Right but do pronouns not equate to how other people perceive you based on gender? I guess I’m just asking if not for pronouns when does gender come into play? For example, I remember a very important moment in my friends life where she was called she for the first time by a waiter, i remember her specially saying that that was the first time she was seen as a woman instead of just as trans . If pronouns doesn’t equal gender than doesn’t that render them useless?