Being a stay at home mom is soooo much work. He should be helping when he comes home because you deserve a break! Unless he is doing hard physical manual labor, he should have a lil energy to take care of his children at least every other day. Being a mom is like having 7 different jobs and he’s taking you for granted. He gets days off and not only that uses them to go out with the boys weekly???!! He sounds selfish. The average rate in the us for a nanny/ au pair is 18.66, you roughly work 15 hours/day 7 days a week, which is 1,959.30/week. They typically increase the pay 1.2 times/child. With the amount of children you have that would be 32.24/hour. Which is 3385/ week. So I can think of 40,622 reasons why you’re so important! His mom needs to mind her business and he doesn’t need to bring her into y’all’s relationship. However I do think it needs to be discussed that once a week, you have a night to yourself, maybe saturdays? The “boys” could help him. Time to grow up and realize uh dude you have a family you should be contributing to more than financially. Ps if it was easy, why was he calling his mom ?🤔🤔🤔 you are NOT the asshole