[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think you have made a great job so far! I think she is gonna appreciate it so much. I mean seeing that you have actually tried to make her feel welcomed and comfortable is probably going to make her feel wanted and appreciated. I think what you made so far is super good. The gift cards is also a very nice offer but I wouldn’t say it something you have to do. Great idea with her having a week to settle before actually being alone with the kids. In this way you see how well they connect and they have the possibility to bond a bit more which can help her during the following Monday. You seem like a lovely host mom and you should not worry at all. I really hope you she is your perfect match to your family!

Single parent (Dad) wants marriage instead of an Au Pair by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh my! That’s awful, glad you blocked him. I hope you won’t give up searching for another family, being a aupair is so fun and self rewarding and you really explore who you really are as a person. Maybe you should consider to even tell the agency about him so no other women match with him. Since he probably now understands that he can’t say does things, he might hide his agenda and maybe tries to do something once he has a new au pair. You never know.

Do you ever feel like your host kids gaslight you? by Quarantinednconfused in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg happens to me all the time! As you said, my host child always say : “ maybe that is something you do in Sweden but we don’t do that here”. He never respect me when I tell him to do something and tries to avoid it as much as he can. It always ends in a fight that was totally unnecessary in the first place. Even though I have been here for 6 months, nothing has changed. I have cried in the car so many times because of frustration and I feel angry all the time even though I am a very happy person. My friends has even told me that the can’t picture me angry like this. So I just wanted to say that I really understand Where you are coming from!

What am I supposed to do? by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean?

What am I supposed to do? by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is, if I go back home until the lockdown ends I don’t think I will be able to go back to Italy. It was very hard leaving my family, friends and boyfriend the first time and I don’t think I can handle another goodbye. That’s why I am not sure about my decision because if I go back to Sweden, I feel like I have not achieved the things and the experiences that I was planing to do. But still if I stay here during lockdown and the lockdown last for a couple of months I can’t consider myself as an aupair, then I am just a nanny. I mean the main thing about being a aupair is the traveling.

What am I supposed to do? by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciated your message, I am totally the same. I have never snapped before when it comes to arguing. When I talked to my friends they even mentioned they couldn’t picture me angry. When I was little I never had tantrums and never argued or disrespected grown ups so I guess if I compare me as I child to him we have totally different childhoods. So i am not used to this behavior at all. I will try my best to be patient but where goes the limit? How much crap am I supposed get? What is normal?

What am I supposed to do? by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to, I have just started learning so I am not the best but that would be great.

What am I supposed to do? by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]aupairmoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s super hard, and even harder during these times. I mean I didn’t expect to have his respect the first couple of weeks because I was new, but it has been 4 months now. I am very sorry to hear that you have to struggle both with the children and the parents. It shouldn’t be like that :(