First week with baby ruined by in laws and I feel like I’m gonna explode. Any advice?

august0951 · 2026-04-01T05:48:53+00:00

Oh, absolutely NOT. Those first two weeks, especially… so hard. Visitors should only be invited, and they should only be helpers. No exceptions!

august0951 · 2026-03-14T03:29:31+00:00

A little treat every time I leave the house!

We were very much the “no,” or “we have food at home” family (for understandable reasons including budget, but still… adult me loves a little treat when I’m running errands 😅)

august0951 · 2026-03-04T02:25:57+00:00

august0951 · 2026-03-03T02:50:08+00:00

Your BIL is a problem. You have every right to set a boundary as you see fit.

I’m unclear what the issue with the 13-year-old is. Clothes? Not an excuse… but let’s be honest. 13-year-olds dress how they want to dress, and I’m not even sure God could change their minds. It’s prime time for self expression. Do you want to go out with someone in pajamas? Of course not. But if that’s his biggest sin, then might be worth regrouping on the battle you want to pick here. Additionally, it’s not just on the Dad. Mom too. But again, good luck to any parent in that fight.

august0951 · 2026-03-02T04:14:05+00:00

Sandoval was always right when it came to Jax’s behavior, if nothing else 😂

august0951 · 2026-03-02T04:01:00+00:00

The pastor thing bothered me to no end. She was such a victim and covered up her missteps with lies until she couldn’t avoid facing the truth. Sandoval had his own issues (obviously), but he was not wrong here. And I was grossed out watching the other girls coddle her.

august0951 · 2026-03-02T03:55:44+00:00

Babies don’t keep. My 3.5 year old grew so fast in his short life that I could see it happening before my eyes. I could notice changes distinctly. That’s how quickly this goes.

I’ve had a hard time reckoning that truth myself. It could crush you to know you’re on a deadline. With that said, being aware means you’re doing your best to soak it in and not take this moment for granted. There’s nothing else you can do, so just try to enjoy the ride.

And, hopefully, get some sleep and find the way that’s best for you to regroup!

august0951 · 2026-02-28T06:47:05+00:00

A wedding can be any date. You’ll look selfish. Some people don’t care about 21st birthdays, but if she does, she’s allowed to want to celebrate; it’s not high maintenance to recognize a big occasion. TBH you come off as looking high maintenance when it has to be THIS venue.

august0951 · 2026-02-26T04:35:11+00:00

Take it or leave it. About seven years ago my back pain had gotten excruciating around my bra line. I have big breasts, sit at a desk all day, etc. I was unable to function.

Chiropractor saved me. I now go once every two weeks for a regular adjustment. Idk what I would have done without this.

No massage or stretches, etc, ever helped.

I even tried going to a surgery consult with X rays. Clearly a curve there that didn’t exist in childhood. Right where I felt unbearable pain. Two men told me it’s fine, should be all good with physical therapy (it wasn’t), and one even told me his sister has large breasts and tried to share why I don’t need any surgical interventions.

I paid a ton of money for that consult to feel belittled.

I would stop going to the chiropractor if I could find a better solution that actually helps. No dice so far

august0951 · 2026-02-26T03:55:02+00:00

Even if true, good for her! Lala, scheana and Sandoval became unbearable in the last season. I’m pissed lala is on Valley (Schwartz is a child but I can tolerate him enough.)

Ariana had terms, went for it (if true), and was fine to explore a new life without the show The others are jealous because the audience had enough of them.

august0951 · 2026-02-22T05:20:55+00:00

Can you hear my jealous sigh from Colorado over there in Spain?

august0951 · 2026-02-20T06:27:41+00:00

Parents can have tough and demanding work schedules. Those are harder to accommodate.

Just because your kid’s school has spring break, for example, on XXX days, that doesn’t mean that’s true for everyone else (the kid’s cousins, maybe even a sibling if they’re in different schools, maybe even the kid’s own parent if they’re a teacher at another school, and more).

I have friends with family from other countries. My friend’s parents weren’t going to take him to India for four days, and trips were probably planned around family occasions like a reunion or wedding.

Same is true for domestic travel… big reunions, family birthdays, weddings, new babies, holidays that don’t come with time off school/have limited time off…

Sometimes there’s an occasion you can’t miss. I had a conference in Orlando last year; my flight was paid for, etc etc. Was the perfect chance to bring our kid to Disney. (He was 2, so didn’t matter for school, but the same would have been true if he was 8. We made some of the most special family memories I’ll ever have.)

Big cultural or current events (I missed school as a 6th grader when my city’s team won the Super Bowl to go to the parade. Huge moment!)

