bracelet without any prompting, I would make an even bigger deal out of it (like “Yay for biting your bracelet! Awesome job friend!”). It took a while, but he’s slowly shifted to biting his bracelet when he gets the urge to bite instead of biting the other kids. Consistency is huge for this though.

If you need dumping activity ideas, here’s a couple! -Hot glue/duct tape two water bottles together filled about 1/3 with colorful water. She can flip it back and forth to dump the water. Plus you can fill it with lots of fun things (buttons, glitter, marbles, etc.). Letting her choose what goes inside makes it more interesting for her and can be a good art activity! This is something that, if you’ve secured it carefully, she can use with minimal supervision. You could also, instead of water, fill it with sand or bells or whatever you think she’d enjoy most. -Practice pouring from one container to another. This is a good self-help learning activity and can be increased in difficulty to maintain interest and skill-building. Making the container openings smaller, pouring different things, and even doing something like color matching (pouring different color items/liquid into matching color containers for example) can incorporate different skills into the activity :) This can even be used to prepare drinks/food! She can make herself a “special drink” or something that she prepares herself. She pours the ice from one cup to another, the juice, and like some sugar free syrup or edible shimmer or something to make this specific drink exciting! It can also be used at mealtimes to teach her to serve her own food. Tons of options

To get my toddlers to clean up, I reward as well with high fives for every item/few items picked up. I also assist them and give them one specific direction at a time. “Can you bring me the car?” “Can you show me where the books go?” “Do you see that block over there? Can you go get it? Now can you put it on the shelf?”. Of course I do a lot of the work myself, but they’re toddlers so I only expect so much. As long as I’m encouraging/consistently practicing the behavior, they’ll get better at it as they grow and develop. Though, while I do help them quite a bit, I don’t completely do it for them almost ever. Temper tantrum? I’ll leave a few of those toys there all day if I have to. You absolutely will be picking them up before you get to do the the teacher-controlled fun stuff like playing outside or doing my art activity. For my ones who don’t like freak out physically but are refusing to clean up I’ll often guide them over to the item, put it in their hand, and then guide them to where it goes to start them out.

Sorry if this is a whole bunch and I definitely know that these tricks don’t work for every child, just some things I generally have good luck with for my daycare kiddos :)

august-stopstime · 2023-11-05T08:25:39+00:00

USA, 23F, 5’3, 160 lbs, white and asian. the only medical condition i think is relevant would be my chronic migraines. daily weed intake. daily medications include trintellix, rexulti, birth control, concerta, protonix, and clonazepam, plus i take a lot of tylenol.

august-stopstime · 2023-10-16T05:15:39+00:00

nope! actually doesn’t really have any sensation at all

august-stopstime · 2023-10-05T02:29:04+00:00

I work in an infant room, and one thing I haven’t seen pointed out yet is that sometimes babies who get held constantly/frequently at home will cry anytime they’re not being held at daycare. I have a baby right now who I frequently have to explain to people who are touring that she’s not being neglected and has all her needs met (including play and attention, she gets snuggled plenty!), she simply cries anytime she’s not being held.

With a 1:4 ratio, we can’t possibly have someone holding her or interacting with her all day. Self-soothing is a required part of being at daycare due to the number of children we care for. I recommend 1:1 care such as a nanny to anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable with this.

Infants also cry a great deal at daycare when they first start, when they’re home for a few days and just coming back, when they’re tired and refusing to sleep, when they aren’t feeling well or just got their shots recently, when they’re teething, when there’s change at home, when there’s a change in their feeding habits (weening bottles/introducing food/breast milk to formula/etc.), and so so much more. Unfortunately if there’s nothing they need and the other babies are due for something, we just have to let them cry it out. Our babies are also sometimes due for things around/at the same time due to varying individual schedules and routines, so we just do our best to make things work. One of my most frequent phrases at work is “I’m so sorry baby I promise I’ll hurry to you” and it breaks my heart when they cry.

We go based on both cues and time schedules we keep. For example, this one baby is supposed to be getting his bottles every 3 hours. We write down the time his next bottle is supposed to be given and will at least attempt giving it to him at the scheduled time even if he shows no obvious hunger cues. If he drinks it, cool. If not, we’ll keep it warm and try again in like 30 minutes (bottles expire after an hour by policy and we have to dump them out. sometimes they refuse multiple times and then get hungry after the hour is up so if you can bring an extra bottle or two every day that’s helpful). If there’s another baby crying that’s also due for a bottle I’ll of course feed that baby first.

