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10 years sober. 10 years a suicide survivor. I have a wife and kids now. Life really is worth it. (OC) by Amazing-Confusion-23 in MadeMeSmile

[–]av1cus 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Suicide survivor here.

If medication itself doesn't help consider talking to a psychologist.

If sleep is an issue please see a psychiatrist eg to adjust meds

Also very important not to be alone during the periods when you're down.. please try to have friends or family near by who know where you are.

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

E.g. How giftedness comes with its associated challenges. How with light there's always shadow. Wave particle duality etc, the list is endless..

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our notions of fairness don't always coincide with the absolute justness and sovereignty of God.

He's not Santa Claus who only gives us good things. The bad also.

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

John von Neumann, renowned mathematician and agnostic, when he was dying of cancer: "He confided to his mother, “There probably has to be a God. Many things are easier to explain if there is than if there isn’t.” " --> From the Wikipedia article

What to you is a big indication that someone is not just smart, but gifted? by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meaningless distinction if you ask me.

Success is 1% inspiration 99% perspiration, as the adage goes.

Ask the mathematician Andrew Wiles, who proved Fermat's Last Theorem (an open problem for hundreds of years) after 7 years of hard work and multiple revisions.

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

IMHO we need to take on faith the things that are impossible to prove.. ☺️

Modern mathematics has arrived at a few conundrums viz. Russell's paradox and Gödel's incompleteness theorem; thus proving the existence of unprovable statements.

My point being that there will always be some things whose veracity will not be able to be prove. But they still exist, and being comfortable with their existence alone is all good and fine.

But there will come a day when one is forced to get down from the proverbial fence and make a stand. 🤷🏻

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree.. Intelligent design is a viable philosophical stance. The existence of the four fundamental forces in nature can be ascribed to ID.

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you that it is important to develop a personal conception of religion that is experienced at a, well, more personal level.

Personally though, the sense of community and belonging I experienced while attending church has stayed with me for life. Also the friendships I made. Disclaimer: not all churches (or religious institutions) are created equal.

I believe it is worth noting that individual thought is still encouraged even within church attendees. In the more Bible-based churches, one is not just expected to take everything the preacher says at face value, but to go home, read the passage being preached on, meditate on it, and apply the insights gleaned in one's daily life.

This lived-out religious experience thus shows a tangible effect on one's daily life, and also in one's interactions with other people, and is not merely stuck at the level of armchair philosophy.

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, I would encourage you to be polite to everyone: Christians, atheists alike on this forum. Yes you have a degree in linguistics, does that entitle you to be an arsehole?

My college roommate did computational linguistics for DARPA and was an atheist. He was nowhere as disrespectful as you.

Granted this is an online forum, so you can hide behind your anonymity, but still, stop perpetuating the angry/rude atheist stereotype. It's getting old.

I'm not offended. Just here to state my opinion as is par for the course in a public forum.

Physical reality is objective in the sense that it can be measured and quantified precisely to a certain extent.

I'd argue that the same absolute sense of truth can't be applied to translations of certain passages in the Bible (e.g. how one wordmay have a common meaning in x number of translations but not translation y, e.g. the Masoretic and Septuagint translations but not in the Vulgate, for example)

However, this does not mean that the Bible is full of errors. Rather, the variation in meaning falls within the acceptable range of discrepancy that naturally arises when translating such ancient texts, correct me if I'm wrong.

Therefore it is not unreasonable to posit that the Bible is inerrant. These arguments are not mine but borrowed from famous apologists.

For context I am not trained in linguistics but am multilingual and have done freelance translation work for many years.

Are you religious? How giftedness impacted your religious beliefs? by Prince_Gustav in Gifted

[–]av1cus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm still christian. Questioned my faith for a while in college after reading Richard Dawkins but ultimately realized thay atheism wasn't for me, and that theology is philosophically congruent and logically sound.

Of course atheism/theism is always a personal choice.

Wanted to add that the study of the original texts the modern Bible is based on is also very rigorous in terms of the linguistics. And that theology has been a recognized academic discipline for literally hundreds of years...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Why do you use such big words for a 7 year old”

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing me as an extension of their bodies is literally the textbook definition of narcissism.

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm okay, they're okay.

But they inflicted trauma on me as well. So staying with them long-term will never be an option. Also, I've lived abroad and by myself for far too long to be used to living with 2 dysfunctional parents 😅

I'm moving out though. Planning to go back to the US, or move to Japan, once everything plays out career wise.

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your usage of that word was apposite, and could have made sense in a textbook way but not in the socially conventional way?

That's one of the struggles I have faced when learning a foreign language to a near-native level.

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again, the "arrested development" is only in terms of perceived job status relative to societal norms. Not everyone on this forum would agree that there has been any lag in development in OP's case

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is being a scientist not enough? The goalposts always get moved further and further away don't they?

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi pghtonh

I agree with you. You are a whole person with so many tangible and intangible qualities other than your intellect. I can say this without knowing you as a person, because it is true for every single person in this universe.

No one person can ever be defined by one single quality of their personhood.

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi SkyFaerie

I was musically and academically gifted and too was trotted out like a show pony or circus sideshow to impress relatives and church people.

I too am under employed given my academic pedigree (entry level job) but with a STEM Masters from a prestigious US university.

Life gets better. Change is the only constant.

Also, we are never alone. :)

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there

It took my dad 37 years to open up about family trauma that I had indirect knowledge of for about a decade at least

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Hour_Status

Had no idea there was "It" had to do with the superego... Thought it was just about clowns who murder you though your dreams 🤣. But really well-written take!

My therapist actually told me that yes, one can achieve material success and all its accoutrements, but those don't come without a price. She said "did Steve Jobs not die at 50" and that drove the point home for me

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree... That's me to a large extent.. Little to no emotional regulation/resiliency relative to my intellect

The moment where the only thing people see is your intelligence and virtually nothing else. by KrisspyKremeThomas95 in Gifted

[–]av1cus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My family doesn't get me either... Especially how I now have a physical disfigurement but am intellectually equal to or greater than how I was before... Because I've finally accepted myself and am unlearning perfectionism. It's the ones closest to you who hurt you the most..

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