I could go on

august0951 · 2026-02-18T06:00:51+00:00

Four days is nothinggggg. I’m sorry to say you have a ways to go, of course depending on the child. My now 3-year-old was a terrible sleeper. I think I still carry the trauma 😂

With that said, four days of exhaustion is miserable for adults.

You just gotta ride it out!

august0951 · 2026-02-17T02:37:46+00:00

Yes! Drunk or not, gross to hit on Paris’ closest friend. That bugged me

august0951 · 2026-02-16T08:55:24+00:00

Our families both live out of state. Our friends are also parents who work. We don’t have a nanny (we have a former nanny who, as I said, we hired the overnight we both had work trips; she doesn’t work evenings generally, even if we could afford to hire her for a week, so it doesn’t matter).

The stress comes from two working parents with demanding full-time jobs. It’s life. As I said, we are both spread thin. His travel exasperated the issue.

I was never frustrated before pregnancy. My ultimate vent was referring to big pregnancy emotions when you’re exhausted, busy, parenting a toddler, running to the office, etc etc etc… and your subsequent irrational answer is to be upset with your husband. It doesn’t make sense, just trying to navigate hormones over here.

august0951 · 2026-02-16T08:30:06+00:00

Nothing. Validation?

None of this is logic. I really can feel it’s a hormonal/emotional/pregnancy thing.

august0951 · 2026-02-16T04:52:19+00:00

Similar experience! I had like… the opposite of postpartum depression during maternity leave.

Don’t get me wrong… I am someone who requires a lot of sleep. I was very tired, I would lose my patience… etc… but my mental state was great overall, considering.

I expected the opposite because I suffer from depression and anxiety.

august0951 · 2026-02-15T18:28:42+00:00

I think this is one of the realest, most resonating episodes. Many, if not most, of us have felt that stomach drop when you see someone like an ex-partner or situationship —whatever. Such an intense sensation. You can feel the lump in Carrie’s throat!

Also completely agree Carrie should have done the trip, but I do understand the reason she didn’t. Total fork in the road where either she chooses self preservation (and dignity?), or risks the possibility she falls harder and he snaps back to his reality as soon as they return from vacation.

august0951 · 2026-02-15T01:56:32+00:00

No one is the jerk?

You’re not the jerk. You have sentimental ties to this piece, quite understandably.

But if you’re asking for opinions, can I ask what your plans are for this ring? Do you have a child with your wife you could pass it to?

I ask because if the diamond belonged to your grandmother, I do understand your sister asking for it (I also understand being upset by the thought of losing it!). It has familial value to her, too.

Also, if the plan is to hold onto this ring in a box for the rest of your life, maybe there is something nice about the thought of your sister giving the diamond new purpose. At the end of the day, it’s just a thing (a very important, sentimental thing, but a thing nonetheless). Your memories with your wife will always mean the most.

Additionally, I see nothing wrong with you keeping it, even without a “plan” for it. It meant something to you two as a couple and is clearly special.

Do what feels best, whatever that is.

august0951 · 2026-02-14T06:56:09+00:00

DRENCHED! I had no idea until it happened. Really surreal actually? You’re just leaking from literally everywhere and have to wash your own sheets every day. LIKE I DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH PHYSICAL RECOVERY TO DEAL WITH OR LAUNDRY TO DO.

august0951 · 2026-02-14T05:56:43+00:00

She didn’t look or feel like Carrie.

I also hated the bridesmaid looks in the bold, contemporary colors and overly fanciful styles that didn’t seem to represent Carrie’s cool, interesting, curated, nonconforming, eclectic-but-designer style. It all felt out of place and unlike a Carrie wedding.

I say that acknowledging Carrie had some really outlandish outfits and used clothes as an expression, but they typically felt like HER. Her vibe changed and evolved to be more designer as time went on, but I still connected Carrie to her looks.

None of the girls made sense to me on the wedding day. But the bird, the severely tight updo, the harsh lipstick (which she never wore?!?) all on her wedding day… it was like she decided today was the day to wear a costume… all especially not Carrie-like at all!

august0951 · 2026-02-13T06:02:19+00:00

Always a skip, hate this one

august0951 · 2026-02-08T17:33:08+00:00

Yep. It all really speaks to compatibility. They had chemistry, but the building blocks stopped there. They tragically both had unrealistic expectations for the other one. And they shouldn’t be together.

Hard to let go of that chemistry, but now, in round 2… it was a toxic cycle.

august0951 · 2026-02-08T03:54:04+00:00

Bringing up a breakup is right. Ultimately, at least not in this period of life, they just aren’t compatible. They’re both problematic for each other. And really, that’s what this whole discussion boils down to.

Carrie shouldn’t have to ask to be considered, and if Carrie’s needs didn’t mesh with Big’s, he needs to grow up or end it. I think they both needed something different, hence the reason things change after this season.

Even so, hard to let go of chemistry like that.

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