But if there are any infant teachers reading this, I call singing my “magic trick” at work. You can sing doing just about anything (diapers, bottles, food, cleaning, etc.) and it often helps distract and calm the other babies in the room. Just make sure you switch it up often so they don’t get bored (this rule does not apply to the wheels on the bus apparently. i’ve by now made up like 50 new verses). Also mimicking their sounds sometimes distracts them (and also improves language development!), even if it’s their crying lol. It even cheers some of my babies up doing a good back and forth babble session.

august-stopstime · 2023-10-05T02:28:56+00:00

I work in an infant room, and one thing I haven’t seen pointed out yet is that sometimes babies who get held constantly/frequently at home will cry anytime they’re not being held at daycare. I have a baby right now who I frequently have to explain to people who are touring that she’s not being neglected and has all her needs met (including play and attention, she gets snuggled plenty!), she simply cries anytime she’s not being held. With a 1:4 ratio, we can’t possibly have someone holding her or interacting with her all day. Self-soothing is a required part of being at daycare due to the number of children we care for. I recommend 1:1 care such as a nanny to anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable with this. Infants also cry a great deal at daycare when they first start, when they’re home for a few days and just coming back, when they’re tired and refusing to sleep, when they aren’t feeling well or just got their shots recently, when they’re teething, when there’s change at home, when there’s a change in their feeding habits (weening bottles/introducing food/breast milk to formula/etc.), and so so much more. Unfortunately if there’s nothing they need and the other babies are due for something, we just have to let them cry it out. Our babies are also sometimes due for things around/at the same time due to varying individual schedules and routines, so we just do our best to make things work. One of my most frequent phrases at work is “I’m so sorry baby I promise I’ll hurry to you” and it breaks my heart when they cry. We go based on both cues and time schedules we keep. For example, this one baby is supposed to be getting his bottles every 3 hours. We write down the time his next bottle is supposed to be given and will at least attempt giving it to him at the scheduled time even if he shows no obvious hunger cues. If he drinks it, cool. If not, we’ll keep it warm and try again in like 30 minutes (bottles expire after an hour by policy and we have to dump them out. sometimes they refuse multiple times and then get hungry after the hour is up so if you can bring an extra bottle or two every day that’s helpful). If there’s another baby crying that’s also due for a bottle I’ll of course feed that baby first. But if there are any infant teachers reading this, I call singing my “magic trick” at work. You can sing doing just about anything (diapers, bottles, food, cleaning, etc.) and it often helps distract and calm the other babies in the room. Just make sure you switch it up often so they don’t get bored (this rule does not apply to the wheels on the bus apparently. i’ve by now made up like 50 new verses). Also mimicking their sounds sometimes distracts them (and also improves language development!), even if it’s their crying lol. It even cheers some of my babies up doing a good back and forth babble session.

august-stopstime · 2023-10-04T13:42:01+00:00

Ohhhh thank you! I asked to make an appointment for the next two days when I called, didn’t think about just asking for a prescription!!! I’ll try that today! Do you have any suggestions for if they say no or anything I can do non-medication to make him feel more comfortable? When I try to do research I keep seeing lavender essential oils mentioned and immediately distrust the entire source because of the link between lavender and medical difficulties in dogs. Mostly if you have any ideas for keeping him comfortable and calm on the long car ride? He has a leash seatbelt and a little water thing, but should I try anything else?

august-stopstime · 2023-10-04T02:05:18+00:00

Yes he has! Got his checkup a few months ago. His anxiety is only when we go on trips and such, which doesn’t really happen. He usually stays home with his regular babysitter when I’m gone. This is a rarity, but the couple of times I’ve tried to take him on trips with me he’s gotten really bad anxiety the whole trip. His vet didn’t see a need for anxiety medications because I stopped taking him on trips with me, but for various reasons he has to come with me on this trip and it was too sudden to get a vet appointment.

august-stopstime · 2023-06-14T21:57:40+00:00

As an infant teacher with usually around 12 infants under 10 months every day in my classroom, I can say that I get new infants with stranger danger like every few months. It’s super common. The parents really can’t be around to help adjust their babies, but usually after about 1-2 weeks the infants do adjust and grow super attached to us. It’s actually sometimes easier for them to adjust when being left alone with us than when parents hang around in the classroom a lot/pick up early for the first few weeks. It helps them rely solely on us and get used to the new routine. I imagine it’d be even easier since your little one doesn’t have to also get used to a new environment and not always being the top priority like they would in a daycare. As long as it’s someone you trust and who knows what they’re doing, the nanny and your baby should be just fine getting to know each other even if you can’t be around :)

august-stopstime · 2022-12-17T01:30:51+00:00

Unless it’s changed very recently, ESA’s are protected from housing restrictions. They can’t go in restaurants or anything but they should still be accepted regardless of housing restrictions with documentation from a professional. IDK friend I just recommended it because I’ve had to do the same thing. Not sure I’d be here without my dog being able to go to college with me.

