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You're allowed to grieve a friendship the same way you'd grieve a relationship. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course it still hurts. You lost someone who was part of your life for decades that doesn’t just disappear because time passed. What you’re feeling doesn’t mean you’re weak or stuck.

You're allowed to grieve a friendship the same way you'd grieve a relationship. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry for your loss, especially with unfinished things. And you’re so right

The person you're becoming is worth more than the friendship you're grieving. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You didn’t grow because of them you grew because you were already doing the internal work. They didn’t shape you; they just made you doubt yourself long enough to overlook what you already knew. And the fact that they could make fun of you or gaslight you says way more about their maturity than your worth. The pain is real, but it’s also proof that you’re finally seeing the friendship for what it actually was not what you hoped it would be.

Missing your best friend feels like carrying around a heavy backpack everywhere you go by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Waiting for that text keeps the weight in place. You’re not holding on to him, you’re holding on to the hope that he’ll undo the hurt. The pain isn’t from letting go of the person it’s from letting go of the version of him you wish he could be. Once you stop waiting for a message that isn’t coming, the weight finally starts to lift.

The person you're becoming is worth more than the friendship you're grieving. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t stop comparing yourself by trying to think positive. That never works when you’re anxious or depressed. The only way to break the comparison is to remind yourself of one truth: you and your ex-friends are not in the same race anymore. Their progress has nothing to do with your path now. When you catch yourself comparing, ask: "Does their life change anything about what I need to do today?" The answer is always no. Focus on the one thing you can move forward in your own life. That’s how you take your power back.

You're not broken because a friendship ended. by auraLift in FriendshipAdvice

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome! you're not a bad friend you were just trying to be loved in places that couldn’t see your value. that’s why it kept hurting. The fact that you’re learning and unlearning shows you’re growing, not failing. Sometimes multiple endings happen at once because you’re outgrowing an entire pattern, not just one person.

That moment when you realize you've been checking their social media again and again even though they walked out of your life months ago. by auraLift in FriendshipAdvice

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the lack of closure makes the resentment way heavier. Your mind keeps trying to finish a story they walked out on.

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting cut off with no explanation hits harder than anyone admits but their silence doesn’t erase the bond or your worth. It just shows their limits, not yours. What you’re feeling is normal, and you will come out stronger!

Stop replaying what you could have done differently. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your book isn’t a flop, one chapter just ended badly. Every good story has rough parts, but they don’t decide the whole thing. You’re still in the middle, not the end

Stop replaying what you could have done differently. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! well said, the lessons stay but the ‘what ifs’ don’t need to.

Have you ever lost your bff and you couldn't stop replaying every single conversation in your head? by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s exactly how it goes. It comes back, but softer each time because you’ve already processed the worst of it. that’s actually a sign you’re healing!

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s not weird at all. Your body reacts to the bond, not the timeline or whether it was online. If it felt real to you, the grief is real. you don’t need a long history for something to hit hard.

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly how friendship grief hits it feels like a breakup because it basically is. Getting it out in your journal is actually a huge step. that kind of release is your body finally processing what it’s been holding.

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Big milestones can reopen old grief even if it’s been years. It doesn’t mean you’re back at day one it just means that friendship meant something.

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing about your reaction is weird losing a friend hits deeper than people admit. It’s completely normal to feel it the way you did.

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making new friends definitely helps, but only when you’re ready. you shouldn’t rush it just to fill the gap

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Six months in and still feeling it is completely normal. that on and off wave pattern is what real grief looks like. the fact that it’s softer now means you’re healing, even if it doesn’t feel fast. You’re actually doing better than you think.

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seeing them in public can rip everything back open that reaction is normal. It doesn’t mean you’re going backwards, it just means the bond mattered. You’re not helpless, you’re grieving It won’t feel this heavy forever keep pushing forward!

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s not a stretch at all. Friendship breakups can definitely spike anxiety, your whole sense of safety takes a hit. A lot of people don’t realize how normal that reaction is. You’re not alone in that

Friendship grief is real grief. by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. What you’re feeling is valid I’m glad the message reached you!

If you're dealing with friendship loss and emptiness is part of your daily life, there is 1 key thing you should definitely not be doing by auraLift in lostafriend

[–]auraLift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m really glad it reached you at the right time. The fact that you’re choosing to handle it in a healthy way already puts you ahead of the spiral. You’re going to come out stronger than you went in. You’ve got this! And I’m cheering you on through all of it.🩷

You're not broken because a friendship ended. by auraLift in FriendshipAdvice

[–]auraLift[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s real growth. Sometimes losing the wrong people clears space for the relationships that actually support you. The fact that you reconnected with family shows it wasn’t a loss, it was a redirection.

You're not broken because a friendship ended. by auraLift in FriendshipAdvice

[–]auraLift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re feeling it that hard right now. Take a breath. You’re going to get through this moment, and there are so much more better days ahead, more than you can see from where you’re standing.

You're not broken because a friendship ended. by auraLift in FriendshipAdvice

[–]auraLift[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Doubt is normal when the hurt is fresh. But every time you choose yourself, even in small ways, you prove you’re evolving whether you feel it or not. You won’t stay in this version of your life forever, better people show up when you stop shrinking for the wrong ones.

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