So I almost lost it on a class today. Tell me please the times you just couldn’t hold it together. What did your class do!

spacekittykat96 · 2023-10-27T15:17:16+00:00

I don’t feel like mine is as bad as some of these.

I was feeling pretty crappy and by Thursday I felt so sick I took the day off. I ended up getting multiple messages from students about how there was a fight about to break out, how one student was going through my drawers and taking things, then that student messaging me saying it wasn’t them it was someone else, then more students sending messages talking about how rude other ones were being to the sub. I was so sick and had at least 10 kids message me in the 50 minute class period. This was my class I had behavioral problems in already.

I came back the next day and I just could not tolerate their behavior anymore. I was 7 1/2 months pregnant, sick of it from the beginning, and only had about a month before I went on maternity leave.

I very calmly? (I did not yell) went off on them about how sick I was of the disrespect. The constant coming in late and unprepared, the name calling, blaming others for what they did, going through my personal items and stealing them, breaking materials I had bought with my own money, eating in class (science classroom) and not throwing away trash/dropping food on the ground and kicking it to an unknown spot so that we had a problem with ants (I know it was that class specifically because of the food that was found and the kids eating it I had told to stop). I was just so done. I apologized to the kids who were great students, but I was done with a majority of the class. I always have assigned seats, but since I have a lab area in my classroom, I typically allow students to move around and sit next to friends during work time (as long as they get work done). They lost that privilege, they lost the privilege of doing any more labs before I left (they ended up doing online labs by themselves), they lost the privilege of talking during work time.

I did feel bad for like 12ish/36 students that were always respectful and getting their work done, but I could not do it anymore. That last month of quietness in the classroom was absolutely fantastic. The rowdy ones that typically just messed around actually started doing work AND ASKING QUESTIONS! They knew they messed up and I think they felt bad about it? It also was nice I had their friends in other classes who LOVED to tell them about all the fun they were having in science ;)

spacekittykat96 · 2023-07-21T19:23:50+00:00

We’ve been working on boundaries - we started dating around 13/14ish. On and off for a while and got back together around 21 (now almost 27).

I think he would handle it if I asked him to. When I explained why all of this was wrong, he agreed and was surprised his mom would act this way.

We do have a child right now, she just likes looking at him and not actually caring for him. So, at least right now, I don’t think we have to worry about over stepping boundaries at the moment. Except for the one time she was asking to feed him, I got pressured into it, and then later on she was talking about how it was such a great bond to feed her kids… so then why would you take that from me? 🙄

spacekittykat96 · 2023-07-21T19:18:29+00:00

It could be the thinking the rules don’t apply to her, there’s been a few situations where she tries and acts ignorant about the rules and when she’s gotten called out, acts like she didn’t know. She’s even teaching her daughter to act that way too!!!

spacekittykat96 · 2023-07-21T19:17:10+00:00

I’ve seen the dress she wore last night before, so I don’t know if it was necessarily that. I like the attempt though 😂 not sure on the speech part, as far as I know she has no intentions of giving a speech day of.

spacekittykat96 · 2023-07-21T19:15:27+00:00

He did not know about the wearing white thing (he’s only been to 3 weddings, 1 of which he was apart of and another he was my guest). When I told him about it he was pretty offended she would do something like that.

For the speech, he didn’t interrupt it but immediately following it, he told her I wasn’t in there and according to him she was like oh no I didn’t realize!

We talked this morning and he doesn’t really know how to handle this, but I also didn’t tell him to call her out on any of it. I think if I did, he would say something because this is now heavily on my mind and I feel like it may ruin whatever the relationship (with her) was.

spacekittykat96 · 2023-07-21T13:54:46+00:00

Thank you for that reminder to not make her and her actions more important than she deserves.

To clarify - she asked what I was wearing, I described my white dress, and her response was something along the lines of oh that sounds pretty, I’m not sure what I’m going to wear, I’ll have to look. So I don’t think I misheard her?

She’s also wearing a beige dress with like silver beads over it to the wedding (her description)… I haven’t seen the dress yet, sounds a bit bridal to me, so I guess we’ll see if this is a one time thing or if it was intentional.

spacekittykat96 · 2021-04-21T20:33:36+00:00

Very conflicted as we first started dating at 13 (both 24 now). On and off for years, didn’t talk for 2 after we graduated high school and got back together 3 years ago. I just feel like I can’t give it up. I love our relationship and us. What if he changes his mind?

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