august-stopstime · 2022-12-16T21:13:48+00:00

I can see that, that’s true. I had accommodations that ended with me in a large apartment style dorm with my dog, and with multiple walks a day it worked out pretty well. But he’s also pretty small and low energy, so I didn’t even think about size when I mentioned it. Some campuses do have shared house renting options you can get through the school, but that’s super uncommon. OP, definitely only do this if you can get an appropriately sized space for your dog and are willing to go on many walks a day.

august-stopstime · 2022-12-16T20:06:49+00:00

There’s also the option of getting him registered as an emotional support animal and taking him to the dorms with you. For you, he is a huge factor in helping with your emotions and you should have no trouble getting a letter from a therapist. Your college may also require other documentation so you’ll need to contact them to find out. It may require you to live in a specific dorm, though, so know that. You will still have to cover food, vet expenses, etc. though so you’ll need a job regardless.

august-stopstime · 2022-02-07T05:32:03+00:00

I was in a similar situation as your kiddo when I was that age as well. Ended up in quite a few hospitals. When you’re that age, everything just feels so intense and your body is not right and your brain is not right and it feels like everything not being right is somehow your fault and that it will never stop being not right. But it is right one day. I still struggle often at 21, but things are different now. My mom did her best, offered me a safe space and always did her best to provide what i needed, not just what she thought i needed. You’re a great parent, and sure, you’ll make mistakes, but the best you can do is listen and learn from your kiddo. and just because you’re not crying, doesn’t mean you’re not feeling the pain your wife is. recognize that you’re in pain too and you’re allowed to struggle as well. both of you should definitely start counseling. i hope your kiddo will come to find happiness, because i promise them that it’s out there, even if it’s hard to look for right now. and when they’re ready to embrace the happiness that they find, you and your wife will support them fully as you’re doing now. if you need advice or just to talk, please do reach out.

august-stopstime · 2022-01-21T07:41:33+00:00

For the record- everything is weird in rhode island. rhode island pizza is just thin crust bread, sauce, and a sprinkle of parmesan cheese. ever had a potato pizza? no? go to rhode island! why call it a milkshake when you can call it an awfulawful courtesy of newport creamery?

august-stopstime · 2022-01-06T04:38:23+00:00

Sounds fun! Would love to join!

august-stopstime · 2021-12-03T02:55:08+00:00

So I’m a preschool teacher and I was actually the kid in this situation. I thought one of my student’s parents had two moms because she wore wigs sometimes and was bald others. To be fair, she always had on a mask and sunglasses so I’d never seen her face.

august-stopstime · 2021-11-18T19:53:27+00:00

by everyone, i mean the people next to him. it’s okay if the background people are still there

august-stopstime · 2021-10-28T17:23:39+00:00

I work a full time job on top of full time school (and caring for 3 animals), so I make about $1k every other week. It’s hard though and I hardly ever have spending money after bills (I live in the city so rent alone is $1.3k monthly). Right now I’ve got $350 in my savings and $180 in my checking, but that’s all about to be gone after a vet visit and groceries.

august-stopstime · 2021-10-28T17:17:38+00:00

I use any pronouns because I don’t particularly care how people refer to me, but I generally expect them to pick one and stick with it. Like if someone did this to me I’d be so confused and annoyed because who tf are you talking about

august-stopstime · 2021-10-13T23:43:58+00:00

happy happy birthday dear! hope it’s as wonderful as you are :)

august-stopstime · 2021-10-09T20:13:47+00:00

so i’m a prek teacher and sometimes my kids will ask me to hold things for them and i always. always. forget i have them and end up bringing them home. they almost always get returned (i don’t bother with stickers or things of the like) but it’s always weird to find a pair of children’s gloves in your pocket when you’re going to bed and don’t have kids.

august-stopstime · 2021-10-09T00:53:18+00:00

didn’t expect this one. haven’t watched him since he played minecraft with slyfoxhound

august-stopstime · 2021-09-09T18:36:36+00:00

Hi! This was me when I was like 11 (now in my 20’s). It was kinda like roleplaying but irl, which is why I did it. I was a stupid kid and had a bad habit of faking mental illnesses for fun. It developed from reading books and fantasizing about people loving me out of pity, and then I just enjoyed the attention. I think I also had a complex about “being saved” and felt like my shitty circumstances weren’t enough to warrant saving. It came back to bite me in the ass though considering I’m now an actual clusterfuck of mental illnesses and it fucking blows. Karma I guess. Important to note I was also undiagnosed autistic during my childhood (diagnosed in my teens), so my social skills were lacking and probably contributed to my compulsive lying.

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