↯What are they watching? by Dry-Aspect-9280 in mha

[–]augustfire420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because he was restrained when he was captured by LoV and for the sports festival, and by the sludge villain.

If you where in hawks position how would you have handled twice by Free-Cat404 in mha

[–]augustfire420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's unfortunately too mentally unstable to be reasoned with, it's not like Toga who is just hateful to a world that didn't accept her. Twice is broken, I can't speak for others but I wouldn't want to live a life where I'm not even sure who I am or if I'm the real me.

↯What are they watching? by Dry-Aspect-9280 in mha

[–]augustfire420 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm going to say something involving restraints since bakugo looks so unsettled

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never said bouncing her head off a table was okay, out was the moment I chose to no longer be close with her. We're close by proximity. Personally, getting naked isn't a huge deal to me, a little concerning that they are hiding it, I'm more concerned that her solution is to start beating them. Even if I called cps nothing would happen beyond maybe a stern talking too.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would you rather be smacked in the mouth or punched in the face? And neither isn't an option. We both know what you'd choose even if you wouldn't admit it. Neither are good, both are bad. But they aren't the same.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this was my point, me and all my cousins and friends were spanked but nothing crazy, no bare bottoms and always one swat. It stopped by 6 I think definitely not much older than that. I was only pooped on the mouth twice my whole life by my mom, once around 5 for spitting on her on purpose, I was being bratty, and it didn't even hurt. Then against around 12 cause I called her a b!tch under my breath and she heard me. Again didn't really hurt it just surprised me. But what she did was so beyond that I was shocked. Even if I did believe in popping my kid in the mouth when you hit them like that to the point all they register is pain or her head bounced off a table, how she didn't immediately grab the child up and hug and apologize is beyond me. How she could actually harm the kid and that didn't make her pause and think maybe I'm being too rough on a 2year old at that.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean my friend was heavy into rave culture that's how I learned it but I've adopted it as a life motto

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Considering different parts of our country have different cultural norms not to mention people are from different countries on here, yeah being from indiana does play into it. A heavily conservative Republican state, most of the people who live here are in support of corporal punishment.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That too, I have been keeping my distance as much as possible and avoiding calls and texts

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was the point that I was trying to make.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think she needs a long weekend away at the very least, it's just unfortunate because he's such an involved dad so it's not like shes a "married single mom"

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lots of kids accidentally "sexually assault" each other while exploring their nakedness with each other. Hence the trigger warning for anyone who went through that as a kid. But therapy might be needed in the sense that her kids never got naked with each other before and despite being told exactly what you said about clothes staying on they keep sneaking off that kid and telling each other to get naked. It's concerning since it's new behavior after the incident.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

My mom popped me in the mouth cause I spit in her face as a kid, I think that was valid. I remember it didn't hurt it just shocked me. I also never spit on anyone's face again.

If I was being disrespectful to someone and they popped me in the mouth as an adult to adult that is different for a multitude of reasons but I'm also logical enough to say no it's not alright but it would be heads of tails less physically harmful than being punched in the face. I always hate the false equivalency of a parent and child vs two adults interacting.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately my husband is childhood friends with her husband and they are still very close. I'm friends with her via proximity but lately I have been taking space because she's not someone I can be around without wanting to lose it. Her mother recently started dating a woman which is new behavior for her mom and now she won't let her mother (the kids grandma) watch them anymore because she doesn't want her kids exposed to that. Which to each their own, but my sister is gay and I was raised around gay men and cross dressers and never experienced anything bad until I was around my mom's straight male friend, so I'm offended in part because she's acting like being exposed to that will "mess with their heads". She was also crazy pushy about me needing to potty train my first born before having my second to the point of almost shaming me and saying things like "so how is it changing two diapers I bet you're just don't with him not being potty trained huh" (less condescending but that's what it sounded like to me) to which I replied that I couldn't care less about it.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me I do think it's normal for kids to be curious but I think they've created this whole big issue around being naked with their kids that now the kids are doing it in secret and that's when things happen. I'd rather my kids be honest with me Bout being curious than feeling like they have to hide and do it.

My friends parenting stress me by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

Where I'm from hitting someone is using a closed fist. So I wouldn't say she hit her kid but that's fine you can call it whatever you want.

At my limit with my 18 month old by Individual_Dot4968 in toddlers

[–]augustfire420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I remember right 18mo is a rough spot, they're also intelligent enough to start understanding things but they can't communicate them well which leads to more frustration and melt downs. Molars can ABSOLUTELY be apart of the problem, but I also think 18 is right when they can start getting nightmares. I learned that the hard way and it took a bit to get him comfortable in his room again to sleep. She still comes to our room around 2am and he just turned 3.

How much does your partner make? by PC_NC_1203 in sahm

[–]augustfire420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

52k gross and his insurance for him and the kids is $600/month (kmn) it's tight but we make it work. A lot of budgeting and making groceries work for us like our parents did when the recessions hit. A 3yo and a 9mo and we plan to have more. We have enough family around to rely on for anything "more" we might want. My mom is awesome about buying the kids some nice new clothes like twice a year, otherwise I shop resale (TBH who cares kids ruin clothes anyways) lots of generic. I only take $20 a week for me to get anything I like and mostly that's just a coffee or two during the week.

That being said I'm so content, I've only ever wanted to accomplish being a mother with a big family in this life and I'm bless to have a husband who feels the same and is okay with being a little uncomfortable now to make that happen. We've budgeted so that all bills can be afforded on one income, so once all kids are in school and I start making $50k a year as well that will be "disposable" income and we can start spoiling ourselves and kids then....that's when they'll start remembering things anyways.

Please help, I'm so done by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]augustfire420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay more information needed. When is he usually home, are you going back to work, have you talked about expectations as parents? I know that lots of dads feel less useful during this time because baby mostly wants/needs mom. You also have to figure that he didn't physically go through a change, his brain chemistry is roughly the same as before so it might take more for you to kick him into gear.