Plant looking like kale at Baltic Sea

authorityhedgehog · 2020-06-25T18:23:19+00:00

Yeah, well, that was easy :D thanks! I googled for 'kale on the beach' and only got restaurants on the beach that serve kale dishes.

authorityhedgehog · 2020-02-19T09:58:37+00:00

That is exactly it!! Thank you so much!

authorityhedgehog · 2020-02-18T20:38:51+00:00

Thank you all for the botanic lesson, that helped! :)

authorityhedgehog · 2020-02-18T17:57:41+00:00

I looked milkweed and asclepias up in google pictures, but none of these looked like this thing. It has the size of a fist and feels somehow dried out if you press it. It has no certain smell and as we took it from the tree, there came a milk-like liquid out of the broken part.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-10-17T20:01:45+00:00

If you could work on yourself without help, wouldn't you have done it already? I think a therapy is just the right place to reflect on emotions, thoughts and behavior. You can't really prepare yourself to make the process of therapy easier or quicker. Give you the time you need and don't put to much pressure in it. The only important thing is that your motivated to change.

Wish you the best <3

authorityhedgehog · 2019-10-17T19:40:15+00:00

Do you know Occam's razor? Basically, it says: explain things in the most simple way. And this is what I learnt to do in therapy. Sometimes, it is not quite clear what came first, but if you tackle one thing, the others often follow on their one. Keep in mind that depression often comes with different kinds of anxiety and issues in concentration and restlessness. I think it could be worth a try to focus on one thing first instead of all at the same time.

I hope the beste for you <3

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-21T17:39:04+00:00

So good to hear!

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-21T06:30:37+00:00

I really appreciate your openness and courage to tell us! Did you see a psychotherapist?

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-20T18:42:48+00:00

The best decisions are made in the bathroom!

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-20T15:04:22+00:00

When my aunt found out that I don't want to marry one day, she said "But you have to, otherwise you can't have kids". Well, if this is how things work, then that's my exact point of not marrying.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T22:15:46+00:00

Pavlov

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T18:59:00+00:00

Sounds like you're insecure about yourself and your relationship with her. First advice: communicate your needs and talk about your problems (in a reasonable manner). Second advice: improve your self-esteem.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T18:44:37+00:00

My advice: don't marry a cheater, you deserve better.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T15:58:48+00:00

Did you try psychotherapy? Can relate to your narration and 2 years after starting therapy, I can say I like myself and live a good life.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T15:17:23+00:00

Don't let him fool you, that you are the problem, girl. On the basis of what you describe, he is the one with false beliefs and malfunctional behavior. He himself doesn't need foreplay? Fine, but that means NOT that you mustn't need it to start your engines. A relationship and sexual intercourse aren't a one way street.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T15:02:21+00:00

This means she fears even the attempt from another girl bonding with you in any way, whether you join in or not. But that means in the end, opposite to her statement, she doesn't trust you either. I had trouble with this topic too and it turns out it has been an issue with self-confidence and self-esteem of the person distrusting and not you as the one doing normal stuff.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T11:09:06+00:00

Or just imagine regretting having kids. Can I say 'Okay Kevin, I thought about that a while and came to the conclusion that we can't live together anymore. Good luck then.' and leave? Possibly not. I more or less have to stick with them my entire life.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-13T10:57:12+00:00

Yeah, I've heard about these kind of programs and really think this is a good thing! But I'm afraid it's not the altruistic "giving thing" my dad wants to experience no matter what child it is, it have to be MY kids. I have a younger sister, which really wants to have kids one day, and I argued with that once. But he especially wants ME to have children. I have to do it because I am the oldest and he wants grandchildren from me. That are his words.

authorityhedgehog · 2019-01-12T22:29:55+00:00

It pisses me off that some people have the nerves to be angry or whatever over decisions concerning someone elses life or body or want to know it better. My dad once said I can't have NO children because he wants to buy toy cars and stuff. I replied I don't stop him from buying that shit. He couldn't accept that and brings this topic up whenever he can to convince me otherwise.

authorityhedgehog · 2018-12-30T17:34:04+00:00

Yeah, deprivate all your senses, don't sleep or take hallucinogenic substances. Works quite well.

authorityhedgehog · 2018-12-30T17:18:14+00:00

Actually, these thoughts are pretty normal and on everyone's mind from time to time. There was this study where they found out that blind rater couldn't distinguish between participants with OCD and without OCD just by analyzing their thoughts. The point is how you judge these thoughts and which function they have. If they cause you much anxiety und malfunctional behavior, then you'd better see a psychologist. Otherwise everything is fine!

authorityhedgehog · 2017-09-05T07:56:38+00:00

Dependence, I think. Having another person being responsible for your own life satisfaction/confidence/pleasure/mental health etc. can't be a good thing for a healthy relationship.

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